Can I tell you all something? Knowing your type is really neither here nor there. It really isn't. When I joined the forum, I had no question whatsoever what my hair looked like. I have had natural hair for 3/4 of my life and lived around people with hair like mine for more than half my life. So I knew what my hair looked like. What I didn't know was how to make it grow long.
However, a couple of years before finding LHCF, I discovered
www.blackwomenrejoice.com and got my first lesson on good hair care. Hair type was not brought up; just info that we now take for granted coz we've been on hairboards long enough to know the basics. What's more, my teacher was relaxed and I was planning to transition but she armed me well for the task at hand.
After joining LHCF, types were introduced to me. Out of curiosity, I wondered if adopting "type-specific regimens" would be the magic formula that I was yet to discover. In no time I had spotted who had my hair and was busy adopting regimens and buying products. It wasn't long before I realized I hated how my hair felt with the changes I was making.
Since simple good haircare had worked for me well before I got busy with types (Those two years before LHCF I saw my hair grow to 11 inches from one inch, and that with trimming--a feat I'd never known possible) , I decided to return to focusing on general good haircare regardless of type.
For instance, I learned not to comb my hair dry. I learned about CWs. But I didn't just buy everything I read. For instance, I heard shampoo was bad for you, but I hadn't had any problems with it and like how it made me feel so I ignored that and moved on to the next tidbit on good haircare. The more I applied the general haircare tips to my hair and focused on my hair instead of wondering who had my type what they do, the better I became acquainted with my own hair seeing things I never noticed before. Before long, it was as if I had freed my hair to show me what it was all about. And for the first time in my life I discovered I had soft hair that was a joy to work with.
When you join any group in life, it's easy to be brainwashed and so immersed in the beliefs of the group that you feel there's nothing outside of it that is real. It's like being in a cult where you start to believe that what the preacher says is gospel and so you just go with the current and never seek out the truth for yourself. I think that's what typing does. No wonder so many of us get frustrated with our hair; because we listen to the next person in the group instead of exploring our own hair and listening to what it tells us.
Seriously, when this hair growing journey starts to consume us and drain us and make us unhappy or stressed, then that's a sign that we're trying too hard. It's time to go back to basics and remind ourselves what it is that makes hair healthy. And as we focus on that applying general good haircare habits, and using TLC when handling our hair, the journey becomes an adventure of self-discovery and we come to realize that we really do have the best hair in the world. Ask me, I know I do.