Glib Gurl
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So, I have a 30-something, male personal trainer. Good guy, college educated, and FOINE. 
(Sidebar: Although he is very attractive, I have zero interest in trying to date him. He's basically like a brother to me at this point.) He has his own fitness company and does personal training full-time. He hasn't *made it* yet, but he's on his way because he hustles. Anyway, a lot of times we talk about relationship issues and I always give him a hard time because he "dates everybody" 
, which is to say he dates every race of woman except black women . . . well, let me rephrase, it's not that he doesn't date black women, but he finds that he mostly ends up in relationships with non-black women. I always give him a hard time about this and he tries to give me his perspective about the type of resistance he gets from black women. He shared two stories with me recently:
Story #1 - He was out riding his bike and a sister in a Benz rolls up. They both stop at a red light. She smiles. He smiles back. "Nice bike," she says. "Nice smile," he says back. He then gives her his card. When she sees that it's a card for his personal training business, she laughs and then drives off.
Story #2 - He recently went to a happy hour sponsored by some friends of his. When he got there, Beckies were all over him. But he saw one sista in the spot, so he made it his business to go over and speak to her. Things were progressing well until he gave her his business card. He said her face fell when she saw that he was a trainer. She then blew him off and he was mad because not only did he miss out on dealing with her but then also the numerous Beckies trying to holla at him
When he told me all of this, I explained that even though he is clearly an educated person - clean cut, well-spoken, etc., etc. - the idea that he's a trainer might be a turn off to some of us because there are so many black guys who are "meat heads" who are really superficial and aren't about anything. Also it could be that the women are turned off by the fact that this is how he makes his income because it's not "steady" like a regular 9-to-5 job. I don't think that made him feel any better, though. *lol* He was like, "Man, see THIS is why I don't deal with sisters . . . they don't even give you a chance!"
Do you agree with my assessment of the situation? What are your thoughts about this whole thing?
Discuss!
(Sidebar: Although he is very attractive, I have zero interest in trying to date him. He's basically like a brother to me at this point.) He has his own fitness company and does personal training full-time. He hasn't *made it* yet, but he's on his way because he hustles. Anyway, a lot of times we talk about relationship issues and I always give him a hard time because he "dates everybody" , which is to say he dates every race of woman except black women . . . well, let me rephrase, it's not that he doesn't date black women, but he finds that he mostly ends up in relationships with non-black women. I always give him a hard time about this and he tries to give me his perspective about the type of resistance he gets from black women. He shared two stories with me recently:Story #1 - He was out riding his bike and a sister in a Benz rolls up. They both stop at a red light. She smiles. He smiles back. "Nice bike," she says. "Nice smile," he says back. He then gives her his card. When she sees that it's a card for his personal training business, she laughs and then drives off.
Story #2 - He recently went to a happy hour sponsored by some friends of his. When he got there, Beckies were all over him. But he saw one sista in the spot, so he made it his business to go over and speak to her. Things were progressing well until he gave her his business card. He said her face fell when she saw that he was a trainer. She then blew him off and he was mad because not only did he miss out on dealing with her but then also the numerous Beckies trying to holla at him
When he told me all of this, I explained that even though he is clearly an educated person - clean cut, well-spoken, etc., etc. - the idea that he's a trainer might be a turn off to some of us because there are so many black guys who are "meat heads" who are really superficial and aren't about anything. Also it could be that the women are turned off by the fact that this is how he makes his income because it's not "steady" like a regular 9-to-5 job. I don't think that made him feel any better, though. *lol* He was like, "Man, see THIS is why I don't deal with sisters . . . they don't even give you a chance!"
Do you agree with my assessment of the situation? What are your thoughts about this whole thing?
Discuss!
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Oh Please! Please share your magnificence with a BW! 
about it is just that 
If a personal trainer gave me his card, I would immediately think he was calling me fat and offering me his services! OR I would think he was trying to network. Why do people give out cards anyway? Bragging already, are we? smh.
