cocoberry10
New Member
Hi Ladies:
I know I’ve posed this question before, but I wonder about it. I told you all about a friend of mine who married someone b/c he was good to her and maybe for her but she didn’t “love” him, yet I wonder so much, is love overrated? I mean simply loving someone alone doesn’t make a successful marriage. I know this. But, what if you really didn’t love someone, should you still be with them? I don’t know if I could do what my friend did. There is a guy (he’s just a friend, and I’m kind of keeping it that way). Honestly, I’m not romantically interested in him right now, but the situation is a little more complicated. He’s had a lot of personal tragedy in his life over the last 4 years (illness, deaths of close family members) and he really needs someone. I’m a very caring person, so I want to be there for him (we haven’t known each other that long), but I’m not sure that I can be his girlfriend or potential wife (not trying to jump the gun, but he’s the type that would want to get married, serious, etc.). He doesn’t confide in a lot of people, and I feel compelled to be there for him, b/c he’s really going through a lot right now. I’m just not sure that I can be all that he wants me to be. Please offer any advice. Thanks!
I know I’ve posed this question before, but I wonder about it. I told you all about a friend of mine who married someone b/c he was good to her and maybe for her but she didn’t “love” him, yet I wonder so much, is love overrated? I mean simply loving someone alone doesn’t make a successful marriage. I know this. But, what if you really didn’t love someone, should you still be with them? I don’t know if I could do what my friend did. There is a guy (he’s just a friend, and I’m kind of keeping it that way). Honestly, I’m not romantically interested in him right now, but the situation is a little more complicated. He’s had a lot of personal tragedy in his life over the last 4 years (illness, deaths of close family members) and he really needs someone. I’m a very caring person, so I want to be there for him (we haven’t known each other that long), but I’m not sure that I can be his girlfriend or potential wife (not trying to jump the gun, but he’s the type that would want to get married, serious, etc.). He doesn’t confide in a lot of people, and I feel compelled to be there for him, b/c he’s really going through a lot right now. I’m just not sure that I can be all that he wants me to be. Please offer any advice. Thanks!