Poll: Be Honest, Would You Take Hair Advice From People w/o Pics?

[santia]

Honestly, I'll take hair advice from people w/o pics, but not from people who do not have my "desired hair".
I'm going to admit smthg else and I know I'm going to get stoned for it, but that is how I feel about self-relaxing. I've taken advice on self-relaxing before and it didnt turn out good at all. I dont blame anyone on the board for that. I just didnt do a good job and I need more practice. But in general, I think that hair looks better when people get it relaxed by someone else (professional or non-professional). I believe it's possible for someone to self-relax with great results, but that would probably take A LOT of practice and I might possibly ruin my hair in the meantime.

I agree with that!!!! oops, and I clicked No instead of yes

 

[Miss*Tress]

I'd take advice if you don't have pics if the advice is reasonable.

However, I'd be more encouraged to take advice if I can see pictures. It's motivating!

But if your album is tore back I'm not taking your advice either.

Ditto.

Plus if the person's hair type is different I'll think twice before using the products they recommend. I tried a couple of recent raves which didn't work for me. Turns out someone with the same type hair as mine had the same poor results I did - I should have paid more attention.

Techniques, like daily moisturizing, keeping hair soaking wet during a wet set, etc. are universal regardless of hair type.

 

[Mahalialee4]

When I fist started on the boards, no one had photos up but I just devoured those forums, and I tried a lot of things. If some said, "My hair is to my bra strap, waist whatever!" I was like EARS ON FIRE! I have also posted under "Shebanoire, Belle Jardin, in my creative days, lol.
It took me forever to get up the nerve to post my pictures because I had such hair anoerexia, but most importantly the privacy thing.
I will take advice from any lady who puts forth a reasonable suggestion to help me overcome a hair challenge. bonjour

 

[amina kamal]

I think its shallow to take advice from only people with pics. There many reasons I can think of as to why people have not posted pics. I would not just blindly follow someones advice on the basis of the pics. I personally think that some people use pics as a means of showing off rather than tracking progress. The reason I say this is that I have seen many newbies post asking for advice and they are virtually IGNORED by some of the veterans on here (with nice pics). Just my observation.

 

[InNeedofHairapy]

I think it depends on the advice being given. Like if self trim tips were being given by a woman with a zig zag hairline, I might not take her advice.

And if when the MTG thing and the Henna thing came about, none of the ladies raving about it had any pictures..I would have thought y'all were playing a joke on me. You want me to use WHAT on my hair? Yeah right

Pictures DO help...but I'll take advice where I can get it, if it sounds reasonable..if it doesn't sound reasonable, and there is a pic..then I may consider it..but if it sounds crazy and there's no proof..then I'll ignore it.

Did that make sense...my brain is thawing out still....

 

[Nenah]

I will take advice from anyone pics or no pics as long as the advice is reasonable and makes sense. I have done this and will continue to do this.

 

[SpyCats]

The most helpful advice i've received have been from people with no pics/album.

 

[sweetascocoa]

i 1st learned about CW, silicones and moisturising from an Indian lady on another hair board about 3 years ago. She didnt have any pics up then and i was desperate.

 

[shalom]

Yes, I will take advice from someone who does not have a pic posted. I never make decision for advice based on who's popular and who's not or what the length of a persons hair is my judgements are based on sound advice and also on what information applies to my hair at that time. I've taken advice from several people here, and I thank err body for helping me reach my hair goal.

Healthy hair is my top priority and goal.

I'll admit to being a product junkie and most of the product recommendations I've gotten here didn't do a thing for my hair, but that's nobody's fault but my own.

Peace

 

[Ladyhenri]

I think its shallow to take advice from only people with pics. There many reasons I can think of as to why people have not posted pics. I would not just blindly follow someones advice on the basis of the pics. I personally think that some people use pics as a means of showing off rather than tracking progress. The reason I say this is that I have seen many newbies post asking for advice and they are virtually IGNORED by some of the veterans on here (with nice pics). Just my observation.

I agree with you there. Couldnt have said it better.

 

[KiniKakes]

I think it depends on the advice being given. Like if self trim tips were being given by a woman with a zig zag hairline, I might not take her advice.

And if when the MTG thing and the Henna thing came about, none of the ladies raving about it had any pictures..I would have thought y'all were playing a joke on me. You want me to use WHAT on my hair? Yeah right

Pictures DO help...but I'll take advice where I can get it, if it sounds reasonable..if it doesn't sound reasonable, and there is a pic..then I may consider it..but if it sounds crazy and there's no proof..then I'll ignore it...

I agree with this completely! My sentiments exactly!

 

[KiniKakes]

I think its shallow to take advice from only people with pics. There many reasons I can think of as to why people have not posted pics. I would not just blindly follow someones advice on the basis of the pics. I personally think that some people use pics as a means of showing off rather than tracking progress. The reason I say this is that I have seen many newbies post asking for advice and they are virtually IGNORED by some of the veterans on here (with nice pics). Just my observation.

Goodness, that's harsh!

But i definitely hear you though..... everyone is not comfortable with posting their pics on the world wide web, and that doesnt necessarily mean their advice is any less valuable or worthwhile.

But i personally still like to see "evidence" that something has worked. The proof is always in the pudding, to me. I mean, we are on a site about hair health/hair growth. Its helpful to see ppl's whose hair has thrived from a particular regimen or what have you.

It's like..... Cathy Howse wouldnt have had the success that she's had today, thru her books and websites, if she was not able to share pictures of her own progress and hair journey. There's just something to be said about a personal testimonial, coupled with pictures, that lends more faith and credence to the person.

JMHO ladies.

P.S. I just want to add (only because it made me feel a little sad to read this) that if Newbies are getting ignored, it may simply be because they are asking a question that has been discussed repeatedly on the board. Sometimes answers can be found in the Newcomers stickied thread or by doing a Search for the topic. But no one wants to be the one say "Just do a search, Newbie!" So you just wait and assume they'll figure it out on their own. But.... Im quite sure its not a malicious thing when Newbies are ignored. We were ALL Newbies once upon a time, and someone helped us out to get us where we are today. Personally, I try to help Newbies out when I can, and I know many others do too.... but sometimes we dont get around to it.... but it's usually not a mean-spirited thing.

 

[Mahalialee4]

Re: the Newbies: There is a section for Newbies to get basic questions answered. Also there is a Search Button on just about any question. Probably people who have been on the Board a long time, hate typing the same answers to the same questions over and over. Not being insensitive here, but that is why there is a Search Button. I personally use it like you would not believe because I know I can get so much information from so many people at one Search and realize that many people are really time oriented re: board time. Some do not have personal computers and log in from work sites or libraries or college sites, which can determine how much time they want to spend repeating information. So it is not a case of ignoring or being unwilling. It is a time issue 99.9 % of the time. Once a person cannot get initial help from the SEARCH button, then bring it to the board. When people pm me for info, I refer them first to the search button 90% of the time even if they have been here a long time. bonjour

 

[KiniKakes]

Re: the Newbies: There is a section for Newbies to get basic questions answered. Also there is a Search Button on just about any question. Probably people who have been on the Board a long time, hate typing the same answers to the same questions over and over. Not being insensitive here, but that is why there is a Search Button. I personally use it like you would not believe because I know I can get so much information from so many people at one Search and realize that many people are really time oriented re: board time. Some do not have personal computers and log in from work sites or libraries or college sites, which can determine how much time they want to spend repeating information. So it is not a case of ignoring or being unwilling. It is a time issue 99.9 % of the time. Once a person cannot get initial help from the SEARCH button, then bring it to the board. When people pm me for info, I refer them first to the search button 90% of the time even if they have been here a long time. bonjour

Right! Thats what i was trying to say in my P.S. But you worded it so much more eloquently.

 

[amina kamal]

Thanks for addressing my newbie concerns with such finesse. I do regularly myself use the search function (I have learned alot from old posts by Sherrylove and Supergirl). And I'm sure it not that vets are maliciously ignoring newbie questions. But in the spirit of sisterhood I feel like we all should be a bit more giving when it comes to helping our sisters out.

 

[KiniKakes]

Thanks for addressing my newbie concerns with such finesse. I do regularly myself use the search function (I have learned alot from old posts by Sherrylove and Supergirl). And I'm sure it not that vets are maliciously ignoring newbie questions. But in the spirit of sisterhood I feel like we all should be a bit more giving when it comes to helping our sisters out.

No problem, girl.

And in light of this post, i know that, i for one, will try to make more of an effort to be there for Newbies.

 

[smitmarv]

I will take advice from people with out pics but if they say they have fine hair and a relaxer worked great for them then I move on. I hair is very thick and course and I look for people that have tried products on that hair type. If it did or did not work on someone with 4a/b hair then my interest peaks and I listen much closer. That is the main thing that I look for.

 

[Softresses]

I have taken advise that made good sense from members who did not post pics.

I just started posting pics myself in August of this year. I have been on the board since 2003 (lurkdom before membership). I have always been shy about pictures, but then I decided that if what I do can help others, I will do so.

I will try to do a better job as well of helping new ones out. I am out of town sometimes days at a time and don't get to answer, but if you pm me I will be more than happy to respond when I return.

A lot of members keep tips and info in their journals that may help as well. They may not be on the board that day but their jounals/albums are open for your use. I try to save up things from posts that may be helpful and from anywhere I find it that may be of some use here.

I hope some of this is helpful

Softresses

 

[nomoweavesfome]

I think its shallow to take advice from only people with pics. There many reasons I can think of as to why people have not posted pics. I would not just blindly follow someones advice on the basis of the pics. I personally think that some people use pics as a means of showing off rather than tracking progress. The reason I say this is that I have seen many newbies post asking for advice and they are virtually IGNORED by some of the veterans on here (with nice pics). Just my observation.

I'm always open to advice and it depends on what it is really. But I have to somewhat agree with amina kamal because I am by no means a shining LHCF spokesperson as I just started in August and it is intimidating posting your stuff out there and because the majority of the seasoned members have APl, BSL, WSL, so forth hair, my threads might and I mean might get 5 posts or no type of encouragement. but as being a post graduate newbie you have to be thickskinned with that and also self- motivated when it comes to your own progress regardless of what people say/ think whatever. I'm actually used to it now. I mean it's a forum for crying out loud and everyone has a right to an opinion whether giving it or taking it.

But I think even those who are somewhat new who has had some time to gain some experience with products still have a say so in my opinion. but that's just me. Again - I'm probably the minority on this one.

 

[gymfreak336]

Originally Posted by amina kamal
I think its shallow to take advice from only people with pics. There many reasons I can think of as to why people have not posted pics. I would not just blindly follow someones advice on the basis of the pics. I personally think that some people use pics as a means of showing off rather than tracking progress. The reason I say this is that I have seen many newbies post asking for advice and they are virtually IGNORED by some of the veterans on here (with nice pics). Just my observation.

I agree. To be completely honest every topic and suggestion here will just go around and repeat itself all over again. I have been lurking around here for years and MTG, Henna co-washes, etc.. have all been topics are some point in time. It just depends on who picks it up. I remember when everyone was using L.U.S.T, Blackstrap molassas in their conditioners, Glovers scalp treatments (It was the Barbeque hair club), and when mane and tail first popped off. I think the important thing for people to remember is that at some point in time, we were all Newbies. The search functions do help but alot of newer people are here that are using new products. All of the old heads that first responded to some of the post are now here. There is alot of info here. Heck some of us including myself still have hard times searching and finding certain threads, so imagine how some of the newbies feel. Just my two cents.

 

[Mestiza]

It doesn't matter to me whether someone has pics posted, or not. Ultimately, I must determine what is best for my hair and seeing someone else's hair is not going to change that. Seeing a model's or spokesperson's hair in an advertisement for a product or an author's hair for a book that he/she is promoting, does not assure that the product will work for my hair.

I don't care about hair type, either. One of my favorite products came from MonaLisa (Thanks again, girl! ), who has Type 4 hair and mine is mostly Type 2 w/ some Type 1. If I had ignored her posts b/c our hair types are different, then, I would've missed out on a great product for my hair.

 

[Ladyhenri]

Re: the Newbies: There is a section for Newbies to get basic questions answered. Also there is a Search Button on just about any question. Probably people who have been on the Board a long time, hate typing the same answers to the same questions over and over. Not being insensitive here, but that is why there is a Search Button. I personally use it like you would not believe because I know I can get so much information from so many people at one Search and realize that many people are really time oriented re: board time. Some do not have personal computers and log in from work sites or libraries or college sites, which can determine how much time they want to spend repeating information. So it is not a case of ignoring or being unwilling. It is a time issue 99.9 % of the time. Once a person cannot get initial help from the SEARCH button, then bring it to the board. When people pm me for info, I refer them first to the search button 90% of the time even if they have been here a long time. bonjour

I appreciate the above response. When i first joined i didnt feel there was enough support and since i was a complete newbie (i joined the site the second i came across it), i had no idea how to navigate. The search button is very useful but sometimes people just dont know how much so...i certainly didnt.
As for the being ignored part, specific members havent responded to my direct questions (i actually had a mini vent about this in my journal). If i had asked and was directed to the search button i would be more than grateful, but not every one is as nice as yourself and the lovely Kini...some people actually are unhelpful when you can see they are online.PS: sorry to deviate from the thread

 

[amina kamal]

I just wanted to say that I didnt mean to hijack the thread with my post. I was trying to be honest. Nonetheless, I do want to say that I have gotten invaluable info from the LHCF and the times that I have PMed people with questions I have gotten very thorough feedback and answers.

 

[deltagyrl]

Nope.

What she said.

I dunno. I need to see it to believe it. I also look at the number of posts you have vs. the date you've joined. If you have like 10,000 posts and still no pics, well.........

Can I hijack this thread for a milli second to ask what's up with people having gorgeous siggy pics yet their fotki pics look like ?!

Which pic are we to believe? Hijack over.

 

[B_Phlyy]

What she said.

I dunno. I need to see it to believe it. I also look at the number of posts you have vs. the date you've joined. If you have like 10,000 posts and still no pics, well.........

Can I hijack this thread for a milli second to ask what's up with people having gorgeous siggy pics yet their fotki pics look like ?!

Which pic are we to believe? Hijack over.

This is why I could never say I would only take the advice if I only saw pics. Some members may have low posts counts on this board, but are very active on other boards and vice versa. Everyone was a newbie on some board or another at one time.

Also, a picture on shows someones hair at one moment in time. I have no idea what happened before or after the flash. Heck, the flash may be the main reason why the pic looks good or bad. And even if someone put a "bad" looking picture up, I'm pretty sure it's the best of the worst.

 

[Mahalialee4]

One more thing: I am sure I am not the only one. But aside from the Board itself where you can see the posts, I get a lot of pms asking for recommendations. I would like to believe that no one who has ever pmd me for an answer or advice has not been given lots of support, which has included doing the searches myself, and pming them back the site pages. Referring them to the exact threads where I have posted on the same question they asked. For example, they will ask me about something I posted a year or two ago and want details about a method or product or homemade product regime etc.
This is just to reiterate. Many of the veteran ladies on here get pms. Many pm each other. I answer every pm I get. I answer them before I even get to the Discussion site. I receive thank you pms for the info they received and sometimes several pms from the same person. This is to stress that just because you do not see visually everyone flying in to post on something, does not mean support even behind the scenes is not being given by MANY long term ladies to Newbies and Oldies. Hope this puts it more into perspective to anyone who has ever felt slighted or ignored.

 

[MonaLisa]

It doesn't matter to me whether someone has pics posted, or not. Ultimately, I must determine what is best for my hair and seeing someone else's hair is not going to change that. Seeing a model's or spokesperson's hair in an advertisement for a product or an author's hair for a book that he/she is promoting, does not assure that the product will work for my hair.

I don't care about hair type, either. One of my favorite products came from MonaLisa (Thanks again, girl! ), who has Type 4 hair and mine is mostly Type 2 w/ some Type 1. If I had ignored her posts b/c our hair types are different, then, I would've missed out on a great product for my hair.

Awwwww...you're welcomed my Prince lovin Mestiza..

Personally, I do like to take into account pictures...I also take into account the ingredients of the product being recommended as well as similar hair types...

some ingredients...you just know your hair does NOT agree with, regardless of similarity of hair type....and some you do -

i.e., BabyGurl recommended Proclaim Aloe and Shea Butter...we felt we had some similarities hair wise...so I finally tried it and love it, it's a keeper...although I'm fine/thinned haired and she's a thicker haired chick...

There are naturals, who's pics I've never seen...that raved about Kids Organics Moisturizing Detangling...but after reading the ingredients....I knew my hair would like it...and it's a staple now.

So...there are times to take advice with a grain of salt...and others where one should remain open minded regardless of pics or not.

 

[HighlyFavored1]

i will listen to their advice, but it just helps if you can also see how their hair looks, it may be a type that's different from mine so that will give me a better idea as to how something may or may not work as well with my hair.

plus, it's just a nice bonus to see pics!

 

[mightycute912]

To be honest I am new to the board. I wanted advise and I didn't understand the hair type rating at first. Anything that I thought would work I considered and looked into. It didn't bother me.

 

[LocksOfLuV]

I don't know the results of the poll seem a little off in my opinion lol. It seems that a lot of people say one thing but does another. I have seen it (looong time lurker here) where a person w/o pix in the siggy will give excellent advice only for the advice to be completely ignored to listen to the person w/ pix (though sometimes the advice might not be the best ). Not saying it's nothing is wrong with that, just saying what I personally observe.

I would take advice from ppl w/o pix, but I am a visual person so pix always help reconfirm the information lol.