Dartagnan
I appreciate your input...it's always good to get the male perspective.
However in THIS particular instance, I don't think it had to do with nervousness. I had already met the guy, he had established interest, he had asked for my number and I gave it to him.
We were just having a texting conversation (which is another thing that can get under my skin---having long deep/serious conversations over text message when you're
FIRST getting to know someone
) and he just out of the blue asked why I was "still single". I just told him that I hadn't met the right person yet. He just KEPT on asking a second time. Then it was almost like he was trying to fish around to see what the "real answer" was. I was telling him the truth!
It just got to be annoying. It left a bad taste in my mouth.
Like I said....I don't even think to ask guys this question. I figure, if this guy is a "catch", and he's interested in ME, then I'm fortunate! I figure, I'll probably eventually figure out why the guy is single (ie. divorce, break-up, haven't met the right woman yet, been heartbroken...etc, ) it will EVENTUALLY come out. I don't need to "fish around" unless he just seems really shady or something.
But that's just my opinion!
There's nothing wrong w/guys being nervous either...I actually think it's endearing!
But asking rude/intrusive questions
TOO early on in the game can make a woman a bit uncomfortable.
That's like a woman asking a man on the first date: "So....where do you see this going?? Are you interested in getting married? What do you think of me? Do you see me fitting into your family/future?"
Those questions early on in the game would SURELY make a man a bit uncomfortable...even if he LIKES her.
erplexed
It's almost like asking a married woman: "Why haven't you had kids yet??"
Sometimes even the way a man (or woman)
PHRASES a question can make a HUGE difference.
"Have you ever thought about having kids?" sounds much better than the other question just mentioned above. Do you see/feel the difference?