Long hair ladies, can I live vicariously through you?

[beans4reezy]

i said i proably would get a perm but i don't want one.

So he is like why, Do U know about Soft Sheen Carson???

erplexed Wait! WHAT?! You see, this is why I can't stand having conversations about my hair!

 

[babydollhair]

erplexed Wait! WHAT?! You see, this is why I can't stand having conversations about my hair!

Yes. I was like Steve Harvey got everbody thinking they know about hair and some soft sheen carson... Anyway, But do know ppl are going to try to tell you what should be doing with YOUR hair. That is coming too...

 

[exoticmommie]

Cute vid! My hair is longer then the middle girl that was feelin herself and sometimes it'll be a regular mundane day transferring documents and "just because" I'll decide to enter an office building like that on purpose and those businessmen forget whatever it was they were doing the world becomes your runway

It's alota fun when your hair blows in the wind and swings from side to side while you walk

 

[LadyPaniolo]

Yes, Babydollhair, I know exactly what you are talking about. In my experience, black men are the WORST for this. They have an innate belief that every woman in existence is there to decorate their world. and he enjoyed seeing your hair long and straight, therefore you should do it! because he is the most important person in the whole wide world and your existence should be fashioned over what will make HIM happy.

I have had this conversation MANY many many times and it was always with black male coworkers. Ugh!

 

[beans4reezy]

Anyway, But do know ppl are going to try to tell you what should be doing with YOUR hair. That is coming too...

Thanks for the heads up babydollhair. I am getting my smart a#$ come backs together now!

 

[LadyPaniolo]

You will need those smart ash comebacks, I'm surprised you don't already!

I remember when I was barely CBL and the guy who was inspecting my car literally stopped me and gave me a lecture about why my hair should be out and not covered up... his reason? Because it's long thick and pretty. This said with shiny eyes and licking lips

 

[caribeandiva]

his reason? Because it's long thick and pretty. This said with shiny eyes and licking lips

 

[Amber_moon]

Yes, Babydollhair, I know exactly what you are talking about. In my experience, black men are the WORST for this. They have an innate belief that every woman in existence is there to decorate their world. and he enjoyed seeing your hair long and straight, therefore you should do it! because he is the most important person in the whole wide world and your existence should be fashioned over what will make HIM happy.

I have had this conversation MANY many many times and it was always with black male coworkers. Ugh!

Um.... this is not just black men.... its pretty much EVERY man.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

Um.... this is not just black men.... its pretty much EVERY man.

Every man may THINK and FEEL that way, but in *my experience* the ones who feel perfectly ok about coming out and telling a woman she should be doing x, y, and z because he enjoys seeing her that way are black men. Also men who have recently immigrated from Mexico and Guatemala.

ETA: to me there is a world of difference between a woman's SO or DH saying she should do this or that with her hair (because she CARES about his opinion) and a random cat at your job telling a woman she should do this and that with her appearance. Perhaps you were thinking of the context of a personal relationship? But I was talking about co-workers with an impersonal work-only platonic relationship.

 

[Amber_moon]

Every man may THINK and FEEL that way, but in *my experience* the ones who feel perfectly ok about coming out and telling a woman she should be doing x, y, and z because he enjoys seeing her that way are black men. Also men who have recently immigrated from Mexico and Guatemala.

ETA: to me there is a world of difference between a woman's SO or DH saying she should do this or that with her hair (because she CARES about his opinion) and a random cat at your job telling a woman she should do this and that with her appearance. Perhaps you were thinking of the context of a personal relationship? But I was talking about co-workers with an impersonal work-only platonic relationship.

nope. I was talking about anywhere ever. If you seriously ONLY think that black men do this then you haven't been around many non black men.... My ex boss did this to me ALL the time and he was about as lily white as you can get.

Most men have entitlement issues. It comes from the fact that most male children are treated like little gods by their mothers. Nothing at all to do with their race.

Anyway, I was just trying to say that, rudeness, and men being spoiled brats is a problem that transcends color. I just dont want this to turn into a race discussion. Thats a MALE trait... not just a Black Male trait.

(and to be completely fair.... women do this too.)

 

[caribeandiva]

...
(and to be completely fair.... women do this too.)

Guilty as charged.

I've been known to tell people: "you look so nice like that? why don't you do x,y,z more often?"

 

[me-T]

story to add:

went got a pedicure today, and there was a lady with nice lookin cbl relaxed hair, all smooth from a wrap. my hair's in a banana clip (did some mini braids, brushed it out, didn't look cute lol) it had a hump because it can't all fit in the clip lol

the owner asks "dat all you hair?" yes "oh! her hair not much, you have lot of hair!"

i didn't know how to feel cause even though mine looks longer & thicker, her hair looked better. she didn't say anything either.

 

[shopgalore]

Im reading all of these posts and I can't wait for my day to come when I have my long, healthy hair shaking and blowing in the wind. I wear weaves as a protective style, while I am growing out my TWA. I've worn weaves for years but never took decent care of my hair, until now.
I went to the salon a few days ago and when I took my scarf off revealing my TWA, jaws dropped. Some of the beauticians stared and my beautician said, "Oh you cut your hair" They looked at me as if that was something that I should not have done and I made a bad hair move. Maybe they think I should be like many of them and hold on to hair that is uneven and damaged. All of the hair stylists in the salon wear weaves, most of them don't have edges or a hairline and most of them don't have any hair. I've been going there for five years now and I've NEVER seen my beautician's real hair. I just refuse to end up like them, dependent on weaves.
Before my hair drama started, my hair was a little past shoulder length and I was ignorant to hair care. I've realized that a lot of LongHairDon'tCare's started from TWA and BCs and now have hair down their backs. I am on a mission to become a LongHairDon'tCare chick. Am I supposed to let another five more years pass and Im still wearing weaves, when I can take the initiative now and get my hair back on track and five years from now, my hair is down my back?
I'm going hard and nothing is gonna stop me this time!

I really like this thread and I love this post!! I would like to be a longhairdontcare chick! In 3 years!!Lol!

 

[exoticmommie]

story to add:

went got a pedicure today, and there was a lady with nice lookin cbl relaxed hair, all smooth from a wrap. my hair's in a banana clip (did some mini braids, brushed it out, didn't look cute lol) it had a hump because it can't all fit in the clip lol

the owner asks "dat all you hair?" yes "oh! her hair not much, you have lot of hair!"

i didn't know how to feel cause even though mine looks longer & thicker, her hair looked better. she didn't say anything either.

OMG!

That was so wrong, but still funny. I could visually see and hear it.

 

[MissYocairis]

I didn't see anything out of line in this thread at all...but different strokes....

Thank you. We can't shield our youth from human nature and the beauty of love, geesh. I love this thread.

 

[MissYocairis]

**timidly checks in....**

I love this thread!!!

It feels weird to include myself in the long hair category, but I am currently MBL ( trying to make it to waist this year). I love the way my braid feels against my back, when I'm in a bra or halter. My DH also plays in my hair, and I love when he " nuzzles" it. It is sublime to have him wash my hair, and he has this googley-eyed face when it's wet and covers my girls.

It makes me feel like such a woman when it's a windy day, and my hair is swirling all around my head, and just flowing in the breeze. I've got my " hair flip" perfected! I love the looks I get from doubters;( you know, the is that all hers looks?).

But....best of all, is the take-down.

This is when I unravel my twisted bun, that shows my length, just at the right time, like when I'm getting a stanky eye from someone, or a clear woman is flipping her shorter blonde locks ( I have a compulsion to out-flip her).

Long hair can cover for me when I'm having a bad face day, and can almost have the effect of cleavage when you need assistance from a man. Shoot, don't put the two together....you will get pretty much get whatever you need.

Love my LHCF sisters and HHG.

GREAT POST. In my longhair dreams...I out flip white women all day long...that is at the top of my long hair to-do list.

 

[I Am So Blessed]

im having a moment. i cant stop combing hair. hair just drops down my back. everybody in classs looks at my hair!!!!! it so thick and wavy. <--about the cry
i love having longhair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sometimes i be like "dam my hair is long!"

i stood in front of mirror tonight like "is this really all your hair adora?" and i answer "why, yes it is" ahhhhaahahahaha. when i bend to pick something up it all swings to one side, like what??!~!!!!!

lol ok ok ok ima calm down now.................SIKE, I AINT GONNA CALM DOWN, i grew my own hair, im AA and i grew long hair, im a black girl and i grew long as$ hair!!!

why wont my friends just listen to me about the moisture and protein thing, just whyyyy,

eta, and my fricken buns are fricken huge!!! when i was a little girl i use to envy spanish/white/asia et, girl with long hair and big buns, and now hahahahahahaha, well you know.

*swings hair as i leaves thread*

 

[Firstborn2]

Adora your post always have me cracking up. I'm not mad at you, swang that hair babygirl.

 

[I Am So Blessed]

Adora your post always have me cracking up. I'm not mad at you, swang that hair babygirl.

lol im just so happy, thank you! i know people tired of me already lol

 

[lilsparkle825]

I love this thread. A few days ago I read page 1 and saw there were like 11 more pages and quickly exited stage right but i HAD to come back and see what the hype was. PikiNiki and Lady P....GEEZ! Your hair is perfection!!!

I'm not in the LHCF Long Hair Club, but this is still the longest my hair has ever been (it's grown maybe an inch or two since I took that avi pic in November) and I love it. I'm doing a HYH right now trying to hit BSL before I hit 2 years of being natural in June, but threads like this make me wanna take these crochet braids out and SHAKE SHAKE SHAKE my hair!

I want to sit at a table and prop my elbow on it...and watch my hair fall over my shoulders when I rest my chin in the palm of my hand

I want to pull on a hoodie and pull my hair out from under it and watch it flow...

Now that I have lost 15 lbs and physical therapy (I was in a car accident in December) is getting me in the best shape I've been in since 10th grade, I can't WAIT till this summer to go to the beach...or just wear a bikini for the hell of it and pull my straightened hair over my shoulder then throw it back...or to have a huuuuuuge twistout with a flower tucked behind my ear. A killer body + dream hair AND a tan? Shooooot, I'll be unstoppable. (I feel so dirty saying that!)

I can't wait till my hateful cousins, who raised me to think I was an alien or an outcast because I was lightskinned and had "good hair" (I resented my appearance for the longest time as a child), see my hair at BSL and blame it on my "good hair". Mind you, my hair was NEVER longer than SL, despite this supposed "good hair" thing. I'll then point to my younger sister, who they used to tease for having "bad hair" but now has hair longer than mine, and say "well what happened to her?"

and I REALLY can't wait till my ex sees my hair. He was one of my biggest critics when I BC'd (we were still dating at the time) and only ever gave me one compliment...he told me one day that I looked like a lighter, skinnier Jill Scott. (So basically I look nothing like her....?) He haaaaated when I went blonde, haaaaaated when I cut my hair into a bob....all that hate....because he told me he was in love with long dark hair. Thus, anytime I wore my raggedy, dandruff-y NL/barely SL hair down, he loved it. He'll probably flip a %$&@ when he sees me in June when I get a Dominican blowout.

 

[beans4reezy]

^^^ I like your post! Good for you lilsparkle....I have a feeling the haters will be coming out in full force after you!

 

[lilsparkle825]

^^^ I like your post! Good for you lilsparkle....I have a feeling the haters will be coming out in full force after you!

I just hope that they're not mostly family. They think my suggestions (no grease?! GASP) are crazy, but can't say they aren't working...I'm trying to convert my aunt first, then I'll move to her two daughters, the ones I referenced in my last post. Then again...they think she has "good hair" too

I just remembered another one...my new boo met me when I was rocking box braids, so his first time seeing my real hair was about a week and a half ago. I was wearing a WNG...I had just washed it before he came over and threw some leave-in in it. He wanted me to twist his hair while he was at my house, and somewhere along the way he made some comment about his SL hair being longer than mine. He had blowdried it before coming over, so it was only at about 75% shrinkage, while mine was at 50% or more. All I could do was smirk, then I silently grabbed a curl and stretched it down. When it hit my shoulders, then my armpits...and kept going...he just got QUIET. I didn't say anything, just went back to twisting his hair. The next thing he says is "well, I bet it wouldn't be longer if we both PRESSED IT!" I realized at that moment that he was searching for something to say...he felt insecure since his hair has been either undeniably shorter (from dating Hispanic girls) or undeniably longer (from dating Black girls -- his assumption, not mine) than most girls he has been involved with...so I just giggled. I hope I don't dump him before June so he can be proven wrong AGAIN.

 

[dlewis]

I must say I love my hair. I love the big wild looking hair like my hair today. I love rolling around with DH and him telling me how beautiful my hair is in the moment. I sometimes think "I can grow longer and wrap my hair around both of us".

The other night he was laying on the couch and I was sitting on him kissing him , my hair fell around us and my daughter walks in a asks "what are yall doing?" But she couldn't see us, we were in a cocoon. Both of our faces was completely enclosed by my hair.

 

[Jozze]

I must say I love my hair. I love the big wild looking hair like my hair today. I love rolling around with DH and him telling me how beautiful my hair is in the moment. I sometimes think "I can grow longer and wrap my hair around both of us".

The other night he was laying on the couch and I was sitting on him kissing him , my hair fell around us and my daughter walks in a asks "what are yall doing?" But she couldn't see us, we were in a cocoon. Both of our faces was completely enclosed by my hair.

I love this!! Oh how I remember those long hair cuddles...darn it! I can't wait to be back to MBL!!!

 

[LadyPaniolo]

I really look forward to breaking necks when I take my trip to Europe in 2011. I will be shameless with the hair flipping and I plan to switch like I'm on the catwalk EVERYWHERE I go.

 

[blazingthru]

I love when i go visit my Grandma....she's so in love with my hair....but she hasn't seen the length it is lately bc i usually always have it up.

When i first hit BSL...we went to visit her one day and she was like...why do you always where your hair up? So i took it down while i was explaining and her face slid to the floor!!!!

Hahahaha

LOl I can't wait till that day, I can't wait I love how you tell it.

 

[SHEANITPRO]

Living with long hair as a black women is like having a magical elixir. Folks do stand at "attention". I must say one of the key observations I had is that folks do seem to treat you nice. I have actually experienced partiality and preferencial treatment, all because of my hair.

I get stalked by the asians in the bss, ladies at church, and oh yes at the mall.

I enjoy taking care of my hair to ensure its good health and nothing warms the cockles of my heart more, than when a woman genuinely approaches me for hair tips.

Gotta luv this long hair!

 

[BostonMaria]

Living with long hair as a black women is like having a magical elixir. Folks do stand at "attention". I must say one of the key observations I had is that folks do seem to treat you nice. I have actually experienced partiality and preferencial treatment, all because of my hair.

I get stalked by the asians in the bss, ladies at church, and oh yes at the mall.

I enjoy taking care of my hair to ensure its good health and nothing warms the cockles of my heart more, than when a woman genuinely approaches me for hair tips.

Gotta luv this long hair!

OMG you are too funny! But I hear ya because I'm the same way. I love it when people approach me for help. I should give out business cards because God knows my "advice" can last for days I need more than 5 minutes.

I've noticed that people are "nicer" to me now that I have longer hair. Could be coincidence since I live near Cambridge and people tend to be nicer on this side of the planet. I like to pretend its the power of my hair *high kick* Woosah!

 

[exoticmommie]

I must say I love my hair. I love the big wild looking hair like my hair today. I love rolling around with DH and him telling me how beautiful my hair is in the moment. I sometimes think "I can grow longer and wrap my hair around both of us".

The other night he was laying on the couch and I was sitting on him kissing him , my hair fell around us and my daughter walks in a asks "what are yall doing?" But she couldn't see us, we were in a cocoon. Both of our faces was completely enclosed by my hair.

Whoo Whoo! I can't wait to roll around with my DH, with hair swanging everywhere. :eyebrow:


BTW, BOUT TIME YOU CAME IN HERE AND SHARED!

Living with long hair as a black women is like having a magical elixir. Folks do stand at "attention". I must say one of the key observations I had is that folks do seem to treat you nice. I have actually experienced partiality and preferencial treatment, all because of my hair.

I get stalked by the asians in the bss, ladies at church, and oh yes at the mall.

I enjoy taking care of my hair to ensure its good health and nothing warms the cockles of my heart more, than when a woman genuinely approaches me for hair tips.

Gotta luv this long hair!

I want some long hair magic!

 

[dlewis]

I don't know how I missed this thread. I can't respond like I want, gotta keep it pg on the board. But I love love rolling around with dh with my hair down. It just feels so good.