classycrimson
Active Member
I'm not trying to judge your situation...but just to give you some perspective...
My SO and I live 2 hrs away from each other. He works over 70 hrs a week in a high stress job and has a part-time job...and still makes it down to see me 2-3 times EVERY week...and leaves at 4AM in the morning to drive alll the way to work....hundreds per month extra in gas and tolls. I don't have to ask him to do this...he does it happily. He refuses to let me drive and see him most of the time cuz there is more traffic coming my way than his and he doesnt want me to be out late driving if I dont have to when he can make it easier for me...and he wants to protect me. He makesw sure that we spend quality time 2gether and even when he is super busy will call me quickly to say he loves me or is thinking about me...and will text, email, send pics, etc... I also work almost every weekend in addition to the 9-5 (i sing)...and this past weekend I had a show but he had to work....and he drove 6 hrs in traffic...after he worked 10 hrs on a SATURDAY to come and see the END of my show (which was over 3 hrs from where I live).
I have heard of men doing much more. Trust me....when they want to, they really do step up to the plate...and you are SO worth one who will That's all we're trying to say.
My SO and I live 2 hrs away from each other. He works over 70 hrs a week in a high stress job and has a part-time job...and still makes it down to see me 2-3 times EVERY week...and leaves at 4AM in the morning to drive alll the way to work....hundreds per month extra in gas and tolls. I don't have to ask him to do this...he does it happily. He refuses to let me drive and see him most of the time cuz there is more traffic coming my way than his and he doesnt want me to be out late driving if I dont have to when he can make it easier for me...and he wants to protect me. He makesw sure that we spend quality time 2gether and even when he is super busy will call me quickly to say he loves me or is thinking about me...and will text, email, send pics, etc... I also work almost every weekend in addition to the 9-5 (i sing)...and this past weekend I had a show but he had to work....and he drove 6 hrs in traffic...after he worked 10 hrs on a SATURDAY to come and see the END of my show (which was over 3 hrs from where I live).
I have heard of men doing much more. Trust me....when they want to, they really do step up to the plate...and you are SO worth one who will That's all we're trying to say.
To say he's not interested without all the facts is jumping to conclusion. No one but me and him truely know our relationship...and granted ur only seeing one side of the story. You all dont know all the things ive done like not wanting to hangout as friends when we first met....to making him come see me and not the other way around.
You have to realize that we do live 1 hr apart without traffic although we live in the same city. And he knows i dont like to drive on his side of town....so unless he wants to drive an hour hangout for a couple of hours and then drive back an 1, its a little much to ask sometimes.
Hanging out during the week is hard b/c we both have very unusal schedules and pretty much work all day during the week.
I really do appreciate the advice about not sending the letter...thanks.....but please dont give blanket respones without knowing whats going on in our relationship. B/c even now....if he really wanted to leave he would....he wouldnt talk about marriage and he wouldnt call me first all the time.