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Does not sound bad at all, Envivany..you do what you have to do to get the j-o-b...then do your thing!!!
and btw i am also Dominican and we are not the only land of black denial. LATIN AMERICA in general has the same perception as all society does across the globe. which is sad.
I think natural black hair is very nice...I've actually found myself drooling over some cute naturals in the train.....When natural hair is not taken care of then it looks like a hot mess regarding of texture.
I am relaxed and i take care of my hair with lots of conditioning and i like it that way. Besides being natural is a decision that comes from inside. I haven't given the thought that much.....and is haaaaard to think that i will cut all my hair off lol. But if i do i would rock my fro without caring what people think.
and btw i am also Dominican and we are not the only land of black denial. LATIN AMERICA in general has the same perception as all society does across the globe. which is sad.
No, being natural is not hard for me. It's just my hair and I take care of it as best I can.
I really appreciate all thesereplies. From reading many threads on naturals I just got th impression that having natural hair (afro textured) especiall in the States was a feat of its own and I wanted to understand why ? Now I do relatives in the States and I haven't seen them and they moved from NJ to Pensylvannia, for those who live there have you found it here hard or encountered any problems in terms of people's mindsets towards naturals?!
Just so that we are on the same page here, I live in Canada and maybe that's why the mentalities may be slightly different I am not too sure. But if there are any Canadian ladies out there may be you have had different experiences; I just feel like anytime I read any thread that has to do with naturals (I am natural myself and had my BC in late August) people are always complaining about the way that they're natural hair is perceived.
Or that their texture is not soft enough to be natural, I know that afro textured hair is a hassle to comb, believe me I never look forward to getting my hair done. But once it was properly moisturized it really was not that bad and to clarify my hairtype is 4b-z or whatever it is called.
Yet many women that I see on this forum have a looser texture or a combo of textures. From what I understand, there's a level of insecurity to do with Black hair but is it really as bad as people making it sound? I mean live in a more predominant white neigborhood and most people that have encountered are fascinated with my hair texture. Even my own family and friend (black people) are more interested in the length of our hair then the texture. I mean you can have the coarsest hair in the world but if it is long that is all people really care about.
Another thing why do many people assume that having curly hair is easier to manage or that you have to be mixed race to have a certain hairtype. There are many Africans who have softer/curly hair textures if you will, and are not just located in East Africa or mixed. I may sound a bit bias for saying this from what I often read many opinions about Africans are filled with assumptions. Africa is a big continent with A LOT of diversity there's is no single hairtype or features or skin colour or anything.
I apologize if I sound like I am ranting t just seems to me that anything that is related to africa sounds so 1D and just frustrates the hell out of me. One of the many misconception that most African people wear their hair naturally...actually most relax, there are so many things that have been said on this forum that I just wish people would ask before they assume.
I undertand that people of african descent have been dispersed hence the diaspora but it almost seems to me that many people of the diaspora hold so much resentment towards africa. I mean I expect that from people of other races but not from my own, can't we all get along afro americans, afro-latinos, etc...
P.S. Sorry for the extremely long post I just had to let it all out![]()
Uhm, self-esteem hard? Then it used to be hard for me. I mean, in my schools from middle to high school, natural hair was the exception not the rule. I felt the odd girl out, being the only one w/o my hair relaxed because my mom told me "Not till you're 18". I used to have some self esteem issues about my hair but that was before I knew how to care for it. Now I'm cool.And I thank God my mom didn't relax my hair. Because I know, as much problems I had caring for my natural hair, it would've been 10x worse if I had to care for chemically altered hair.
Now I'm fine with my natural hair. I still don't like the occasional bad hair day, but dangit it's MY hair growing outta MY head. I remember this guy from one class last year told me I was cute and later asked "Why don't you perm your hair?" I responded "Why does my hair need to be straight?" Pissed me off, and I stood up for my hair. I mean, most of the girls I see walking around with relaxed hair in high school do not know how to care for it sadly. I know that, knowing how little I knew before, that my hair would've looked the same way if it was relaxed. Now that I've been here and seen proper care, I know that when I do decide to chemically alter my hair, I'll be informed and properly equipped to take care of it.
Thanks =]I love that! I appreciate your perspective...I worry about this for when my dd starts school. I hope I am able to instill confidence in her so that she wears her natural hair with pride.
I've noticed that when I feel good, I look good and I think people pick up on that.![]()