hopeful
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It's been so helpful getting everyone's perspective. Y'all are right; it IS just one day. I don't want this to end our friendship, although I will say it's putting a VERY bad taste in my mouth. But I'm going to bite the bullet, braid my hair up, and put on a wig. I guess I'll just grin and bear it.
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She shouldn't want to end the friendship either. It goes both ways. If she wants an updo, fine, you can do that with your natural hair. If she wants it down, half-up/half-down, you can do that with twists or braids. My point is there are many things you can do with your natural hair. You are not insisting on wearing a fro.
If it were me, I would have a talk with her. I'm actually surprised that a real friend wouldn't know you well enough to see this may be a problem. I also wouldn't be offended and huffy either. You know your hair is beautiful and that's all that matters. Maybe you two can look at pics and find a solution together.
I hadn't already made my decision before I started this post. I was actually just looking for some feedback from women of color.
I don't think I have a bad attitude about this. I would NEVER be rude or harsh to my friend about this, and I certainly won't pout the day of the wedding if I do have to wear a wig. I came here to vent and get some advice, that's all.
You do not have a bad attitude about this at all.
I was half-joking about not wanting to be in any more weddings. I'm not going to do that to my friends. But if someone ever asks me to be in their wedding again, I'm going to have a discussion about my hair FIRST! lol
Exactly! Lesson learned. Next time you will be ready