Alright lady...
I got pregnant at 19... I really really wasn't into the "unwed mom at home" scenario, So I planned to move out. I figured my mom knew I was up to something..Sat me down and explained that it sucks however, It's not about me anymore...And it was my job now to give this little person my absolute best.
I was advised to stay at home, I had crazy help raising my daughter...
However.
I was to find gainful employment
Finish college
...And essentially become super mommy
I know some may scoff and say I had it easy, whatever. Dealing with the family takes great strength and patience!!! So many times I wanted to "move out" but I knew that her quality of life wasn't possible on our own. I've grown so much in these years and my daughter has blossomed into a respectful amazing little girl. To sum it up...
Your mom/family may provide a WAY bigger support net than you and you DBF can do alone, they have raised babies and dealt with life's blows, they know how hard it is...at 20 my DD's dad had NO clue..even though he had the best intentions...My mom understood my tears of frustration and could help me constructively. Also mom and dad were working with a bit more money than I was so...that helps.
6 years later mama has her nursing degree..working on her masters...(I still live at home but we're happy here
) NO WAY I would've made it on my own...OR with my bf. Financial problems have a way of pigeon holing you in a rut..dead end jobs, money issues ect. ALL of my "own their own" peers (with babies) haven't finished school, had more kids..I'm guessing live in peen is tempting?, and are not really bettering themselves. *shrug*
Go to school raise that baby, and let grandma help as MUCH as she likes...For she is your "definite" and I'm sure you and DBF are in lurve but shacking up ain't the business from what I've seen.
BTW: Initally My mom was pissed too, and not only does my DD look just like her(old wives tale), they are inseparable and the she's best grandmother I could EVER ask for
ETA: I'm getting some self doubt here...If YOU aren't ready to be a live in mommy/GF then don't do it!!! Get mommy together, and get where your comfortable with yourself and what you bring to the table. Then go for the happily ever after. My biggest confidence is knowing that I can hold my own, whenever...however. You deserve that