Look what she did to my baby's hair.....cry, mad, angry!! I NEED HELP!!!

so sad. she deserves a beat down! i would dust her ends. and start using a good shampoo moist cond and protein cond. it will grow back. and back to the beat down :)
 
I missed this thread last year. The after photos really got my blood boiling, but I am happy you found a resolution. I would love to hear about your baby's progress.
 
SHOOOT this is not even MY child and I want to beat her A$$ for you. Listen are you ANYWHERE near a 100 mile radius of Chicago. Hell I will go and take care of your daughters hair FOR you. Goodness My heart goes out to you cause I see how BEAUTIFUL your daughters hair was when you were dealing with it. BTW you daughter is absolutely Stunning. It is a sad shame that your cousin did this with no remorse what so ever. He hair is not unmanagable. Her hair is beautiful and thick. But yet HER child was totally coifed. I am angry and upset that people do this when you left all the products that she needed. Braids and trims probably would be the best thing now. Cause I know you don't want to cut all of her hair off and start from scratch.

This is Ri DIC U LOUS.

I am so sorry but your cousin as we say in Arabic is a SHARMUTA.





Impresaria said:
I am so sad. I am more upset at something I see in this MUCH deeper than her hair. She is the ONLY Black little girl in her class. I take extreme pride in taking care of my children and making sure that they look well-groomed and put together. To think that my poor baby was going to school, cheer-leading practice, just out and about LOOKING TORE UP by the head just KILLS ME!!! Her hair was completely natural. I can look at the little new growth and see that the last perm was maybe about two weeks ago? I asked my cousin WHAT THE HELLLL....she said that Naiomi's hair was:

UNMANAGEABLE!!
HARD TO COMB!!
TOO THICK!!
A PERM WAS THE ONLY THING TO FIX IT!!

I said BULL****! I have been managing it fine for 8 years and YOU CALL THIS FIXED??!! How is what it looks like now fixed! Oh, I get it, it's fixed to look like all the other little Black girls running around with broken off, damaged hair.

I am equally MAD at my own mother and two sisters who live 45 minutes away who never cared to check on their ONLY grand-daughter and niece. That's my biggest dilemna, finding someone who is going to consistently care for her hair.

MAD!!
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omg wow! My hair always looked like that as a little kid because my mom was hair care illiterate. I trust that her hair will get better with your care. It will take a while but she'll have beautiful hair in no time.

woops just realized this thread was from 2008.
 
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I just responded to a thread like this yesterday and now today! What the Bleep is wrong with people!

This happened to me and I am now AGAIN reminded of my anger! If she was too damn lazy to wash and condition and handle your childs natural hair. She should have left it the **** alone!!!! Oooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-(
 
ok!!! i read this thread ealier and was not even able to post because i was sooooo furious....this entire situation highlights so many steriotypes and ridiculous ignorant habits that some in our culture cling too...This thread just angers me... i tried to cool down but i find myself still thinking bout it!!!
1. Who the h$ll would perm someones elses CHILD's hair w/out getting parental permision???
2. So...her babies "mixed" hair is worth more time and effort in doing then the "black" haired babies??
3. And even if she permed the hair...are we still that ignorant to where we dont know that a child with permed hair cannot be..rubber baned, gelled, pulled and other horrible hair practices??

I would say that she did this on purpose but then all i have to do is look at other chewed up...permed lifeless little girls hair out there and remember that some of us are just still plain ignorant...

Anyway... i sooo pissed right now...but its been a year and i know that the wonderful ladies on this bored has helped the baby out...im anxious to hear any updates....

btw... i feel that the OP must have had some angels on her side because i have read each of her post and she remained sooo poised, mature, and with much self control...She gets maddd love from me!!!
 
You will need to braid her hair. Plus she will still be able to be as versatile with braids. Her hair will grow back really quick..don't worry. :bighug:
 
This is just awful. I can't believe this. How dare your cousin do this? Where do some people get off and without even asking your permission?:wallbash:
 
i would cut a few inches off, and then have her wear cute braids for about a year to get her health and length back.

i am so sorry this happened to you.

hugs hugs and more hugs
 
OMG. I hardly know what to say. I hate to say anything bad about anybody's cousin, but she has some kind of problem with afro-textured hair...can't seem to deal with anything but "bi-racial",maybe Type 2 or 3.

Take a deep breath and here is what I'd do: This is one of those times we actually need hairdressers. I'd take her to one that you kinda trust and just get it all evened up. I think she could where a puff out the back of some headbands then until it grows out some. The way you had her hair was so nice....well trimmed, styled and conditioned....well loved and very cute. Can you bring her to someone professional who could do an old-fashined pre and curl? The point is to let the perm grow out at this point...I wouldn't worry about the heat so much.

Just remember how quickly little kids hair grows out.

I don't know what this will do to your relationship with your cousin. I would be furious!!!!

Love,
M
 
I want to cry! This brings back memories, but my aunt was responsible for this when i was 8.
To fix it, my grandma, BCed me, I got bullied:sad:. I had comb coils then braids, then it grew back, she just needs a responsible and KIND adult.

I wish I lived near u- Hopefully a kind hearted LHCFer, who lives close will help.

I would also suggest braids but, I don't even know, because your cousin sounds like she would just leave them in 4 too long, and it may mess up your babies HAIRLINE........This is just crazy.
 
I'm going to be very blunt. Why can't your husband learn to take care of his own daughter's hair? Isn't she staying with her dad? Shampoo and combout with ORS with a little ORS as a leave-in is very simple. Anybody can learn to braid a little braid. Just darned ridiculous!
 
I'm only on page 2 of reading the thread so I dont know if this has been asked yet but.....where are you located?? If your friends/ other family members cant help out then maybe there is a LHCF member in your city who can help out once a week or something.
 
GV-NA-GI-TLV-GE-I said:
I'm going to be very blunt. Why can't your husband learn to take care of his own daughter's hair? Isn't she staying with her dad? Shampoo and combout with ORS with a little ORS as a leave-in is very simple. Anybody can learn to braid a little braid. Just darned ridiculous!
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I know this is a long thread...OP mentioned that her EX-husband lives out of state. So no, he is not around to do his daughter hair.
 
For those who don't have time to read the entire thread, Page 28 Post #279...OP seemed to have found a solution back in 2008, before she returned to Iraq. The thread was bumped to see how her daughter's progress has been after a year.
 
Im so sorry this happened to your pretty little girl! Your cousin needs to get her @ss whipped for that!
 
My heart started racing really fast when I saw the 'after' pictures. I'm so sorry this happend to your daughter. :( I'm just as angry as you are.
 
Why in the &*%$ did she do this? This smells like some haterade ish going on!!! You said that her daughter was perfectly coiffed and she leaves your daughter's hair looking like this? Ohmigoshhhh I would be soooo furious at this! Your daughter is gorgeous! I would be very leary of letting anyone else putting their hands in your daughter's hair. It will thrive though and alot of the ladies advice on here is great. Co-washing,oiling,and braiding loosely will be your best bet on this.
 
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