Doh, I completely forgot I posted here.
I know
Inthepink hasn't been on since 6/2013 but I will answer anyways.
When I say approached it doesn't always mean they ask me out, sometimes they ask me out, sometimes it's just flirting. The place where they will ask you out is where they can sit /stand with you and talk, then work up the nerve to ask you out. Which would be a bar, club, theme park, sitting on a park bench, etc. Most guys won't do it on the fly, like walking past you down the street or when you are just zipping by them in the parking lot. Some do but I find it rare and awkward.
I was followed into my job once, a guy said he saw me walking and had to ask me out. I turned him down. Was shy I guess, because he was kinda hot.
I get guys chatting me up even when I am with other guys. Don't know why really, it comes out of the blue and when I don't expect it.
A day ago my brother took me to the gun range and as we were leaving, a guy walking to his car stopped me and made a comment about my target with all the holes around the heart; and we started chatting. My brother later told his girlfriend that a guy was hitting on me even with his wife in the car waiting for him.
I moved to a new town in September and still no girlfriends to hang out with. It's been really frustrating. I have been working overtime a lot and have not gone out much. I was stood up by a flakey co-worker and ended up alone in a bar watching a live blues band and several guys hit on me. One got a little too fresh and I had to sneak out the side exit to escape.
That's the draw back of being alone, no girlfriend to run a buffer. Luckily, the bands guitarist's wife helped me slip out and watched me walk to my car.
Girl power!!
I have been feeling really self conscious about hanging out alone, but 10 days with my brother and his new girlfriend, I WANT to go at it alone. No one rushing me to finish my meal, giving me indigestion.
Can't wait to get home and go out alone. That's if I have enough money to treat myself after this trip.
Today, I was walking around to the neighborhood garage sale and walked into a garage that had fishing poles and said hello to the guy standing in the garage, he had his back to me and he came over very friendly. I asked how the garage sale was going and he said he didn't know there was one.
I walked into someone garage looking through his stuff and he was amused and chatted me up, told me he was just coming back from fishing and putting some things away. He had barrels and buckets of rain water in his drive way; he said he could give me.
I told him I was eyeing his fishing poles. We briefly talked about the weather. I felt a bit awkward so I apologized and left, he said it was okay and seemed disappointed that I was leaving and wanted to continue chatting. He was kinda cute and had nice feet, walking around barefoot in his garage. I guess that should have been my first hint.
FYI, mostly men at gun ranges and gun shows than women. Perfect place to meet a guy. I was at a gun show and asked out by one of the vendors the last time I was there.
Again, I was asking questions and he asked me if I was there with my husband and I blurted out I was looking to get a husband. He said, "REALLY maybe I can take you to dinner?"
So you never really know when you will run into someone. Now that the warmer weather is approaching you will have many opportunities to run into someone. It helps to be a bit outgoing, friendly, yet reserved and quiet at times and ask questions. Men seem to like that.
My problem is that I will subconsciously set up the perfect situation then get shy and scurry off when the guys start to assert themselves. Wish I knew how to get over that hurdle.