I'll join the challenge...if there is still one going on.
Here's my story. Unlike my nape, my story is long!
First of all, I'm new so I don't know what most of acronyms mean--just a few. I have 4b hair in the front (wavy, thick, even shiny, anywhere from 4-7 inches--wish I had that hair all over--life would be easy) and 4c hair in the back (no discernible wave, just kinky, nappy cotton and dry as a bone, two small bald spots on either side, otherwise anywhere from .25-1.25 inches at longest).
My nape has always been short, creating a "mushroom" effect with just about any down style, but over the years I have grown it out from time to time only to break it off.
The first bad nape experience was when an unlicensed hair stylist my mother took me to when I was a little girl left relaxer on my head for what seemed like 4-eva--in the name of getting it bone-straight.
I got a bad chemical burn from that all the way up to the ears, and that's when my nape started growing in funny--in patches.
My mother blamed me for my breakage and kept telling me I was picking my hair out--but I did touch it a lot because it was very itchy all the time. Hairstylists would ask my why I shaved my hair (I didn't). No one could conceive that my hair and the skin in particular was possibly permanently damaged back there.
That one episode has made me promise that if I ever had a little girl, I would never force her to straighten her hair...period. Now that there is more education out there, I've discovered that while my hair back there is fine, it is no longer damaged--the two bald spots are called alopecia and I have a very mild case of it. (Look this up on the Internet if you want to see how severe this could be. I am counting my blessings.)
As far as my hair type goes...thank God for role models like Macy Gray and Erykah Badu--back then when I went natural, all people knew was Buckwheat looks like that.
Nowadays, people don't fear the fro as much. Still, while I'm no longer afraid to wear my nape exposed like I used to be, I find people at work and at the store often trying to catch a closer look at my nape--like watching a bad car accident. They don't dare say a word...but they do compliment me on my cornrows. I'm not actually that good at cornrowing--they just have no point of reference so it looks good to them.
Which reminds me--I've seen some posts of women who say they can't cornrow.
I know how it is because I used to be like that...just thought I didn't have it in me. Until one day I really wanted to cornrow myself, I tried it on myself and it was a mess. Then I just kept practicing and practicing until I got it to a point I could wear out. I'm not going to open my own cornrow shop anytime soon or anything, but I think of myself as a pretty decent cornrower.
I've 4 unique styles I wear now--people compliment me on them all the time. They're amazed I can do that to my own hair. It used to take me hours, and now it takes me literally 15 minutes to cornrow my head. My point is...you don't really know if you can do something until you try, and keep practicing until you get it right.
So, back to the nape story... while I probably won't be able to achieve waist-length growth, I know that with a little TLC I can grow my nape at least 3 inches. It's always this long after several months of braids, and then I don't know how to treat it--so it eventually breaks off.
So here's my regimen which I've been following for about a week:
* No relaxer whatsoever...hair can't handle it
* No heat on the nape..period. No curling iron...ever.
* Moisturize with Jojoba and Marsh conditioner once in the evenings and once in the morning, saturated, light rinse in the morning
* Satin wrap at night...AND a satin pillow (I need to figure out the slippage issue)
* Wash once a week with Jojoba and Peppermint shampoo...once a week is all my hair can handle, it does not like water...I've even thought about washing it in Olive Oil once because I need the moisture, but the water seems to dry it out something terrible
* I'll also try some temple balm back there and on the edges.
* Once it grows out a little, I'm going to cornrow it, too, but not too tightly as we all know what happens when you do that. If I get real ambitious I'll probably braid my hair this weekend..but still keep my moisturizing regimen.
Anyway, I'll join the challenge and my name is shaboom.