ashleymichelle1
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This is gonna be a long post and I'm sorry about that. I'll try to make this as short as I possibly can.
Okay me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for over 2 years, dating almost 3. I love him very much and he loves me also. We are expecting a baby in December and we are really excited.
Theres a couple of problems tho. I am 20 years old, he is 21..were very young. He wants me to move in w/ him and idk if thats the best idea. Right now I am in school But I am not working due to a physical problem w/ my foot (filed for disability, got denied and I am now appealing w/ a lawyer). If we lived together we would be living on his income which isn't alot..he works in a warehouse. If I got my disability approved I would be comfortable w/ living with him but right now I just do not feel like we will make it on his income alone. I have taken this issue up w/ him and talked about it numerous times and he always says he makes plenty of money and we will be fine..& i'm just like . I really don't think he understands the amount of money we will need.
Also I am getting very stressed out. Some of my family is always bugging me and saying i'm making a bad decision if I move in w/ him. Last night someone in my family had a talk w/ me and said they were concerned..they said I deserve so much better & why would I wanna guy who isn't in school and only makes x amount of money, and I should leave him and basically find another man who can take better care of his family etc. My boyfriend was homeless last year at one point and was sleeping in his broke down car but then and he was allowed to stay with me for a little while. btw i live with my mother, she was reluctant at first but she allowed him to stay until he got back on his feet. So this family member was saying that too many bad things happen to my boyfriend and I need to stay away from him until he gets his life together and that I need someone who is in school and knows what they wanna do career wise. But to me personally he has gotten his life together because this time last year he was homeless and now he has a new job, apartment and just got a new car.
I truly love him and I want to be w/ him forever. I am worried about him not pursuing any career goals but I think he will get to that eventually. Am I being naiive? Is my family member right? I know me and him have alot of work cut out for us..we eventually wanna get married and build a life together. But right now i'm just so confused about everything. I think hes the right guy for me but others seem to think diffirently and idk what to think anymore. Are me and my boyfriend truly in over our heads w/ this whole situation? and now we have a baby to take care of. I know if I stay home my mother will make sure I have everything I need but my bf REALLY, REALLY wants me to move in w/ him. I just don't know what to do. & is my family member right about me needing to break things off w/ him? I just cant fathom breaking up with him all because hes not ballin and making good money especially when I don't have a job..
Ok idk if that made any sense at all. But any advice ladies?
eta- I'm not trying to put everything on him. I know i'm not bringing much to the table by not having a job right now but that is something i'm working on..i'm still healing from last last foot surgery I had at the end of July..I wish I had an income..this pregnancy was not planned and I wish I was more careful. I feel like I have to rely on everyone else for money (mom, dad, boyfriend) and its seriously SUCKS & i know things would be much better if I had a job. But now i'm in this jacked up situation & i'm trying to make the best of things.
Okay me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for over 2 years, dating almost 3. I love him very much and he loves me also. We are expecting a baby in December and we are really excited.
Theres a couple of problems tho. I am 20 years old, he is 21..were very young. He wants me to move in w/ him and idk if thats the best idea. Right now I am in school But I am not working due to a physical problem w/ my foot (filed for disability, got denied and I am now appealing w/ a lawyer). If we lived together we would be living on his income which isn't alot..he works in a warehouse. If I got my disability approved I would be comfortable w/ living with him but right now I just do not feel like we will make it on his income alone. I have taken this issue up w/ him and talked about it numerous times and he always says he makes plenty of money and we will be fine..& i'm just like . I really don't think he understands the amount of money we will need.
Also I am getting very stressed out. Some of my family is always bugging me and saying i'm making a bad decision if I move in w/ him. Last night someone in my family had a talk w/ me and said they were concerned..they said I deserve so much better & why would I wanna guy who isn't in school and only makes x amount of money, and I should leave him and basically find another man who can take better care of his family etc. My boyfriend was homeless last year at one point and was sleeping in his broke down car but then and he was allowed to stay with me for a little while. btw i live with my mother, she was reluctant at first but she allowed him to stay until he got back on his feet. So this family member was saying that too many bad things happen to my boyfriend and I need to stay away from him until he gets his life together and that I need someone who is in school and knows what they wanna do career wise. But to me personally he has gotten his life together because this time last year he was homeless and now he has a new job, apartment and just got a new car.
I truly love him and I want to be w/ him forever. I am worried about him not pursuing any career goals but I think he will get to that eventually. Am I being naiive? Is my family member right? I know me and him have alot of work cut out for us..we eventually wanna get married and build a life together. But right now i'm just so confused about everything. I think hes the right guy for me but others seem to think diffirently and idk what to think anymore. Are me and my boyfriend truly in over our heads w/ this whole situation? and now we have a baby to take care of. I know if I stay home my mother will make sure I have everything I need but my bf REALLY, REALLY wants me to move in w/ him. I just don't know what to do. & is my family member right about me needing to break things off w/ him? I just cant fathom breaking up with him all because hes not ballin and making good money especially when I don't have a job..
Ok idk if that made any sense at all. But any advice ladies?
eta- I'm not trying to put everything on him. I know i'm not bringing much to the table by not having a job right now but that is something i'm working on..i'm still healing from last last foot surgery I had at the end of July..I wish I had an income..this pregnancy was not planned and I wish I was more careful. I feel like I have to rely on everyone else for money (mom, dad, boyfriend) and its seriously SUCKS & i know things would be much better if I had a job. But now i'm in this jacked up situation & i'm trying to make the best of things.
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