hunnybunny81
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I decided to start this thread because of something that I saw in the Entertainment forum and it got me thinking. I have a very unconventional way of seeing things and wanted to know if their was anyone else that shared in the way I think...and if you don't I'm curious to know why you believe what you do....
So basically this is about Diddy and Kim Porter. A lot of women think that she's stupid or whatever for always "going back to him" and a lot of people think that he doesn't "really love her" because he always steps out on her and won't marry her....
I have come to believe that there are in fact a LOT of men out here like Diddy...and women like Kim...now I'm not making excuses or trying to debate about right or wrong...I just don't necessarily subscribe to the belief that a woman like Kim should be labeled "stupid"...
Here's what I think, I think its possible for a man to love a woman and STILL sleep with other women. I believe that a majority of men's emotions are very separate from their penis. They make decisions with their private parts that have nothing to do with their emotions, and I believe it is why a lot of men have a difficult time being in a monogamous relationship. They have an emotional tie with a woman, yet there is a part of them(their penis) that feels the neeed to be sexual with other women outside of his relationship....does that mean the man doesn't love you??????
I personally don't think it means that, I think he can Love you, and still venture out of his relationship. There are a lot of people that have "open relationships/marriages" based on this premise...and I begin to wonder sometimes if it really is THAT hard of a thing to believe that there are people out there who have emotional ties with one person but not just phyiscal ties with one person.
And is a woman "Stupid" for involving herself with a man who has emotional ties with her and physical ties with her AND other women......I understand the risks from a HEALTH standpoint so I don't feel the need to get into a lot of back and forth on that issue...I'm more more so interested in talking about the emotional aspect of this dynamic. Men being able to separate their emotions from sex and what women think about that....
Am I stupid for understanding that a man can have emotional ties with me and physical ties with someone other than me that have nothing to do with his emotions. Or am i just enlightened. There are a lot of women, who are in relationships with men that step out on them, that don't know that they are being stepped out on...and on the flip side there are women, who do know it and still choose to be involved with that man...
So does that make her "Stupid", does that mean he doesn't "really love her"????????????
There are just my thoughts...if you disagree hopefully you'll do so respectfully.....
So basically this is about Diddy and Kim Porter. A lot of women think that she's stupid or whatever for always "going back to him" and a lot of people think that he doesn't "really love her" because he always steps out on her and won't marry her....
I have come to believe that there are in fact a LOT of men out here like Diddy...and women like Kim...now I'm not making excuses or trying to debate about right or wrong...I just don't necessarily subscribe to the belief that a woman like Kim should be labeled "stupid"...
Here's what I think, I think its possible for a man to love a woman and STILL sleep with other women. I believe that a majority of men's emotions are very separate from their penis. They make decisions with their private parts that have nothing to do with their emotions, and I believe it is why a lot of men have a difficult time being in a monogamous relationship. They have an emotional tie with a woman, yet there is a part of them(their penis) that feels the neeed to be sexual with other women outside of his relationship....does that mean the man doesn't love you??????
I personally don't think it means that, I think he can Love you, and still venture out of his relationship. There are a lot of people that have "open relationships/marriages" based on this premise...and I begin to wonder sometimes if it really is THAT hard of a thing to believe that there are people out there who have emotional ties with one person but not just phyiscal ties with one person.
And is a woman "Stupid" for involving herself with a man who has emotional ties with her and physical ties with her AND other women......I understand the risks from a HEALTH standpoint so I don't feel the need to get into a lot of back and forth on that issue...I'm more more so interested in talking about the emotional aspect of this dynamic. Men being able to separate their emotions from sex and what women think about that....
Am I stupid for understanding that a man can have emotional ties with me and physical ties with someone other than me that have nothing to do with his emotions. Or am i just enlightened. There are a lot of women, who are in relationships with men that step out on them, that don't know that they are being stepped out on...and on the flip side there are women, who do know it and still choose to be involved with that man...
So does that make her "Stupid", does that mean he doesn't "really love her"????????????
There are just my thoughts...if you disagree hopefully you'll do so respectfully.....