I would have responded..."From your pic, I would have guessed that you were more attractive.....but it's ok"
he's white. He said "from your pic I thought you were darker, but it's OK." Like...you'll do. He was really disappointed I wasn't darker.
As if interracial relationships aren't tough enough, now I have to pass a color shade test.
BTW...I am a deep, rich brown color.
I would have responded..."From your pic, I would have guessed that you were more attractive.....but it's ok"
Lots of WM seem to prefer their sistahs "really Black"...they like the natural hair...dreds seem to big thing, dark skin, and even gelee type dressing. You see this quite often.
Ironic. Sistahs always assume they are "too dark, etc" for non BM and when the guy wants just that, y'all trippin' there too! Lawdy!
Men of NO race can seem to win w/ sistahs.
(OP that's no knock at YOU personally, but these kinds of things are often among the complaints of BW about men in general. Some of us seem to resent men having ANY preferences at all. )
wait, wait, wait, hold up. so a guy meets her and comments on how her skin isn't dark enough but that it'll suffice and she's supposed to be happy about that?
i see nothing wrong w. her being wary of this guy.
Did you read what I wrote? I made it specifically clear I wasn't referring to her sitch, but the general beefs.
He was VERY rude to say that to her...a complete stranger, but why should anyone be surprised that men have prefs? Some folks act like having prefs is a sin or something.
In reading her post, she seemed much more angry that he had a pref than that he was rude in expressing it to her, at least to me. Please don't try to make it something it ain't. She's upset that he had a color pref.
I photograph darker in my photos than I am IRL, especially in winter, so I've had several guys (online) comment that they thought I was darker--one was white, and two were black. It's just an observation, IMO, unless the guy is a fetishist, which is not a good look at all. I dated a (white) guy who had a fetishist preference for darker skinned women in college, and it was not cool.