sheba1
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The other day, a co-worker and I were chatting about weaves and whatnot. She mostly wears weaves and I asked her who did such a great job maintaining her hair. She told me, gave me the ladies number; we talked about prices and hair care and she revealed to me that she was natural! I was excited because I don't know of many naturals here in nc that aren't dreaded. She said her stylist refuses to relax her hair. I began liking this stylist more and more! 
When I asked her if she ever wears her hair out the co-worker explained that her hair was thinner than she'd like and that she preferred weaves. I thought she meant, "for now". I guess because I wear wigs and braids and weaves and whatnot most of the time for protection styles only. There's no part of me that is ashamed of my natural hair, especially now that I'm giving my hair proper care.
Fast forward. I took my braids down a week ago and I've been experimenting with my hair out until I braid it back up tomorrow. The first time I saw her at work, I was wearing a lightly pressed southern tease bun and was feeling so proud! I went to show her because we'd just been bonding over hair talk, right? She said, "Oh! That's some thick stuff!" (stuff?) "That's thick!!" I just smiled my hello and continued to my work.
So today was the incident that finally brought me to comment. It's the last day for me to enjoy my natural hair for a couple of months. I decided to really do it up with a fro-hawk! I had a hump in the front, with my beautiful puffs in the back and some chandelier earrings. I was really feeling too cute! As I walked past her desk, she says to me accusatorily, "You're still wearing your hair out?! HUMPH" I was still pleasant, "Yep!"
Her: "Well do you at least straighten it?" frowning, too!
Me: "Not often"
Her: "Well you should at least pull a hot comb through it. When was the last time you had a perm?"
Me: "13 years, or more now"
Her: "What?!"
Her neighbor, and buddy: "Don't tell nobody else that" as if not having had a perm is something to be ashamed of?? Not to mention that this neighbor of hers that burst into the conversation has damaged ear length hair
I finally asked, "What is there about being natural to be ashamed of?" My voice was aggitated and suddenly they had nothing to say. I just shook my head and walked away. A couple of nuts, they are.
Don't get me wrong. I love hair, period! I'm not opposed to relaxers or any kind of style. If you like it, I love it! I do have a problem, however, with the ignorance that still surrounds natural 4a/b hair. If I had silky curls, no doubt she would have ooh'd and ah'd and wondered why I cover them up. But my hair, even though it was fierce today , caused her issue.
Even my man said the style reminded him of a Janet Jackson cover. Now that's what I'm talking about!
Sorry to rant on you all, but it really got to me. I just wanted to get it out. No worries, as my hair grows to bra strap over the coming year, I'm sure she'll have more and more to say.
When I asked her if she ever wears her hair out the co-worker explained that her hair was thinner than she'd like and that she preferred weaves. I thought she meant, "for now". I guess because I wear wigs and braids and weaves and whatnot most of the time for protection styles only. There's no part of me that is ashamed of my natural hair, especially now that I'm giving my hair proper care.Fast forward. I took my braids down a week ago and I've been experimenting with my hair out until I braid it back up tomorrow. The first time I saw her at work, I was wearing a lightly pressed southern tease bun and was feeling so proud! I went to show her because we'd just been bonding over hair talk, right? She said, "Oh! That's some thick stuff!" (stuff?) "That's thick!!" I just smiled my hello and continued to my work.
So today was the incident that finally brought me to comment. It's the last day for me to enjoy my natural hair for a couple of months. I decided to really do it up with a fro-hawk! I had a hump in the front, with my beautiful puffs in the back and some chandelier earrings. I was really feeling too cute! As I walked past her desk, she says to me accusatorily, "You're still wearing your hair out?! HUMPH" I was still pleasant, "Yep!"
Her: "Well do you at least straighten it?" frowning, too!
Me: "Not often"
Her: "Well you should at least pull a hot comb through it. When was the last time you had a perm?"
Me: "13 years, or more now"
Her: "What?!"
Her neighbor, and buddy: "Don't tell nobody else that" as if not having had a perm is something to be ashamed of?? Not to mention that this neighbor of hers that burst into the conversation has damaged ear length hair
I finally asked, "What is there about being natural to be ashamed of?" My voice was aggitated and suddenly they had nothing to say. I just shook my head and walked away. A couple of nuts, they are.
Don't get me wrong. I love hair, period! I'm not opposed to relaxers or any kind of style. If you like it, I love it! I do have a problem, however, with the ignorance that still surrounds natural 4a/b hair. If I had silky curls, no doubt she would have ooh'd and ah'd and wondered why I cover them up. But my hair, even though it was fierce today
, caused her issue. Even my man said the style reminded him of a Janet Jackson cover. Now that's what I'm talking about!
Sorry to rant on you all, but it really got to me. I just wanted to get it out. No worries, as my hair grows to bra strap over the coming year, I'm sure she'll have more and more to say.
They might as well have said "napps aren't allowed here" Ridiculous!
. I'll have to agree with the other ladies that you handled yourself in a very commendable manner. What cracks me up are ladies whose hair is broken off and damaged, trying to give advice
. Like Ive said before, you will not listen to a bum tell you how to get rich. You just keep on growing, long and strong, NATURALLY, and let the haters keep on hating.
It is viewers like you that make me feel even MORE comfortable wearing my hair natural and continue making videos! 
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