faithVA
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@faithVA
Marrying down is a popular term that's being used in the black community on a frequent basis these days. I get what you are saying about not feeling it but I think most sistas really know what marrying down is all about. It can be both income and education or one of the other. Because there are so many more successful black women than black men, lots of people are telling sistas with higher incomes or educations to get with Tyquell the cashier, Tyrone the wannabe rapper or producer (whichever one comes first). Having lived in Atlanta, every other brother I met was "self employed" and trying to be a rapper or producer..............come on now!! Someone brought up white women but I won't use white women as an example because on the whole, white men typically meet the challenge to come up to where their women are. I know white women who are making $80,000 and are married to cops who are making $30,000, to me this is different because although he makes less, he still has a career and making money. I got into a serious argument with a black man who said educated black women deserved to be in the boat they are in because they refused to date black men with high school educations or less (never mind I was dating his ignorant black a$$, guess he was too dumb to realize that), I was like are you serious!! That isn't even realistic butthole. Although it happens because of the circumstances in our community, it really isn't realistic. Sometimes I think this mindset serves to keep black women in a certain position and it's sad.
I just want to clarify. Because to date a cashier who has a high school education and to date a cop who also has an high school education or we date a "truly" self-employed person with an high school education is not the same thing.
So if we are discussing the term it just makes sense to clarify the term.
If a women has a PhD is she marrying down when she marries someone with a BS. What if as a PhD she makes 65K but with his BS he is pulling in $125K.
I know each person has to determine what marry down means to them. But for the discussion of the thread it just helps if we are all talking about the term in the same way.