I'm 33(at the end of this month) and I'm still a virgin. I never intended to be this old and unmarried. I'm an old 33 year old maid.
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Yall do know that it's all down hill after 32.
No but seriously. I'm glad your niece is on the right path. Jay Seculo was recently speaking on this topic on his show. He and a guest speaker made some good points about Christians living life like the world but with Christian principles. One of the problems in the church is people waiting too long for marriage. No you don't get married just to have sex but we have fallen into the trap of the world. We tell young people not to get married at 20 because they are too immature. Well there's a new problem right there. Why aren't we requiring more maturity from our young people.
We tell them they can't commit at a young age. Why? Because they will change their mind and get divorced. Well here's a newsflash. YOUR MIND WILL BE CHANGING THROUGH OUT YOUR LIFE. IT'S NO REASON FOR DIVORCE AND WE SHOULD NOT PUT THAT IN THEIR HEADS.
I agree somewhat with the poster that said it's not natural or something along those lines. Yep, I'm not doing something totally natural. I want sex. I want lots of it. But i want God more. Although there is a reason that the very mother of Christ was around 15 when she had him. When men and women started maturing society didn't tell them to go out and get their freak on and "try" each other out. They know in biblical times that it their sexuality was a vital part of them and there was only ONE way to PROPERLY handle that. Marriage.
I must say also in biblical times there wasn't this emphasis on googly eyed love and romance. Sure it was around but today we seem to have it all backwards. We wait until someone comes along who has us tiptoeing through the frickin' tulips. And then we wonder why all these yound black women are running around with three and four kids by tyrone and 'nem. These women were not just sex obsessed nymphos. Someone got their heart thumping and they made stupid decisions.
I personally think we need to start preparing our Christian youth for marriage earlier. Prepare men to be men and realise that they need to step up and be qualified to lead and support a household. Prepare the men and women to think with their brains.
Men need to learn the same women who look good walking around the block getting stared down by the men may very well be the same woman who will leave your son at her mothers house every chance she gets so she can run around with her girlfriends. And forget about a home cooked men cause she can't cook worth a flying fig.
Women need to learn mister saggy pants and timbs may be a good time now but he is not going to suddenly man up and open a can of act right when it's time to make a home. Which is what our black babies so desperately need now. And hounding him for child support is going to be your new hobby if you choose with your heart and your hormones what looks good now.
This may seem old fashioned to some but please remember the black community has always been in the sorry state we are in now.
It bothers me that some may see something wrong with two people who are not "in love" getting married because they make a decision to come together for physical comfort (yeah I said it) financial security and all the other comforts and benefits of marriage and let love come as the marriage grows. But see nothing wrong with "trying" someone out like they are a new car.
P.S.
Any "christian" man who is surprised that your niece is not sexually active is like someone telling me they are a muslim and eat ham sandwhiches regularly and they totally agree that Jesus is the Son of God. They would get the "so called muslim" title from me just like I will slap a "so called christian" title on some of these suspect folks.