Ladybelle
New Member
Okay, I had to get some opinions on this one. I work with mostly women and you know women talk to each other about just about everything. Anyhow, these two women in particular that I work with do not hesitate to admit they have "side men" in their marriages and have had them for the majority of the marriage. The curious person I am, had to know, why? Here's the responses they gave:
1) keeps friction down- when dh isn't acting or doing right, they just see the side man who doesn't give them any trouble, they in turn say they are better wives because they have no need to nag the main man and as a result he feels more respected & appreciated.
2) coloring- when dh isn't coloring well or the side man colors better and they both said that marriage goes through coloring phases,during the "off" seasons they deal with the side man. In additon the side man does things with her that the dh won't do.
3) other benefits- which varied between the two women, but some of them were financial and emotional. For whatever reason, they feel more appreciated and wanted by the side man.
4) because he does it: they both said that the side man came into their lives as a result of DH cheating or a strong suspicion of cheating. Rather than to continue to feel bad because of dh's actions, they decided to do it too and ended up liking the side action
Another question i couldn't bring myself to ask them was: You're doing all this,but isn't there a price? It seems there has to be some penalty for this type of indiscretion. Even though after years of doing it, they've never been caught.
Are there women who do this for a lifetime without any problems? If so, how & why?
Any thoughts about this?
1) keeps friction down- when dh isn't acting or doing right, they just see the side man who doesn't give them any trouble, they in turn say they are better wives because they have no need to nag the main man and as a result he feels more respected & appreciated.
2) coloring- when dh isn't coloring well or the side man colors better and they both said that marriage goes through coloring phases,during the "off" seasons they deal with the side man. In additon the side man does things with her that the dh won't do.
3) other benefits- which varied between the two women, but some of them were financial and emotional. For whatever reason, they feel more appreciated and wanted by the side man.
4) because he does it: they both said that the side man came into their lives as a result of DH cheating or a strong suspicion of cheating. Rather than to continue to feel bad because of dh's actions, they decided to do it too and ended up liking the side action
Another question i couldn't bring myself to ask them was: You're doing all this,but isn't there a price? It seems there has to be some penalty for this type of indiscretion. Even though after years of doing it, they've never been caught.
Are there women who do this for a lifetime without any problems? If so, how & why?
Any thoughts about this?