tashboog-
If your hair is 4a, its very fine and you may not have a lot of hair on your head, density. I have very fine 4a hair that appears to be very thick and even coarse when I wear an afro. It APPEARS to be thick when Im wearing dry stretched styles. Twistouts, braidouts etc...When you touch it its soft like cotton with
roots that feel almost straight. I used to wet set my hair and it looked relaxed. I hate to admit that I hated the fact that my hair had a relaxed look especially since its so fine. This was my personal feeling. So, I found some info on fine 4a hair and began to lay off the conditioner. Check blogger Natural Selection if you are interested. She has a lot of info on fine hair. I have found that a leave in conditioner is all my fine strands can stand. Since I researched fine natural hair, I have noticed that some naturals are over moisturizing and conditioning. Type 4 hair can be just as fine as type two or three with low density .Since I stopped those cowashes and deep conditioning my has thickened a lot, looks, feels and is more healthy and has grown a lot. This may be why people think your hair looks relaxed. My mother would see me with what appeared to be a thick coarse afro one day and if I did a braid out on wet hair she would say, did you get a relaxer? Lol! My personal decision is thickness, big hair and dry styling using a leave in, oils and butters. People have asked me why I like the thick fluffy look instead of the fine wet set. Dismissed! I love my hair this way instead of the other way. Just sharing my discovery!
Your hair may just be very versatile. Do what suits you!
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