LiftedUp
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She has always been supported by her wealthy father, and I guess her husband picked up on this.
My friend's father has always told us, "never marry a man who is not accustomed to your type of lifestyle".
She has always been supported by her wealthy father, and I guess her husband picked up on this.
This isn't even worth a thread , but I am just shocked. A friendd of mine confided in me that she is more broke now as a married woman, then she was as a single woman. They used all her savings to cover her sons medical bills and the husband works and goes to school. They are barely surviving and the husband has put the whole family on a very strict budget.
I am wondering how common her situation is.
So her son's medical bills are actually her medical bills from when she had her son? And, the husband is not just "going to school" but working on a Ph.D that would be very beneficial to his family and their financial situation, correct? Plus, she knew he was an immigrant with no money when she married him, right? Oh, and after SHE went to Kenya to marry him she feels that he used her to come to the US? Didn't SHE go to Kenya and bring him to the US?
So what's the problem again? Sounds like she knew what she was getting herself into. The extra "tea" OP added later on in the thread just solidifies my opinion on this situation-that's-not-really-a-situation kinda situation.
I knew there was more to the story. And there is even more to this story. We are slowly being led down the yellow brick road.
Without more background I can't suggest that he drop out of school. It sounds like she wants to go shopping and he put them on a budget. If all of their critical expenses are paid, then stick to the budget until you come out the other side. If his completing school will bring in more income, tighten your belt for the short term.
I didn't want to make her sound bad butL
1.) She went to Kenya and married her husband and brought him to the US
2.) She comes from a well to do family
3.) Husband did not have any savings or money and they were living off of her savings, and his school/teaching stipend
4.) Husband is resentful that she comes from money ( her words, not mine) hence the very strict budget.
5.) She thinks he used her to come to the US and is money being controlling.
6.) She is used to having nice things, enjoying life and having discretionary income. Husband is watching her and their money like a hawk. The money used to cover the sons medical bills came from her savings and none of his money were touched.
7.) The medical bills were from the hospital when she gave birth. The son is not sick, those were her hosipital and labor bills.
She was working, but for the sake of day care expenses and child rearing they decided that she would quit her job and stay at home for awhile. She got her Masters from a top Ivy league school, and he is now pursuing his PH.D. She put her education on hold so that they could move for his schooling ( she got accepted into a PH.D program too ) Honestly she has never really worked a real job to support herself. She has always been supported by her wealthy father, and I guess her husband picked up on this. I was just shocked to hear her story as she has always been the one that had it together .
I didn't want to make her sound bad butL
1.) She went to Kenya and married her husband and brought him to the US
2.) She comes from a well to do family
3.) Husband did not have any savings or money and they were living off of her savings, and his school/teaching stipend
4.) Husband is resentful that she comes from money ( her words, not mine) hence the very strict budget.
5.) She thinks he used her to come to the US and is money being controlling.
6.) She is used to having nice things, enjoying life and having discretionary income. Husband is watching her and their money like a hawk. The money used to cover the sons medical bills came from her savings and none of his money were touched.
7.) The medical bills were from the hospital when she gave birth. The son is not sick, those were her hosipital and labor bills.
if she's from money, instead of whining to you perhaps she should be talking to her monied parents to help tide them over
Oh pshhh... they'll be aight.
Exactly lol they'll be okay
She will be ok.
I know someone who did pretty well and his only daughter was treated like crap.
She has a husband. Why should her parents help tide them over? That's her husband's job. It seems to me as though her husband is unable to afford to help his family or wants her to struggle.
She needs to grow up and suck it up. If she wanted a different lifestyle she should have not married him. Plus this is a short term affair. Once he graduates and works full time things will improve.
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She has a husband. Why should her parents help tide them over? That's her husband's job. It seems to me as though her husband is unable to afford to help his family or wants her to struggle.