kurlybella
Well-Known Member
i often see women who are the baby's mother to a man's children say that being married is no biggie - that their lives are no different than the married woman/mother - the only difference is that "it didn't work out" so they are now having to co-parent.
i've even heard some women say that women who are married sometimes think they are better than women who are not married - but that they should not feel that way because married women/mothers are no different than women who not married.
now we have this show called "basketball wives", but seems to me that in reality it should be called basketball baby mama's and former jumpoffs.
of course shaunie would not want to call her show basketball baby mama's seeing as the title wife still holds a connotation in society that unmarried woman with child does not. even ex-wife holds a connotation considered higher than baby mama.
i'm not making any statements about what i think baby mama or/vs wife means; only asking questions.
so, what do you think? do you think that being a wife is starting become "the same thing" as being a mans baby's mama? and if it is, why do some women get defensive when they have to admit that they have children by a man that they are not married to though they claim that wife and non-wife are the same?
should a woman/mother who is married feel an "esteem" that the non-married with child has? or vice versa?
and if they are the same, do you think this keeps some women from marrying since they have "everything" that the married woman has?
i've even heard some women say that women who are married sometimes think they are better than women who are not married - but that they should not feel that way because married women/mothers are no different than women who not married.
now we have this show called "basketball wives", but seems to me that in reality it should be called basketball baby mama's and former jumpoffs.
of course shaunie would not want to call her show basketball baby mama's seeing as the title wife still holds a connotation in society that unmarried woman with child does not. even ex-wife holds a connotation considered higher than baby mama.
i'm not making any statements about what i think baby mama or/vs wife means; only asking questions.
so, what do you think? do you think that being a wife is starting become "the same thing" as being a mans baby's mama? and if it is, why do some women get defensive when they have to admit that they have children by a man that they are not married to though they claim that wife and non-wife are the same?
should a woman/mother who is married feel an "esteem" that the non-married with child has? or vice versa?
and if they are the same, do you think this keeps some women from marrying since they have "everything" that the married woman has?