Real Talk: Hair Confessions

[girlonfire]

I always say I wanna dye my hair, I wanna cut my hair really short, I want locs, etc., for a change.
My confession is: I am deathly afraid of doing anything permanent or semi permanent to my hair at the risk of not liking it a week later and hating myself for going through with it.

 

[SunRai Naturals]

I feel like I have the most difficult hair. It's tangly from root to tip, very hard to moisturize, very fine strands, yet very very coarse. My hair is just like Marley hair & not the soft kind. I'm on a journey to hip length & possibly beyond but today after taking my hair out of braids I realized that I'm not enjoying this anymore.
I want to be able to see my length w/out feeling like it's a fight. Lol. Beyond that I just want to live a little outside of PS'ing.
After 14 years natural I actually thought about getting a relaxer.

I was just having a moment it seems. Lol! I just needed to L.O.C. & baggy. After that my hair was a lot better. I have my hair in a braided ponytail protective style & I like it.

 

[PinkSunshine77]

My hair pissed me off last night and for a split second I wished it was a different texture. I confess

 

[havilland]

I want to get a waist length weave just to see what's it is like to have hair that long.

#shortcuts!

 

[naija24]

SL to APL is the hardest part of the HHJ.

 

[LadyRaider]

I'm really out of it and didn't know that everyone else was wearing fake hair. I think I realized it finally in 2010 when it was an hot, humid early morning and I was rushing to catch a shuttle at UT. I was a mess, hair just pulled back, but I get on the bus and the bus driver is a black woman with long perfectly styled hair down her back.

That's when I knew. It didn't make sense that a bus driver would spend hours in the early morning getting her hair perfect like that. In the summer heat? Not a bit of frizz?

And why was it when I was little, the other black girls would pull my hair because I had shoulder length braids and none of them did. And now all of a sudden EVERYONE has hair to their waist?

To finally push me over the edge, I was talking to my aunt just this month and she said "neither of my girls wear their real hair." What??? I thought my family DID all have long flowing hair?!?!?

 

[missjones]

I think I'm a natural hair abuser. I don't moisturize and detangle like I should.

I want my hair to be longer because I think it will be easier to style.

 

[MicheePrings]

Confession: I flirt with the idea of straight hair, ( relaxed hair) just show off my length for a while. I have 15 to 17 inches of hair which shrinks up above my shoulders. The process of flat ironing takes so much prep and planning for my hair (sigh)

Eta. I think that maybe if I find a way to master roller setting so I can get over this straight hair fantasy

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[atlien11]

confession: I think the Shea Moisture line sucks. There i said it.

 

[naija24]

Another one, but it makes me feel pretty guilty.

I get really annoyed when anyone above a 3b wants to rant and compare their hair journey to someone with 4z hair.

 

[SweetlyCurly]

I've been thinking about coloring s my hair but I'm deadly afraid it'll mess my curl pattern

 

[Lilmama1011]

I'm really out of it and didn't know that everyone else was wearing fake hair. I think I realized it finally in 2010 when it was an hot, humid early morning and I was rushing to catch a shuttle at UT. I was a mess, hair just pulled back, but I get on the bus and the bus driver is a black woman with long perfectly styled hair down her back.

That's when I knew. It didn't make sense that a bus driver would spend hours in the early morning getting her hair perfect like that. In the summer heat? Not a bit of frizz?

And why was it when I was little, the other black girls would pull my hair because I had shoulder length braids and none of them did. And now all of a sudden EVERYONE has hair to their waist?

To finally push me over the edge, I was talking to my aunt just this month and she said "neither of my girls wear their real hair." What??? I thought my family DID all have long flowing hair?!?!?

I'm sorry but lol. Yeah I have never worn weave and it's true when it gets muggy or rainy in general, real hair looks a mess but their weaves be laid. But idc because mine is real and I like hair coming out the scalp not weave in,threaded in and however else they do it : look:

 

[Lilmama1011]

I want my hair a lot longer but if it takes forever on wash day at hair a little pass apl , how long will it take at waist length?! Lol

 

[havilland]

confession: I think the Shea Moisture line sucks. There i said it.

ITA^^^^^^^^^

 

[Saludable84]

I want my hair a lot longer but if it takes forever on wash day at hair a little pass apl , how long will it take at waist length?! Lol

A lot longer. My wash day is 3 hours best and I'm MBL.

 

[frizzy]

Confession:

I flat ironed my hair 3 times in the last 4 weeks @370 degrees, up from 300 when I was fully relaxed.

 

[LadyBugsy]

I am already tired of my new weave install. I get compliments everyday but I want braids.

 

[CenteredGirl]

After many years of trying to grow my natural 4Z hair, I am making great headway. Now I know the meaning of "listen to your hair".

 

[Healthb4Length]

I've been stuck between APL and BSL for 2 years. In getting frustrated. I think I wanna just shave it all off and start over again.

 

[oneastrocurlie]

I've been to three different CVS stores looking for that new jbco Shea moisture line. No luck. And I'm done looking. If the three closest to home and work don't have it I'm not trying to drive out the way to get it. Even the ratchet CVS with security guard didn't have it.

OAN: They did carry black opal and black Radiance makeup. I've got a $5 cvs reward and $4 off $12 cosmetics coupon. Probably go back to use that.

 

[atlien11]

cwmarie -- Dang CVS got security guards now? Shyt just got real.

 

[BranwenRosewood]

I don't like weave because I think it makes the people who wear it look generic.

 

[Fenaxa]

My confessions:
I might've gotten fed up and ripped a few large size knots out of my hair while "detangling" just like I used to do when I had relaxed hair. I always told myself that "I'd never do that again" after I went natural but while my hair changed, my patience stayed the same lol.

I frequently reminisce about having a fade. I want to jump in a pool/shower/lake whatever and not worry about having my hair in twists or what kind of muscles are in my neck straining to hold the weight of my soaked hair up..

I feel kinda bad that I didn't actually rock my bald head when I had it. I'm tempted to shave at least some of my hair down and just keep it faded.

It irritates me to NO END when someone gets mad that you're even talking about cutting your hair. It's just hair. I do understand though but I feel like its better to keep those anti-cutting sentiments to themselves ; unless you're a unicorn, those tears will not make my hair grow back any faster.

Lastly, I love weave hair. I don't wear weaves but secretly.. I want to, just to see what it's like. I assume it's like a wig but you don't have to worry about it falling off!

 

[Saludable84]

I want to shave my head. Not to be natural or rock a short style. No. I'm just hair lazy

 

[Honey Bee]

Dang CVS got security guards now? Shyt just got real.

atlien11, Girl, yes! The ones over here lock up the deodorant, too.

 

[nelcoy]

My hair is bsl and it is so overwhelming at this length.

I look at yt videos of girls doing all these natural styles and I get irritated because that style takes hours/days for me to complete. So I just put my Celie braids back in and throw a wig on.

 

[oneastrocurlie]

cwmarie -- Dang CVS got security guards now? Shyt just got real.

I was a bit surprised... Kinda. He didn't look like he was going to stop a thing from happening lol

atlien11, Girl, yes! The ones over here lock up the deodorant, too.

Folks gotta stay fresh. By any means necessary!

 

[atlien11]

Honey Bee cwmarie

smmfh -->

 

[CurliDiva]

I've being watching yt videos and been stalking the "self relax" thread because I'm not retaining length as a long term natural and a longtime lhcf member.

I've doing all the right stuff - protective styling, weekly DCs, protein/moisture balance and my natural hair has not flourished. I'm so envious of folks that do the big chop and then 16 months later their hair is BSL!

 

[hairqueenny]

I get anxiety when it's time to take my weave out and fear all my hair will be gone.

Sometimes I fantasize about getting a relaxer again.

I often think about moving because I still can't find a good and reasonable stylist in NY.

My husband thinks I'm obsessed with hair lol.