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Bubblingbrownshuga

Bubblingbrownshuga

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someone stated your hair was just as soft, thick, and healthy like women from India? What about if they stated your hair reminded them of an Asians? It's obvious that most get offended when someone states that their hair reminds them of white ladies' hair ( and I assume many get offended b/c of the hx/and present of us having to endure everything white being placed on a pedestal), but I just wonder if we dislike our hair being compared to other races.
 
I wouldn't be offended in the least if someone told my hair was just a soft, healthy and thick as yours!!! :grin: Yeah, yeah...I know that wasn't the question. But I answered the question in a round about way. :grin:
 
I would be oiffended but, pretty used it it. Even I have said some stupid stuff in my baby years (pre-LHCF). Although, I've always found the analogy to be silly, because black people easily have the same amount of sheen and health as other races when it comes to hair. I would use it as opportunity to educate.
 
I dunno...I get offended when people try to tell me I must be mixed though. Like I can't have long hair if I'm just...Black. That really irks me. -Especially when it's people who've known me for a long time. :wallbash:
 
Hmm, you make an interesting point. And no, I wouldn't be offended with one of those analogies.
 
I'm not offended when someone compares my hair to other races, just annoyed lol. Now I do get a little offended when someone touches my hair and says "it's sooo soft" in a surprised tone. My roommate (yes she's black) did this the other day and I asked her what was it supposed to feel like. :perplexed It was just the way she said it that caught me off guard.
 
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I wouldn't be offended but I would tell them that Black hair can be soft also. I would tell them that my hair was relaxed. If I were natural, it would prove the point without me saying it. I have educated a few people like this during the last time I was natural.
 
offended, no but my head wouldn't be all blown up as if it were a compliment either.

i guess i'm just an old evil ***** :perplexed:grin:
 
Bubblin',

Did this happen to you and in what context? I know that you recently got your hair straightened. If I were in your shoes and someone who has known me all along was all of a sudden saying this now that I am wearing my hair straight for a few days, I might be a little perturbed. I would take that as them saying "oh now that your hair is straight, it's pretty like x, y, and z types of women."

However, if I just jumped to a big conclusion and the way I described above is not the case at all, I guess it wouldn't bother me.
 
I don't get offended when people make uneducated/uniformed comments. Even if they think it's a compliment, I basically ignore them. I also wouldn't be flattered or happy either.
 
If it is just a comparison to pretty hair then no I would not be offended. I think that beautiful hair is beautiful hair. But if it was an offhanded put down on black women's hair by complimenting then yes I would take offense.

A WL at work told me one day that "my hair did not look like the rest of them," I said WHAT? She then said that my hair looked normal, you know like ours." I let her know that I AM THEM! and that that sh_t is NOT a compliment.

Being raised in the South (GO G.R.I.T.S!) when I was a little girl, we were constantly teased by WG about our hair. They would get in our faces and taunt and fling thier hair and make fun of all our bows. I can see why some are sensitive to backhanded compliments that have more implied insult than flattery. But to be honest pretty hair is pretty hair, reguardless of race.


Softresses
 
UMBlessedBeauty_1 said:
I'm not offended when someone compares my hair to other races, just annoyed lol. Now I do get a little offended when someone touches my hair and says "it's sooo soft" in a surprised tone. My roommate (yes she's black) did this the other day and I asked her what was it supposed to feel like. :perplexed It was just the way she said it that caught me off guard.
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This is what bothers me too. When people give compliments in a surprised tone.

I'm like, "Is my hair supposed to look like hot garbage?":perplexed
 
If it was from some random stranger I probably wouldn't be offended. More bemused than offended.

If it was from someone I knew I'd want to know exactly what they meant and would give them a little hell for it.
 
Bubblingbrownshuga said:
someone stated your hair was just as soft, thick, and healthy like women from India? What about if they stated your hair reminded them of an Asians? It's obvious that most get offended when someone states that their hair reminds them of white ladies' hair ( and I assume many get offended b/c of the hx/and present of us having to endure everything white being placed on a pedestal), but I just wonder if we dislike our hair being compared to other races.
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First of all let me just say this, your hair is beautiful. :yep: I think Indians and Asians have beautiful hair, BUT why do black women have to be compared to other races?

Black women with healthy well conditioned hair have THE most beautiful hair. We, typically, don't have oily hair that smells if not washed EVERYDAY. Our hair, even if chemically straightened, STILL has more natural body and movement than those with naturally straight hair. Our hair is NOT stringy (unless damaged) and we usually have very thick dense hair naturally. :yep:
 
my white girlfriend always tell me my hair feels like a fluffy cloud :lachen::lachen:


I find it amusing........:ohwell:
 
Supergirl said:
Bubblin',

Did this happen to you and in what context? I know that you recently got your hair straightened. If I were in your shoes and someone who has known me all along was all of a sudden saying this now that I am wearing my hair straight for a few days, I might be a little perturbed. I would take that as them saying "oh now that your hair is straight, it's pretty like x, y, and z types of women."

However, if I just jumped to a big conclusion and the way I described above is not the case at all, I guess it wouldn't bother me.
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Supergirl, I think this is a "spin-off" from another thread in circulation right now.

And NO I would not be offended...
 
sonce said:
Yes, I do. It's no secret that ignorant black folk think every race but ours has "dat good hurr." Any comment that hints at that kind of mindset is going to irritate me.
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Me too!
I really dont have the patience.
 
sonce said:
Yes, I do. It's no secret that ignorant black folk think every race but ours has "dat good hurr." Any comment that hints at that kind of mindset is going to irritate me.
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I'm with you on this one. If you think my hair is pretty or soft say so w/o the comparison please. It taints the compliment.
 
I don't think I'd take it that well. If you think my hair is pretty and feels like silk then tell me that...end of. Don't tell me it's pretty like Indian hair or Asian hair. Something about that doesn't sit too right with me:perplexed.
 
I doubt I'd be too offended, probably more annoyed or just ignore the comment, but ITA with this:

sonce said:
Yes, I do. It's no secret that ignorant black folk think every race but ours has "dat good hurr." Any comment that hints at that kind of mindset is going to irritate me.
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If I was so inclined I'd correct them that my hair is nice, soft and healthy like a black woman, one who takes good care of her hair, and that all kinds of women can have 'nice, soft, healthy hair' if they take good care of it and find out what works best with their specific type, texture and needs.
 
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