What are your thoughts on "Let men be men?" What is your definition of this phrase?
I just wrote an e-mail to a friend about this (Please don't stone me! I'm not suggesting all women be SAHMs...)
ETA: I know this e-mail is all over the place..hopefully someone gets my drift.
I just wrote an e-mail to a friend about this (Please don't stone me! I'm not suggesting all women be SAHMs...)
Your thoughts?You know what else I was thinking? When I read this something dawned on me. Women should let men be men. Men should go to work, women should take care of their homes and raise their children. We need to raise the standards of men, especially Black men-- don't let them off the hook so easily. Having sex whenever, wherever. Allowing an open relationship when deep in our hearts we yearn for monogamy. Accepting cheating and turning a deaf ear when we know better. If a man wants to be with you, not hell nor high water will keep him from it.
As far as we have come as a society, we really need to just start over and go back to basics. I am a woman. Women need to start being women again-- let him lift you up mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically. Let him be the breadwinner, be the head of your household-- in essence, be a man. I can do almost anything a man can do but why would I want to? Marriage was meant to last a lifetime, not be exaulted for lasting a decade. It's a partnership and men and women have roles-- as traditional as that sounds, I believe it. We have the opportunity to not dumb-down relationships but so often, we go for the cheap thrill and it's tearing Black families apart. It kind of makes me sick.
I love being a woman and letting my boyfriend do what he is supposed to do. Pull out my chair, open my car door, send me my favorite flower just because. Leave a post-it note in my luggage with my plane ticket telling me he loves me. Courting me the right way... Maybe I am too optimistic but men need to stop being coddled and start being men. Technically I could do everything he could do...hell, I might even do it better...but I have expectations for him, I have needs and wants that transcend beyond gender roles... Sometimes I just like being doted on, being loved and held, being respected but at the same time RESPECTING YOU. Not having to put up a 'strong front' of independence to prove that I'm capable of being superwoman. Not hiding my emotions from men because I need them to RESPECT me. I show vulnerability... hope, hapiness, warmth. I'm approachable but sexy. Isn't that how it should be??
ETA: I know this e-mail is all over the place..hopefully someone gets my drift.