runwaydream
Well-Known Member
Ok, so I met this guy online recently. He was seemingly perfect. He's 6'3, an engineer, is a 94% match with me on questions answered on OkCupid. He's looking for a long term relationship, we seem to have the same values and goals. While talking to him I realized just how much we had in common. It was starting to get creepy. We're both into anime, writing (we both want to write novels), music (we both played instruments in school and were in the marching band), traveling, etc. He seems very wholesome, which I loved. He's close to his father, though I would have preferred his parents had still been together. Anyway, we talk on fb for the first time last night and that is where I began to become a bit apprehensive.
He tells me that he lives with his mom and sister he quickly explains though that he used to live on his own but moved in with his mom bc she had breast cancer (survivor) and he was still worried about her and helps her out w. the bills. And how in this economy it makes more sense to live together he also mentioned that he believes in family sticking together and it's a shame that most ppl don't believe in that anymore. Right. Ooookay. So I figured though that isn't ideal I can deal with that.
Next thing that makes me raise an eyebrow is the fact that he used to be, not fat, but his body wasn't in shape. Because of this he seems to have less confidence than he probably should or could. Plus he had gotten into shape in college but then got bored with it. He had gotten into boxing recently and realized he's good at it and loves doing it so he has been able to stick with it and lost the weight again. My thing is, I hate sloppy bodies. What if he decides he wants to give up boxing and gets out of shape again?
Another thing, and this is the BIG one, is that he's never been in a rlshp before. He says he wants to settle down and get into a ltr but, how does he know? He's never even been in one before. Plus seeing how he's just now getting into shape and regaining his confidence, who's to say he won't realize that he can get girls now and wants to explore what he's never been able to before? I just think it's an iffy situation. I dont want to waste my time.
Another way of looking at it though is that he would have no one to compare me to and he doesn't have all that excess baggage of an ex gf and other girls that did him dirty, etc.
I am also considering the fact that we have a lot in common and he's in a good profession, seemingly doing well for himself, which is necessary seeing how I am looking for something serious... but still... Idk, I'm confused as to how to approach this. I know the ball is in my court now, seeing how he wrote me last. What do you guys think?
He tells me that he lives with his mom and sister he quickly explains though that he used to live on his own but moved in with his mom bc she had breast cancer (survivor) and he was still worried about her and helps her out w. the bills. And how in this economy it makes more sense to live together he also mentioned that he believes in family sticking together and it's a shame that most ppl don't believe in that anymore. Right. Ooookay. So I figured though that isn't ideal I can deal with that.
Next thing that makes me raise an eyebrow is the fact that he used to be, not fat, but his body wasn't in shape. Because of this he seems to have less confidence than he probably should or could. Plus he had gotten into shape in college but then got bored with it. He had gotten into boxing recently and realized he's good at it and loves doing it so he has been able to stick with it and lost the weight again. My thing is, I hate sloppy bodies. What if he decides he wants to give up boxing and gets out of shape again?
Another thing, and this is the BIG one, is that he's never been in a rlshp before. He says he wants to settle down and get into a ltr but, how does he know? He's never even been in one before. Plus seeing how he's just now getting into shape and regaining his confidence, who's to say he won't realize that he can get girls now and wants to explore what he's never been able to before? I just think it's an iffy situation. I dont want to waste my time.
Another way of looking at it though is that he would have no one to compare me to and he doesn't have all that excess baggage of an ex gf and other girls that did him dirty, etc.
I am also considering the fact that we have a lot in common and he's in a good profession, seemingly doing well for himself, which is necessary seeing how I am looking for something serious... but still... Idk, I'm confused as to how to approach this. I know the ball is in my court now, seeing how he wrote me last. What do you guys think?