Some of these responses This topic should be a non-issue in marriage IMO. No use in being married if you can't know super basic stuff. All of this what he can and can't know, what people are funny about, what we do and don't keep separately is too much work for me.
It is a non issue in my marriage and not something that comes up as a topic, or causes a problem. Its not like he's asking and I'm refusing to tell. He doesn't ask because it's obviously not something he feels is relevant and my coins are mine. DH is kinda old school and I like it.
For a while I stopped working in the earlier years together and he supported me. The reaction I got from some women about this was so disapproving because it went against their feminist beliefs yet we we both happy. Same now really. People on the outside may have an issue due to different experiences, modern mindset and culture, but its a non issue for us. I'm not taking a pill for someone elses headache.
My response is more aligned with whether the wife should know what the husband makes. It shouldn't matter what the wife makes at all. It still seems crazy to be married to a man and in complete darkness about his salary.
This happened to my best friend. Ex Husband wiped out his 401k and she only found out about it because she was hit with the tax bill the following year (they were in the process of being divorced) . A whooping $15k. She was able to prove that she didn’t know and filed innocent spouse relief. That in itself was a nightmare."Normal" isn't what I would use as a measuring stick. I think rather it's normal or not you have to determine if it's acceptable or impactful. For me it would not be acceptable for my husband to withhold anything he owns that is of value from me so naturally that type of information is readily available and proactively provided to me. I also wouldn't find it acceptable to be blindsided by anything that could pose a liability to me to be withheld either. So I need those details too.