ms_kenesha
New Member
Hey SG,
Okay, if the issue is about her making an unalterable decision to her hair versus making her straight via heat. Then it takes on a little different spin. I like you would tell her to try pressing her hair for a while and see what kind of reactions she gets from men. And if she is really totally opposed to chemically straightening her hair this might be a good decision for her. But, even with just pressing her hair she runs the risk of ruining her natural hair texture and eventually having "heat-laxed" hair all over or just in some areas.
I think that your idea of introducing her to men that are what she likes (corporate) and are into what she is (natural) is a GREAT one! Tell her to hold her horses the perm will still be there. Dana (from this board) wouldn't tell me where I should go to get a relaxer until I thought about it & I thank her for being a great friend and making me wait and think a little longer, although I'd been thinking about it for a couple of weeks before I told her about my decision. You are being a great friend by trying to get her to see the beauty inside and by trying to introduce her to men who would like her style. But, she must be very frustrated to have been natural ALL HER LIFE to now want to do something as drastic as get a relaxer to meet the type of man that she wants, maybe she does feel like this is her last resort. :ahwell:
Okay, if the issue is about her making an unalterable decision to her hair versus making her straight via heat. Then it takes on a little different spin. I like you would tell her to try pressing her hair for a while and see what kind of reactions she gets from men. And if she is really totally opposed to chemically straightening her hair this might be a good decision for her. But, even with just pressing her hair she runs the risk of ruining her natural hair texture and eventually having "heat-laxed" hair all over or just in some areas.
I think that your idea of introducing her to men that are what she likes (corporate) and are into what she is (natural) is a GREAT one! Tell her to hold her horses the perm will still be there. Dana (from this board) wouldn't tell me where I should go to get a relaxer until I thought about it & I thank her for being a great friend and making me wait and think a little longer, although I'd been thinking about it for a couple of weeks before I told her about my decision. You are being a great friend by trying to get her to see the beauty inside and by trying to introduce her to men who would like her style. But, she must be very frustrated to have been natural ALL HER LIFE to now want to do something as drastic as get a relaxer to meet the type of man that she wants, maybe she does feel like this is her last resort. :ahwell:
SouthernGirl said:Hey MsK,
I was hoping you'd weigh in , and I do agree about societal influences.