Is there a reason men constantly talk about other women to you?

[Innocent_Kiss]

Let me clarify. I'll be honest, talking about a past relationship every now and then is inevitable, and perfectly fine IMO. My ex used to always, and I mean always, talk about other women to me, everything from experiences to sex. Or he'd always tell me when some female tried to talk to him. I get approached everyday my foot crosses my door's threshold, but I honestly don't care to update him on it. Me and a guy friend went out a couple of days ago. Mind you, I'm looking like a million bucks, but he insist on telling me about some other chicks he was involved with. When I seen another man do it, I couldn't help but wonder is there a reason for this? Are you trying to make me jealous or something??? I don't get it. That ish is sooooooooo annoying!!!!

 

[CarLiTa]

i'm looking forward to the responses.

I don't have an answer though. Did that ex become an ex for that reason?
The time when that happened to me, I kept my distance emotionally, which in the end hurt him because he just saw this stuff as 'sharing part of his past' or whatever.

I was trying to evaluate exactly where his feelings were. Eventually I had to downright ask... then I let him know that this talk is excessive and if he is still dealing with old feelings, then he needs to go resolve that and leave me alone

It worked out though, but I did have to voice that. I usually assume that if a man is doing that, then you (the lady) have already been boxed into the friend category. At least that's what I tend to do if I am not that interested, so I assume they're doing the same. With the guy I mentioned above, the actions and the words had me confused... so I had to observe [it sucks while observing though... to be honest].

 

[Highly Favored8]

Let me clarify. I'll be honest, talking about a past relationship every now and then is inevitable, and perfectly fine IMO. My ex used to always, and I mean always, talk about other women to me, everything from experiences to sex. Or he'd always tell me when some female tried to talk to him. I get approached everyday my foot crosses my door's threshold, but I honestly don't care to update him on it. Me and a guy friend went out a couple of days ago. Mind you, I'm looking like a million bucks, but he insist on telling me about some other chicks he was involved with. When I seen another man do it, I couldn't help but wonder is there a reason for this? Are you trying to make me jealous or something??? I don't get it. That ish is sooooooooo annoying!!!!

He is an ex right? Then IMHO he was not into you. If he felt the need to talk about other women to you. JMHO

 

[Everything Zen]

Can't say that I've had that problem- have you considered calling them out when they do this?

 

[aribell]

Are these men that you're romantically interested in? Unless they're going on and on and talking like they're trying to get a reaction from you, it sounds like they're talking to you like a friend.

 

[ThatJerseyGirl]

*lighten up a newport here again*

*puff*

iight... it's like this...men talk about women to other women to boost their own ego and to make themselves look sexually appealing....it has nothing to do with you. to me, it's just another part of the "game" these negros play...a psych game so that he can peek ur curiosity and make you want him. another avenue to have travel down so he can hit it and boost his ego some more. a small amount of it is to make you jealous, to make you compete with these past women so you can try harder and ultimately, give in. sometimes they do it to let you know in a round about way that he doesn't want a commitment right now and that he is free to date whomever.

then, on the other hand (rare), he could be just an open person, expressing his feelings with this pass women to you.

i know it is annoying, but don't take it personal because it's not about you, it's about him feeding his own ego and once he get in between ur legs, he's succeeded, thus boosting his ego some more, then to move on to the next woman and talk about you.

i done been there done that, and lemme tell you ladies...don't fall for da ill na na cuz thats that bullsh-t right there... quietly, he ain't even worth your time. he should be talking about you and it should always be about you. don't make him or this your issue it's something he gotta deal with..and that is himself.

so now, you should file him away as "done."

*puts out cigarette*

 

[DragonPearl]

To make you jealous. To make themselves look more attractive and sexy.

 

[Demi27]

*lighten up a newport here again*

*puff*

iight... it's like this...men talk about women to other women to boost their own ego and to make themselves look sexually appealing....it has nothing to do with you. to me, it's just another part of the "game" these negros play...a psych game so that he can peek ur curiosity and make you want him. another avenue to have travel down so he can hit it and boost his ego some more. a small amount of it is to make you jealous, to make you compete with these past women so you can try harder and ultimately, give in. sometimes they do it to let you know in a round about way that he doesn't want a commitment right now and that he is free to date whomever.

then, on the other hand (rare), he could be just an open person, expressing his feelings with this pass women to you.

i know it is annoying, but don't take it personal because it's not about you, it's about him feeding his own ego and once he get in between ur legs, he's succeeded, thus boosting his ego some more, then to move on to the next woman and talk about you.

i done been there done that, and lemme tell you ladies...don't fall for da ill na na cuz thats that bullsh-t right there... quietly, he ain't even worth your time. he should be talking about you and it should always be about you. don't make him or this your issue it's something he gotta deal with..and that is himself.

so now, you should file him away as "done."

*puts out cigarette*

To make you jealous. To make themselves look more attractive and sexy.

These two posts sum it up exactly.

 

[LadieCrn]

he is trying to let you know he has sex appeal and you better jump cause plenty of other fish want him

 

[HoneyDew]

I have never had that problem from men. Well, guys that are my platonic friends, but that is different.

But anyway, I don't go for that from a dude i'm with. And I don;t know too many dudes that are dumb enough to talk about stuff like that to me, if he wants me.

I do know women like that so I am sure guys can be the same problem.

If a guy (or woman) does that, I consider it insecure.

I mean, if you fine and sexy, you fine and sexy. You are used to it. Why you talking about it?!

You don't tell the woman you are trying to get at and impress about some other chicks. I mean come on.

I would ask, do you want me or not?! You talkin bout these chicks you gonna end up out of my contact list, dude.

 

[Innocent_Kiss]

*lighten up a newport here again*

*puff*

iight... it's like this...men talk about women to other women to boost their own ego and to make themselves look sexually appealing....it has nothing to do with you. to me, it's just another part of the "game" these negros play...a psych game so that he can peek ur curiosity and make you want him. another avenue to have travel down so he can hit it and boost his ego some more. a small amount of it is to make you jealous, to make you compete with these past women so you can try harder and ultimately, give in. sometimes they do it to let you know in a round about way that he doesn't want a commitment right now and that he is free to date whomever.

then, on the other hand (rare), he could be just an open person, expressing his feelings with this pass women to you.

i know it is annoying, but don't take it personal because it's not about you, it's about him feeding his own ego and once he get in between ur legs, he's succeeded, thus boosting his ego some more, then to move on to the next woman and talk about you.

i done been there done that, and lemme tell you ladies...don't fall for da ill na na cuz thats that bullsh-t right there... quietly, he ain't even worth your time. he should be talking about you and it should always be about you. don't make him or this your issue it's something he gotta deal with..and that is himself.

so now, you should file him away as "done."

*puts out cigarette*

I figured it was something along that line.

 

[MiamiHottie]

*lighten up a newport here again*

*puff*

iight... it's like this...men talk about women to other women to boost their own ego and to make themselves look sexually appealing....it has nothing to do with you. to me, it's just another part of the "game" these negros play...a psych game so that he can peek ur curiosity and make you want him. another avenue to have travel down so he can hit it and boost his ego some more. a small amount of it is to make you jealous, to make you compete with these past women so you can try harder and ultimately, give in. sometimes they do it to let you know in a round about way that he doesn't want a commitment right now and that he is free to date whomever.

then, on the other hand (rare), he could be just an open person, expressing his feelings with this pass women to you.

i know it is annoying, but don't take it personal because it's not about you, it's about him feeding his own ego and once he get in between ur legs, he's succeeded, thus boosting his ego some more, then to move on to the next woman and talk about you.

i done been there done that, and lemme tell you ladies...don't fall for da ill na na cuz thats that bullsh-t right there... quietly, he ain't even worth your time. he should be talking about you and it should always be about you. don't make him or this your issue it's something he gotta deal with..and that is himself.

so now, you should file him away as "done."

*puts out cigarette*

THANKS AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

I never had that issue with guys.
Sounds like he is insecure and tries to make you jealous.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

It depends on how he's talking to you about it.

If he's sharing things about other women he's dated, concerning how things went wrong or things he enjoyed, he may simply be opening up to you about his past. If it's sexual, then he may be showing off or be looking to subtly turn you off. No man would deliberately tell you about great sex with another woman unless he was only looking at you as a friend or looking to get a reaction to how you handle "competitive information."

Now if he's always talking about other women to you, and it's not making sense, just ask and explain that you don't care to hear it or certain things about it.

 

[Ms_Delikate]

*lighten up a newport here again*

*puff*

iight... it's like this...men talk about women to other women to boost their own ego and to make themselves look sexually appealing....it has nothing to do with you. to me, it's just another part of the "game" these negros play...a psych game so that he can peek ur curiosity and make you want him. another avenue to have travel down so he can hit it and boost his ego some more. a small amount of it is to make you jealous, to make you compete with these past women so you can try harder and ultimately, give in. sometimes they do it to let you know in a round about way that he doesn't want a commitment right now and that he is free to date whomever.

then, on the other hand (rare), he could be just an open person, expressing his feelings with this pass women to you.

i know it is annoying, but don't take it personal because it's not about you, it's about him feeding his own ego and once he get in between ur legs, he's succeeded, thus boosting his ego some more, then to move on to the next woman and talk about you.

i done been there done that, and lemme tell you ladies...don't fall for da ill na na cuz thats that bullsh-t right there... quietly, he ain't even worth your time. he should be talking about you and it should always be about you. don't make him or this your issue it's something he gotta deal with..and that is himself.

so now, you should file him away as "done."

*puts out cigarette*

Just wanted to say...I love how you always light up your newports before you give us "da bizness"....LOL

 

[HoneyDew]

I never had that issue with guys.
Sounds like he is insecure and tries to make you jealous.

This is what I am saying.

I have never heard of a man that was trying to get me in his corner or keep me in his corner doing this.

I would think younger and immature men might do this until the learn that they shoot themselves in the foot with it.

Or, like mentioned, he is just insecure and/or not used to getting attention.

 

[darlingdiva]

Because he's an insecure jerk.

 

[tocktick]

Imo, there's a combination of reasons:

* Trying to make you jealous in order to boost their ego (read: insecure!)
* Testing you to see how you react
* He hasn't got over his ex
* They probably think it will make you "rate" them higher - they want you to think they have sooo many girls chasing after them, so you need to work harder to secure him.
* Overall, they have little respect for you and don't realise you're the prize here.

Tbh, if I was in this situation, I would nip it in the bud. If the guy continued to talk about other girls, I'd probably be moving on. I wouldn't want to stand in his way of pursuing all of those other girls after all...

Btw, if the guy was really out of control too early on, I'd wouldn't try to nip anything in the bud because I'd be out of there too quickly for all of that.

 

[MissNina]

He is an ex right? Then IMHO he was not into you. If he felt the need to talk about other women to you. JMHO

I agree. Guys who are into you don't talk to you about other girls. He could be trying to make you jealous, but I doubt it.

 

[1QTPie]

Let me clarify. I'll be honest, talking about a past relationship every now and then is inevitable, and perfectly fine IMO. My ex used to always, and I mean always, talk about other women to me, everything from experiences to sex. Or he'd always tell me when some female tried to talk to him. I get approached everyday my foot crosses my door's threshold, but I honestly don't care to update him on it. Me and a guy friend went out a couple of days ago. Mind you, I'm looking like a million bucks, but he insist on telling me about some other chicks he was involved with. When I seen another man do it, I couldn't help but wonder is there a reason for this? Are you trying to make me jealous or something??? I don't get it. That ish is sooooooooo annoying!!!!

Insecure. They aren't talking to you, they are talking to themselves while simultaneously trying to boost their ratings with you. It's they "hey, I'm so awesome everyone wants me."

You should tell them that it's a turnoff.

 

[*~*Afrolicious*~*]

He is an ex right? Then IMHO he was not into you. If he felt the need to talk about other women to you. JMHO

Cosigns.

 

[Almaz]

Makes me think that he is a MAN whore. Never kiss and tell. discretion is everything

 

[Innocent_Kiss]

I had to bump this up, ladies! It is most definitely insecure men that is trying to make you jealous/compete that does stupid ish like this. That ex??? He called me to tell me how a mutual friend's Christmas Party went. I didn't go because I knew he was gonna be there singing that "Baby I miss you" song. I answered the phone just trying to be nice...called myself being mature and just having a conversation. He was like "Yeah, so-and-so's party was crackin. All the females wanted to take pics with me..." I'm like "Ok, that's nice. I'ma call you back, ok????" When I hung up I started crackin up and thought about this post.

THEN, I went out on a date with another guy, right? He FINE AS H-E- DOUBLE STICKS YA'LL!!!!!! But he's SUPER INSECURE! He knows about my ex...and everytime I don't answer the phone for him immediately or I'm going out..he SWEARS I'm with him. I'm like damn how could someone so attractive be so insecure? Anyway, after a while, he started doing THE SAME ISH! "This girl I went to H.S. called me today talkin about she miss me and she wanna see me." ...I'm like "oh, okay." What the hell?!?!?!? IT'S ME!! I'm attracting these insecure bastards! What am I doing wrong???? I'm seriously gonna take a long hiatus from the dating game....