nappystorm
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I'm glad he doesn't like women with natural hair. One less idiot we have to worry about trying to holla. We should be celebrating.
NATURAL MEN WHO DO NOT LIKE NATURAL WOMEN...OXYMORON?
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FebeeSigns
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I assume natural men dont like natural women. Because majority of them don't here.
hair4romheaven
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I don't see the big deal. He stated his preference. Everyone has a preference. It may not be what he said but how he said it,but ultimately I see where he is coming from. I have preferences when it comes to natural hair on men & women. I think some people take this natural hair texture thing to serious.
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Dragon_Of_Vaeros
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He's an idiot, imo. (I can see that and I'm not even natural.)
silenttullip
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I chose no I don't expect them to have a different opinion. We have to be real most men I know are still stuck with good hair vs bad hair. On the other hand most men I know are over 30 so I think age may have a weight on it. I think men in general want something that they can touch and get turned on and slide their fingers through without getting them caught. What ruined it for me was when he came back trying to "clarify" and really made himself look immature, conceited, and like a typical young knucklehead. He got angry because people didn't agree and instead of handling it like a man he was a baby about it. Guess they didn't teach him that at school.
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Thank you for this! I was so confused when I read the title....I've never dated a black man who didn't have "natural" hair.
I didn't have any problem with his comments.
Or straight up rudeness smh
Preferring something doesn't give folks an excuse to blatantly insult and dehumanize those without the attributes you desire. People need to get over themselves
davisbr88
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^^ That's how I feel. Him saying that he prefers a certain hair type didn't bother me. Him saying that you can have "bad hair" and still be an "outstanding person" is what pissed me off and led me to comment. So people with "bad hair" are automatically "bad people?" Wth? And I guess people with "good hair" are angels? Makes no sense, and it has less to do with hair and more to do with a negative perception of people.
chrisanddonniesmommy
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That's like assuming a black man holds positive thoughts about a woman because she's black. Please!
In my younger days dudes like this would have bothered me. Although I've generally always been considered cute, I still sometimes would be bothered when I'd hear dudes showing preference to light skin, long hair, looser textured hair, etc. and makin snide remarks about those who didn't have said attributes.
Nowadays, basically, I just don't give much thought to dudes like this. Its just like, eh, do you, your preferences have zero to do with me. I'm not on your radar, therefore, neither are you on mine. I spend more energy focusing on the dudes who ARE on my radar, which there are plenty of, but one will never notice them if you are stuck focusing on your energy on dudes that obviously aren't thinking about you. When I encounter men like this IRL, its like, oh, ok thats whats up, on to the next one, and I keep it moving. I liken this to all the uber long threads about black men and white women. I rarely read those threads, bc I don't care! There are tons of black men who do like black women! I don't spend my mental energy thinking about the ones who don't.
Nowadays, basically, I just don't give much thought to dudes like this. Its just like, eh, do you, your preferences have zero to do with me. I'm not on your radar, therefore, neither are you on mine. I spend more energy focusing on the dudes who ARE on my radar, which there are plenty of, but one will never notice them if you are stuck focusing on your energy on dudes that obviously aren't thinking about you. When I encounter men like this IRL, its like, oh, ok thats whats up, on to the next one, and I keep it moving. I liken this to all the uber long threads about black men and white women. I rarely read those threads, bc I don't care! There are tons of black men who do like black women! I don't spend my mental energy thinking about the ones who don't.
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Theresamonet
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Why are these men being interviewed about our hair/issues anyway? Why are these random men's opinions worth anything...positive or negative? They ain't nobody.
But I will say...
A lot of men would get up and spew all types of pretty lies...At least he was honest. That's all I can ask of some strange, oiled up, exposed chest, man on the internet.
He was ASKED these questions. He didn't just show up and decide to give his stupid little 2 cents. I think we should stop asking.
ETA: To the OP...The guy you interviewed prior (Cendino) response was no better in my opinion.
To me he's just saying that it doesn't matter if you are nappy headed cuz they have stuff to fix that nowadays.
He said "help with that" like he was talking about.. acid reflux, or something.
But I will say...
A lot of men would get up and spew all types of pretty lies...At least he was honest. That's all I can ask of some strange, oiled up, exposed chest, man on the internet.
He was ASKED these questions. He didn't just show up and decide to give his stupid little 2 cents. I think we should stop asking.
ETA: To the OP...The guy you interviewed prior (Cendino) response was no better in my opinion.
To me he's just saying that it doesn't matter if you are nappy headed cuz they have stuff to fix that nowadays.
He said "help with that" like he was talking about.. acid reflux, or something.
*CherryPie*
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So funny, and true!
Why are these men being interviewed about our hair/issues anyway? Why are these random men's opinions worth anything...positive or negative? They ain't nobody.
But I will say...
A lot of men would get up and spew all types of pretty lies...At least he was honest. That's all I can ask of some strange, oiled up, exposed chest, man on the internet.
He was ASKED these questions. He didn't just show up and decide to give his stupid little 2 cents. I think we should stop asking.
ETA: To the OP...The guy you interviewed prior (Cendino) response was no better in my opinion.
To me he's just saying that it doesn't matter if you are nappy headed cuz they have stuff to fix that nowadays.
bludaydreamr
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Why are these men being interviewed about our hair/issues anyway? Why are these random men's opinions worth anything...positive or negative? They ain't nobody.
But I will say...
A lot of men would get up and spew all types of pretty lies...At least he was honest. That's all I can ask of some strange, oiled up, exposed chest, man on the internet.
That's just funny!
He was ASKED these questions. He didn't just show up and decide to give his stupid little 2 cents. I think we should stop asking.
ITA!
ETA: To the OP...The guy you interviewed prior (Cendino) response was no better in my opinion.
To me he's just saying that it doesn't matter if you are nappy headed cuz they have stuff to fix that nowadays.
Thanks 'cause the button wasn't enough!
This is not just a preference he's stating.
OP not to be offensive, but I don't see how the majority of these interviews are going to be positive/helpful even. Natural hair(for women) is taboo in our community. The fact still remains that most are unappreciative of afro textured hair, so you are going to get the, "she can wear her hair natural as long as she's not too natural" responses. The more women wear their natural hair; the more "acceptable" it will be to the men. Dayum all this asking!
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davisbr88
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^^ ITA. And I think it's giving them more power than they deserve, like we have to refer to them to get their opinion when we do things regarding beauty. As someone else said in another thread, we are being judged on some criteria of beauty that men exempt themselves completely from. Why do we have to get the "okay" from men in order to accept who we are naturally? Of course both men and women have concerns with being viewed as attractive or whatever, but it seems like a lot of women on this board are going to do what they believe is right for their hair, regardless of what men think. Continuing to ask them seems to be sort of weak, like they have the last say (or any say at all, in most of the ladies' cases, who made it quite clear that they would love their hair regardless of how they're viewed or perceived). I am not attacking OP at all, because I thought the idea of an interview was a good one (which is why I clicked on this link in the first place) until I thought about the implications that this can and has had. This is just my honest opinion. Even if what he said would have been completely eloquent and positive, I still feel like we're giving them too much power, and while it may be a "man's world," we have a lot more power than we might think - small things like taking complete control of our own beauty might help change things.
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I see loced men with permies all of the time. Some even loudly announce how they find natural women unattractive. Actually, a lot of loced and/or "Black power" black men I see date/marry WW. (But that's another topic)
Anyway, that's why I never understood why black women assume loced men are down with the naps.
(But that's another topic)Anyway, that's why I never understood why black women assume loced men are down with the naps.
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westNDNbeauty
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All comments, viewpoints and thoughts are appreciated. Hopefully some of ya'll might be a little easier on the new guy. 
EllePixie
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LOL you know us...if you bring tomfoolery to the table you'll get eaten alive...
L.Brown1114
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why are people mad??? you guys honestly didnt think there were men out here who didnt think this way lol. it was an interview OP didnt give him a script. if you go natural you have to keep in mind that not every ones going to like it and sadly a lot of men dont like that style of hair choice. you gotta remember natural just got "popular" after years of relaxing you cant just walk around with your natural hair and expect everyone to except it right away just because YOUR rocking it. i respect he had the balls to say it but the good hair bad comment was kinda bogus but thats how people think, ESPECIALLY black people.
davis: i totally agree. why are you letting the words of ONE man get to you like that. look in the mirror and decide for YOURSELF that your beautiful.
davis: i totally agree. why are you letting the words of ONE man get to you like that. look in the mirror and decide for YOURSELF that your beautiful.
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*CherryPie*
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Why is there even a new guy coming? Maybe this mess should just stop now.....it's not helping anyone.
.............................ridiculous.............all of these creepy men, talking crazy.
erplexed
.............................ridiculous.............all of these creepy men, talking crazy.
erplexedAll comments, viewpoints and thoughts are appreciated. Hopefully some of ya'll might be a little easier on the new guy.
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empressri
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I see loced men with permies all of the time. Some even loudly announce how they find natural women unattractive. Actually, a lot of loced and/or "Black power" black men I see date/marry WW.
Anyway, that's why I never understood why black women assume loced men are down with the naps.
girl....dont get me STARTED on that one!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HeavenlySkies
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After reading the comment in the interview and then reading his "clarification" in the comment section yeahhhhhhhhhh he's a beautiful wrapped piece of doodoo.
RossBoss
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I bet you he doesn't date dark skinned women..lol..These types of dark skinned men are usually repulsed by women who share the same skin tone as they do. But as others have said, the man is probably just stating his preference ( I didn't watch the video).
Y'all are giving this man entirely too much attention. He is really not that important.Try this Mission Update—The First National Tune-Out Week — The Sojourner's Passport
instead of worrying about what some random black man who adds nothing of value to your life thinks about your hair. Some of you are all upset meanwhile that dude is probably off somewhere enjoying his life with a woman whose hair he likes.
I haven't read that blog, but if you've been following it and it is full of things that bring black women down then stop reading it, and look at something uplifting instead.
instead of worrying about what some random black man who adds nothing of value to your life thinks about your hair. Some of you are all upset meanwhile that dude is probably off somewhere enjoying his life with a woman whose hair he likes.
I haven't read that blog, but if you've been following it and it is full of things that bring black women down then stop reading it, and look at something uplifting instead.
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