Is it wrong to play games after a certain point?

[ZLUVSNEWZEE]

firecracker don't judge...never asked for judgment in my op.

 

[firecracker]

Wow how did I become the one that judged you? Someone else asked what your question really is/was since you stated you want the man and wasn't that concerned about the drug habit. Hence the real statement "you cannot change a determined mind". I gave advise based on what you are willing to deal with for the sake of family. I guess I should lie to you too?

 

[ZLUVSNEWZEE]

Wow how did I become the one that judged you? Someone else asked what your question really is/was since you stated you want the man and wasn't that concerned about the drug habit. Hence the real statement "you cannot change a determined mind". I gave advise based on what you are willing to deal with for the sake of family. I guess I should lie to you too?

No I come to the LHCF ladies for the real but «poor thang» suggests that you feel I am pathetic and need pity. And i've done some pathetic ish in my life but I don't feel like this warrants a oh poor thang. The thing I like most about posting here is the way women tend to say what they would or wouldn't do versus what you should do...there's a difference and that's support versus judgment. But thanks for posting anyway. I've taken all the advice and stored it in my mental for the future

 

[firecracker]

No I come to the LHCF ladies for the real but «poor thang» suggests that you feel I am pathetic and need pity. And i've done some pathetic ish in my life but I don't feel like this warrants a oh poor thang. The thing I like most about posting here is the way women tend to say what they would or wouldn't do versus what you should do...there's a difference and that's support versus judgment. But thanks for posting anyway. I've taken all the advice and stored it in my mental for the future

ZLUVSNEWZEE

I'm sorry that you feel pathetic and pitiful. NO one can make you feel anything but yourself. Self esteem and self love starts with YOU and from within. I'm sure alot of us humans have done some silly or pathetic bs. I won't be beating myself up about mistakes that I learned from and neither should you.

Po thang was for the ladies that were trying to change your made up mind. Other members told you that you should leave, drugs and lies were a no go period point blank. You didn't want to do that so I suggested another approach since you said you want to stay and made light of all the stuff you originally stated pissed you off.

I didn't sugarcoat the realities of what you are dealing with and high fived your love for your Marley Man. You have an issue with ME obviously.

You shol putting yourself out there so I'm kinda shocked that you are acting all kinds of sensitive. This board helped me thru some trying times years ago. You cannot be thinned skinned if you really want others input and/or to change your life for the better.

This a public forum so you won't always like the responses or folks delivery. I would say I'll stay outta all your threads but then I'd be lying for no good reason.

I hope things get better and please don't nag that man to death!

 

[ZLUVSNEWZEE]

firecracker
I won't lie and say I don't feel molded cause I do. I sincerely thought you were referring to me. I don't want you to stay away from my threads I don't want anyone to but I will admit I'm sensitive. I'm very thin skinned actually but all feedback I get here I take in and it affects me. I'm not mad at you anymore jk...thanks for your well wishes

 

[Kindheart]

hopeful
Yes your advice has me thinking a lot about my self and my self esteem issues. I definitely felt beaten and broken chasing him down the way I did and that ain't the first time neither. I love him and I love our family unit and he does have a point about my nagging and controlling but all that plays into my fears. I'm terrified of losing him of being irreparably broken and being left behind for something better. I'm 30 and I still struggle to find a way to fall in love with myself. Did you ever struggle with this? What did you do if you did? I love many things about myself, I love my face, my style but that love isn't showing on my life clearly.

Remember ,he has to want this as much as you do ,if he loves you he will Want to stay with you and you wont need to chase him down anywhere.I see a bit of me in you ,be strong and if tell him if he did the right thing you wouldn nag him ...ultimatley folloW your instinct.

 

[firecracker]

firecracker
I won't lie and say I don't feel molded cause I do. I sincerely thought you were referring to me. I don't want you to stay away from my threads I don't want anyone to but I will admit I'm sensitive. I'm very thin skinned actually but all feedback I get here I take in and it affects me. I'm not mad at you anymore jk...thanks for your well wishes

ZLUVSNEWZEE, thanks for not being mad at me anymore. I wasn't trying to mold you or offend you. How da hellz you know about feeling molded unlessen youz from my neck of da wood "ONLY IN CALIFORNIAAAAHHHH"!!!!!
I apologize wholeheartedly if I came off like a b!tch. Fo real.

 

[ZLUVSNEWZEE]

firecracker
I am from Cali...and I don't think you were being a ***** at all I misunderstood and that was completely my bad. in another thread I started this chick is *****ing on me hard, I'm not used to that at Lhcf and I mention that only because you are so far from any of that. I hope you're having a great morning.