Hi,
I was reading a post earlier on how long folks waited to have kids. Thought I'd start this one so as not to hijack someone else's post.
This is for the single ladies in their late 20's upwards who have never had a kid.
Ladies do any of you feel it's harder to find a man cos he thinks your biological clock ha stopped ticking?
I'm Nigerian so where I come from this is a big deal if I am to generalise. I can't say it bothers me that much cos I hope whoever I end up marrying does not base our being together on whether or not I can conceive. It only bothers me scientifically and statistically. A friend of mine in Cali had this happen to her. She's 37, the guy wouldn't entertain the idea of marriage until she got pregnant, I think he was looking for proof she could still get pregnant. That should have been her major warning sign that the guy wasn't really into her. Anyways, she did, unfortunately he left her 7 months into the pregnancy. Funny thing is, I thought she'd say she doesn't regret having a kid but she said if she had to do it over again she wouldn't. I thought that was odd but I don't know exactly what she's going through.
So ladies, does anyone originate from a culture where this is an issue, do you feel once u hit 25 and are not married with kids it'd be harder to meet a man who won't be sceptical about being with you if he wants kids.
PS, I know being under 25 is no guarantee that a woman can conceive.
I was reading a post earlier on how long folks waited to have kids. Thought I'd start this one so as not to hijack someone else's post.
This is for the single ladies in their late 20's upwards who have never had a kid.
Ladies do any of you feel it's harder to find a man cos he thinks your biological clock ha stopped ticking?
I'm Nigerian so where I come from this is a big deal if I am to generalise. I can't say it bothers me that much cos I hope whoever I end up marrying does not base our being together on whether or not I can conceive. It only bothers me scientifically and statistically. A friend of mine in Cali had this happen to her. She's 37, the guy wouldn't entertain the idea of marriage until she got pregnant, I think he was looking for proof she could still get pregnant. That should have been her major warning sign that the guy wasn't really into her. Anyways, she did, unfortunately he left her 7 months into the pregnancy. Funny thing is, I thought she'd say she doesn't regret having a kid but she said if she had to do it over again she wouldn't. I thought that was odd but I don't know exactly what she's going through.
So ladies, does anyone originate from a culture where this is an issue, do you feel once u hit 25 and are not married with kids it'd be harder to meet a man who won't be sceptical about being with you if he wants kids.
PS, I know being under 25 is no guarantee that a woman can conceive.
erplexed It was never even considered that I might not have had any yet... and I was under 21! They would be shocked that I had none. It would take them a minute to fully comprehend the idea. 
I adore mine, but I'm not trying to be somebody's stepmom. 
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I am Nigerian as well..I am 28 and according to my Mum.. She doesn't know what I am waiting for. For the moment she said she has peace, but has warned me I better not be single by the time I hit the big 30.
