Crystalicequeen123
Well-Known Member
Here's a question for you natural ladies (or ladies who have BEEN natural before)....
Did you find that your views about your natural hair and men changed when you went natural?
Let me explain lol.....
I've now been natural since late 2010 (so...over 3 years now), and I'm finding that while I LOVE experimenting with new hair styles (straight styles, weave, twists w/added hair, etc), I'm almost hoping that I DON'T meet a guy (or a potential bf ) when my hair is either heat-straightened, or in a straight weave. erplexed
I guess, my fear is that maybe the guy will get used to my hair in those styles and think that my hair (or my look) is always like this, and it's not....
Idk...it's weird, because ever since I went natural, I find that I feel very disingenuous with hair weave and my natural hair straightened. Whereas, when I was chemically relaxed, I NEVER felt this way.
I feel like if I meet a guy and my hair is in its natural state, and he likes me regardless, then that would be cool, because THEN...if I decide to "switch it up" every now and then I would know that he still liked me with natural hair. But the reverse....Idk...it just feels very different for me and I can't exactly explain why... It's almost as if I feel like I want to be the most "real" me as possible when I'm meeting or might be introduced to a potential guy who could be a romantic prospect. Idk...maybe it's silly...
Has anyone else ever felt this way??
Did you find that your views about your natural hair and men changed when you went natural?
Let me explain lol.....
I've now been natural since late 2010 (so...over 3 years now), and I'm finding that while I LOVE experimenting with new hair styles (straight styles, weave, twists w/added hair, etc), I'm almost hoping that I DON'T meet a guy (or a potential bf ) when my hair is either heat-straightened, or in a straight weave. erplexed
I guess, my fear is that maybe the guy will get used to my hair in those styles and think that my hair (or my look) is always like this, and it's not....
Idk...it's weird, because ever since I went natural, I find that I feel very disingenuous with hair weave and my natural hair straightened. Whereas, when I was chemically relaxed, I NEVER felt this way.
I feel like if I meet a guy and my hair is in its natural state, and he likes me regardless, then that would be cool, because THEN...if I decide to "switch it up" every now and then I would know that he still liked me with natural hair. But the reverse....Idk...it just feels very different for me and I can't exactly explain why... It's almost as if I feel like I want to be the most "real" me as possible when I'm meeting or might be introduced to a potential guy who could be a romantic prospect. Idk...maybe it's silly...
Has anyone else ever felt this way??