In your opinion, do all men cheat?
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MzLady78
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Well, I don't know ALL the men in the world, so I can't speak on that.
But I can honestly say the majority of the married/involved men *I* know personally do.
And the most of the married ones don't even attempt to hide the fact that they do, they are VERY bold with it.
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naturalmanenyc
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No, all men do not cheat. Out of all the married/involved men that I personally know (about 60 men including family & friends), SIX are cheaters. The interesting part is that 3 men are from the same household, 2 generations of cheaters.
They're as faithful as their opportunities, IMO.
Some don't have the (right) opportunity.
Most men would not turn down free booty, IMO. It would be like winning a shopping spree at Sephora (or Bloomingdales) would be for women. Some would not care, but the vast majority...
I remember being a teen at work. 90% of males I encountered gave me attention that I would not be comfy with my hubs doing if I were a wife. And that's just a function of being a young girl. I don't take that ish personally.
Also, they don't see cheating the same way.
Some don't have the (right) opportunity.
Most men would not turn down free booty, IMO. It would be like winning a shopping spree at Sephora (or Bloomingdales) would be for women. Some would not care, but the vast majority...
I remember being a teen at work. 90% of males I encountered gave me attention that I would not be comfy with my hubs doing if I were a wife. And that's just a function of being a young girl. I don't take that ish personally.
Also, they don't see cheating the same way.
MrsAriannaAmbers
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I say no, not all men cheat....
However, on the flipside I know I am not marrying no "Jesus" either. I expect 98.99% respect out of our relationship/marriage, because nothing is 100%. I am fully aware that my future will be tempted, attracted and even pursued. I have high expectations that our communication, prayer and honor with each other will help to divert any distractions that may come across on either end.
However, on the flipside I know I am not marrying no "Jesus" either. I expect 98.99% respect out of our relationship/marriage, because nothing is 100%. I am fully aware that my future will be tempted, attracted and even pursued. I have high expectations that our communication, prayer and honor with each other will help to divert any distractions that may come across on either end.
Glib Gurl
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So, what is a woman to do??? You can't smother someone and be all up on them 24/7
*sigh*
msbettyboop
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No, not all men cheat. A LOT do but there are some who don't. There are actually men who can't sleep with 2 women at the same time, men who the words love, honour, commitment, respect and for better or worse actually mean something to. They are an endangered species but they are out there.
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kismettt
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also, i think our culture (in the way gender is socialized) excuses men who cheat ('o he's a man') which definitely contributes to the higher likelihood that a man will cheat.
i'm not sure. i think i see positive, faithful relationships but you never know what goes on behind closed doors.
i am interested to see what the opinions of those who are married think.
i'm not sure. i think i see positive, faithful relationships but you never know what goes on behind closed doors.
i am interested to see what the opinions of those who are married think.
Shoediva
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So, what is a woman to do??? You can't smother someone and be all up on them 24/7
*sigh*
You will need to have strong faith, trust and communication with your s/o. Its all you can do.
MrsAriannaAmbers
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So, what is a woman to do??? You can't smother someone and be all up on them 24/7
*sigh*
Live Her Life...I don't babysit grown folks and I am not in a relationship with a child. I am not going to huff and puff everytime he looks more than 5 seconds at another woman nor will I be all in his emails, internet pages and whatnots. I haven't been doing it and I am not going to start. I treat him like the grown man he is and if he decides to make poor decisions/actions...since it would reflect that he no longer cares for me then I will make some very smart decisions/actions for me.
In the meantime though I expect that our values, commitment and respect are so rich with moral and spiritual qualities, that even when an opportunity presents itself that he thinks twice. I expect him to have a checklist going off in his head...
A. Is she worth it?
B. Lose my family behind some c**chie?
C. Do I even think I will be safe laying in the bed next to Arianna if she eva finds out?
Knowing my future he does and he knows the answer to C....
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moonglowdiva
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I do not believe that all men cheat, that would be generalizing like saying that all women are good because they are not. I try not to judge the basket based on a few rotten fruit. Some men actually love their wives and wouldn't do anything that would hurt them.
Crackers Phinn
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As cynical as I am, I really don't believe all men cheat.
In my old age I've run across some men who live and breathe for their wives, but in a lovey dovey way not a stalkerish way.
And while I am not around them 24/7, I'd say being the judge and scrutinizer of character that I am that stepping out is not a function of their respective personalities.
In my old age I've run across some men who live and breathe for their wives, but in a lovey dovey way not a stalkerish way.
And while I am not around them 24/7, I'd say being the judge and scrutinizer of character that I am that stepping out is not a function of their respective personalities.
deltadreamland
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I completely agree with all of this; therefore, I say YES.
Sadly, if a man is given the right opportunity and can be guaranteed beyond a shadow of a doubt that his SO/wife will NEVER EVER EVER find out,................... he'll cheat .........even if it's just a BJ-because most men don't consider that sexual act as cheating. 
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locabouthair
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I think a lot do, but not all.
Blkrose
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I voted no- most but not all IMO- there are those who take committment seriously- those who have cheated and regretted it never doing it again- those who do it cause they can and continue to do so for that reason and those who did it cause they could but have decided to change. You cant leave in fear of having a relationship with a man for the fear of him cheating. One of the basis of a relationship is trust and if you dont have it or have lost it then leave him alone or dont get into it in the first place. I think women are ridiculous to marry a man who they knew was cheating on them while they were dating then they have the nerve to call the woman/women he cheating with "a homewrecker"; "whore" or trifiling among other names puhleeze; whateva; check your man; as a matter of fact check yourself; you knew what the deal was when you got married but you were too fascinated with being called someone's wife......my bad getting off topic 
dont lose hope OP jus dont get into anything with blinders on
dont lose hope OP jus dont get into anything with blinders onlocabouthair
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I voted no- most but not all IMO- there are those who take committment seriously- those who have cheated and regretted it never doing it again- those who do it cause they can and continue to do so for that reason and those who did it cause they could but have decided to change. You cant leave in fear of having a relationship with a man for the fear of him cheating. One of the basis of a relationship is trust and if you dont have it or have lost it then leave him alone or dont get into it in the first place. I think women are ridiculous to marry a man who they knew was cheating on them while they were dating then they have the nerve to call the woman/women he cheating with "a homewrecker"; "whore" or trifiling among other names puhleeze; whateva; check your man; as a matter of fact check yourself; you knew what the deal was when you got married but you were too fascinated with being called someone's wife......my bad getting off topic
I know a woman that did that and I couldnt believe she married him. And he cheated more than once.
ThatJerseyGirl
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Fluff has a valid and good point.
Now, as old as I am....(won't be tellin) yes, they ALL cheat. I've seen enough of it in my lifetime, even from the men in my family who I would have never suspected.
Oh, and Fluff.... If I were the cat in ur siggy, hell, I wouldn't move either!
MD_Lady
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I married and I have to agree. I also think the fact that women are socialized to forgive fuels the fire. If men (since we're talking specifically about men, I'm not saying women don't cheat or that all/most men are cheaters) knew that cheating = the end of their relationships/marriages (the first time) instead of forgiveness, I think more of them would pass up the "opportunity".
MissMeWithThatIsh
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I'm with Lucie. I have friends who cheat, and friends disgusted by cheating male and female
caltron
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All men definitely do no cheat, and all women don't condone this type of behavior. I think sometimes it may *feel* like all men cheat, because birds of a feather flock together. If that is all you are around, I can see how someone can think that this is the norm.
In my circle of friends, cheating is definitely not acceptable behavior. I don't have friends who would cheat on their husbands. I wouldn't be friends with someone who thinks it's o.k. to cheat. I don't know of any of my friend's husbands who have cheated, and I know they've had lots of opportunities.
In my circle of friends, cheating is definitely not acceptable behavior. I don't have friends who would cheat on their husbands. I wouldn't be friends with someone who thinks it's o.k. to cheat. I don't know of any of my friend's husbands who have cheated, and I know they've had lots of opportunities.
ThatJerseyGirl
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*lights me a newport n stirs da pot some...*
now, i'm interested in knowing...for those of you that say not ALL men cheat, is this because the ones who claim they don't cheat haven't been caught? Cuz see, it u ain't caught, then it ain't cheatin...
whatchall think?
*passes da mic n plucks ash*....
now, i'm interested in knowing...for those of you that say not ALL men cheat, is this because the ones who claim they don't cheat haven't been caught? Cuz see, it u ain't caught, then it ain't cheatin...
whatchall think?
*passes da mic n plucks ash*....
caltron
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Well, let me turn that around on you. For those who think all men cheat, do you have hard evidence that every single man you have ever has come into contact with has cheated? And if not, how can you say that ALL men cheat?
If a man comes home everyday, never has anything suspicious going on in his life, only hangs out with other family oriented men and is respectful of his wife in public and private, it's really unfair to say that he's a cheat "jus' cuz he ain't caught yet."
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