....maybe some kind of half-time nanny just for when she is coming home from school if cost is not prohibitive? I'm just really concerned with anyone that would enact this type of behavior on a child especially when given explicit instructions not to do so. It goes to the motive of this type of behavior and makes me question her cousins ability to properly care for ANY child.
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She wasn't even woman enough tell you what was going on.
. THIS is what burns me up about "folx" and their jealousy and envy toward another person. While your cousin's bi-racial child is on one side, hair perfectly healthy and taken care of, your baby is pushed to the side as if she is yesterday's garbage. Does she not DESERVE to have healthy hair or something? I won't even go there on the political side of it. I am burning up. Why did I know you were gonna say what she said, VERBATIM, about the maintenance involved in taking care of your baby's hair? I am so SICK AND TIRED of "us" saying the same ol S*&! about "our" hair and how it is TOO this or TOO that and the ONLY thing that will FIX it is a relaxer!!! Okay, let me calm down...breathe and stop Mica...okay, I am back. I will stop here before I get upset again. Thank you for everything you are doing for our country and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. 
You can come scoop me up if you need assistance.I'm wondering if this is the result of 1 relaxer or several over a period of time? If this happened over a period of time, cousin should have atleast told you what was happening so you could advise her on the situation. Regardless of how you would have reacted. As a parent, I would rather hear someone say "I made a mistake, I'm sorry, what do you want me to do?". Rather than come home to a "surprise" like this.
I'm serious, I can get a load to your area ( I can get there in 3 days)so I can have that "discussion" with your cousin. If you kick her a** out, I'm sure I have plenty of room in my trailer for her belongings and I will drop her a** off somewhere.
I know thats right! When my dd goes to her dads house for the weekend this has been a concern for me too. That is why usually I send her in twists because I don't want them up in her hair. They comb too roughly, tight ponytails, all that and i'm not having it. This chile best not EVA come here with a perm or there will be a ww3 up in this ****
. This is one of my fears when she is the care of others. I know her hair is hard to deal with, I fight with it everyday. But it really pisses me off that people have the nerve to do this with no regard to the up keep of having a relaxer. Who says I want the responsibility of maintaining a relaxer amongst all the other things I need to do as a mother???????? It pisses me off that these people clearly know that a relaxer is something that cant be changed once its done, and with the little bit of knowledge they do have when it comes to hair they know that according to what the majority thinks a relaxer has to be done every 4-6 weeks, what gives them the right to decide that’s something I want to do when there arses are at home laying up and I have to maintain this new chore they have decided to give me. I swear I feel like calling her fathers momma and them right now and tell them if they even think about putting any kind of chemicals, blow dryers, curling irons, hot combs. Flat irons or anything else near her head I will choke the breath out of them all and DD hasn’t even left yet . She will be 7 in a few weeks and I can’t see the point in straight hair for her just because, she’s a child and her hair should remain braided or in ponytails until further notice and she doesn’t need a relaxer to achieve either of the 2.
