I've read several threads on here where a woman has a particular issue with her SO or something he has done however big or small and I am surprised by the number of responses that says "You are just the girlfriend, it's none of your business - when you are the wife, then you can talk" or something to that effect.
OK, a booty call probably does not have a say but IMO, when you are in a relationship you are often looking ahead and thinking about marriage even if it may be very far off.
So at what point can someone who is "just a girlfriend" raise these issues with her SO. 3 months? 6 months? When they get engaged? Or at the wedding - "Honey, now I have a ring on my finger I need to tell you that 2 years ago when I found those x-rated pictures of your baby mama on your table, I was p*ssed but I was "just a girlfriend" then so I didn't think I could say anything"
Personally, I think you should raise things that could be potential issues in the future as they arise, within reason of course - first you have to know if it's a real issue or if you are reading into stuff a bit too much. Obviously there is a difference between raising a potentially touchy subject on a 3rd date or 2 years down the line but doesn't anyone else think that something that can affect you and your SO's future IS your business?
ETA - I just had to clarify, I'm not talking about your SO thinking you are "just" a girlfriend. I'm talking about when others say that you should not have a say in some of your boyfriend's affairs because you are "only a girlfriend" and not a wife.
OK, a booty call probably does not have a say but IMO, when you are in a relationship you are often looking ahead and thinking about marriage even if it may be very far off.
So at what point can someone who is "just a girlfriend" raise these issues with her SO. 3 months? 6 months? When they get engaged? Or at the wedding - "Honey, now I have a ring on my finger I need to tell you that 2 years ago when I found those x-rated pictures of your baby mama on your table, I was p*ssed but I was "just a girlfriend" then so I didn't think I could say anything"
Personally, I think you should raise things that could be potential issues in the future as they arise, within reason of course - first you have to know if it's a real issue or if you are reading into stuff a bit too much. Obviously there is a difference between raising a potentially touchy subject on a 3rd date or 2 years down the line but doesn't anyone else think that something that can affect you and your SO's future IS your business?
ETA - I just had to clarify, I'm not talking about your SO thinking you are "just" a girlfriend. I'm talking about when others say that you should not have a say in some of your boyfriend's affairs because you are "only a girlfriend" and not a wife.
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