Okay Yall help me out with this one

[Forever in Bloom]

awww
I am so different from everyone else, I like my hair being touched. oh well.
when my hair is looking nice a couple of friends touch it all the time.

Me too... I guess that makes me easy in the hair department

 

[Eisani]

Adults should really remember their manners and ask before touching. I don't like random people touching my hair, unless it's a guy . I had two 4 y/o girls playing in my hair yesterday @ a b-day party and didn't mind until I got to wondering where their hands had been...

 

[justNikki]

mj, you post a lot (on this board and others) that people are disrespecting you re: your hair. Do you think, just maybe, there's something you're doing to bring this energy your way?

 

[mj11051]

NO, Let me see if I can explain to you. Where I live in Chicago, I hardly ever see naturals most of the woman I see around here have bad relaxed hair or jacked up weaves. So yes I get a lot of dirty looks and nasty comments behind my back. Of course this was someone I know and I still didn't care for the fact that she just stuck her hands in my hair without asking.

 

[~*Tigget*~]

I have a problem w/ invading my personal space PERIOD. I don't even like my kids to invade that space. I don't like when ppl touch me anywhere on my body w/out asking....its so disrespectful. Its not because I have something to hide, its just irritating ppl in my space.

As for white ppl touching my hair, they are so intrigued "by you guys hair"...right....just let it go.

As for black ppl, I think its just to do weave check or "quality" check, trying to see if it feels as good as it looks. I will admit I have seen plenty of sista's hair that I thought was so pretty, but never once felt compelled to check it. I respect ppls space because I want the same in return.

 

[jasmin]

It's strange that people do that. I mean they go deep into you scalp too. It trips me out that people feel they have a right to do this. It reminds when I hear how people just go up to strangers and tell them how fat they are. Okay that's more extreme but similar.

 

[Fine 4s]

Was she really your friend then if you were so mad that she touched your hair? I mean, seriously, if my girl saw my hair looking nice and touched it, I would not get mad. She's my girl. We're cool. Now, if it's a stranger, than ya, I'd get annoyed. .

I was thinking the same thing. Maybe the word 'friend' was used loosely?
I know that if I'm having a bad day, I might not welcome it even IF it is my friend. When people get called out on their behavior most people will get defensive. Especially if other people are around so I think there should be some allowance for that.

"mj, you post a lot (on this board and others) that people are disrespecting you re: your hair. Do you think, just maybe, there's something you're doing to bring this energy your way?"

Good point to notice.