MonPetite
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I'm starting to ponder this.
In October I will have spent a year knowing nothing but my napps having cut of 14" of silky relaxed hair to do so. Do I miss this length, heck yes. Did I need the emotional journey to let go of baggage? Heck, yes. Would I do it again? (A less enthusiastic) Yes.
I have to wonder though, seeing my hair this way without the 4a/3c curls GLOBS of conditioner left in can bring that everyone is halfway supportive of...sort of....Could it REALLY be my hair doesn't flatter me? The idea boggles my mind.
My fotki has pics of me relaxed, texlaxed, and natural and honestly...I miss how I looked with 1b-2a Wash and Wear hair flowing in the wind.
It could be because that is how it has ALWAYS been and this is the first year my hair has been anything else, so I realize I may be wanting the familiar. Plus the whole European Beauty idea blah-blah-blah.
Still...I see many "dishwater blondes" that look FAR better a dark brunette or true blond. I see MANY brunettes who look better auburn or "brond". I've seen true platinum blondes that look SO much better as a redhead.
I have honestly seen some pics of folks with natural hair whose faces are not best flattered by a TWA. Though that may be an issue of length not texture in relation to head size and shape.
I'm willing to accept I'm one of them.
If I am...I will go running back to nearly bone straight hair so fast it's not funny. My hair grows regardless.
I BCed because I WAS one of those women who relaxed to apologize to society for my naps.
I DID think natural hair as it is NOW on my OWN head was disgusting.
I had learned over the years being able to pass the "paper bag test" by a wide margin and having "growing hair" meant I should keep it straight from unspoken messages passed down to me as a child.
I needed to let go of that foolishness and know that my hair good or "bad" did not make me. I'm so glad I did!!
That over and done....I'm thinking about style and what would make ME happy (read: look best). Which is why I'm seriously wondering:
Are they right?
I like myself all three ways: relaxed, texlaxed, natural. Now that I can appreciate my natural hair AND relaxed hair and it's TRULY just a matter of style...I want to do what LOOKS best.
Make no mistake about it: I like long hair. Always had it and when my TWA grows out...always will. I won't be BCing again. What I go with in October will be how I pursue my terminal length goal of hiplength.
So...can it be possible that your natural texture DOESN'T suit you?
It happens with hair color...can texture be this way too?
ETA: To avoid sounding whiny and because some of the negative vibes were explained to me and I have a better POV of those around me in relation to my hair. Although my snarky side wonders why MY head is so important to those around me. My wiser side says to give a little to gain much from those I love in return.
In October I will have spent a year knowing nothing but my napps having cut of 14" of silky relaxed hair to do so. Do I miss this length, heck yes. Did I need the emotional journey to let go of baggage? Heck, yes. Would I do it again? (A less enthusiastic) Yes.
I have to wonder though, seeing my hair this way without the 4a/3c curls GLOBS of conditioner left in can bring that everyone is halfway supportive of...sort of....Could it REALLY be my hair doesn't flatter me? The idea boggles my mind.
My fotki has pics of me relaxed, texlaxed, and natural and honestly...I miss how I looked with 1b-2a Wash and Wear hair flowing in the wind.
It could be because that is how it has ALWAYS been and this is the first year my hair has been anything else, so I realize I may be wanting the familiar. Plus the whole European Beauty idea blah-blah-blah.
Still...I see many "dishwater blondes" that look FAR better a dark brunette or true blond. I see MANY brunettes who look better auburn or "brond". I've seen true platinum blondes that look SO much better as a redhead.
I have honestly seen some pics of folks with natural hair whose faces are not best flattered by a TWA. Though that may be an issue of length not texture in relation to head size and shape.
I'm willing to accept I'm one of them.
If I am...I will go running back to nearly bone straight hair so fast it's not funny. My hair grows regardless.
I BCed because I WAS one of those women who relaxed to apologize to society for my naps.
I DID think natural hair as it is NOW on my OWN head was disgusting.
I had learned over the years being able to pass the "paper bag test" by a wide margin and having "growing hair" meant I should keep it straight from unspoken messages passed down to me as a child.
I needed to let go of that foolishness and know that my hair good or "bad" did not make me. I'm so glad I did!!
That over and done....I'm thinking about style and what would make ME happy (read: look best). Which is why I'm seriously wondering:
Are they right?
I like myself all three ways: relaxed, texlaxed, natural. Now that I can appreciate my natural hair AND relaxed hair and it's TRULY just a matter of style...I want to do what LOOKS best.
Make no mistake about it: I like long hair. Always had it and when my TWA grows out...always will. I won't be BCing again. What I go with in October will be how I pursue my terminal length goal of hiplength.
So...can it be possible that your natural texture DOESN'T suit you?
It happens with hair color...can texture be this way too?
ETA: To avoid sounding whiny and because some of the negative vibes were explained to me and I have a better POV of those around me in relation to my hair. Although my snarky side wonders why MY head is so important to those around me. My wiser side says to give a little to gain much from those I love in return.
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