kinkycotton
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My mother used to say this to me all the time. Let me explain how this is affecting my marriage.
My DH and I have been together for 12yrs married for 6yrs and have a 2 yr old son. He joined the Army and we've been to 3 duty stations and through 2 deployments. Some women in the military can't handle being alone for so long but I did fine. I had my moments but never had to find "company" because I was lonely. Solitude can be very comforting and you learn more about yourself in the processes.
During the first 4 yrs of marriage our one argument was his coming home at 6 am!!! like everything was all good. I had to explain to him over and over again we are married now and "college days" are over. I've always knew I was dating/married to a "backpacker" at heart. They put all forms of support into Hip-Hop and just love good music in general. I thought about why can't he just listen to his music at home. But if you know and love hip hop you know it's just not the same. I ask this because Italians do everything late. They eat at 9pm and the nightlight don't start till 12am. My DH is breaking his damn neck to get home before 330am which that time I'm cool with but I feel like I'm becoming the "wife clocker". He can't really enjoy himself because he's looking at the time every few mins and once the DJ starts up with the right music (at 230am) he has to leave. He's not complaining either. Everything is great between us in that area..but...
Should I change my thinking process on "if your man is out past 2am, he's up to now good"?
Now that I landed a job (finally!) I'm starting to understand his reasoning. Everyone has to have an outlet away from home. I'm more of a homebody and can watch movies all day.(Taurus if that matters) and my DH is the one who likes to get the party going, exciting, spontanous, (a LEO) but now that's all changing. Because of my controlling nature my DH is turning into a "yes man".
Is it me who needs to change?? I want to say so much more but I'm going to wait for ya response first. Please help
My DH and I have been together for 12yrs married for 6yrs and have a 2 yr old son. He joined the Army and we've been to 3 duty stations and through 2 deployments. Some women in the military can't handle being alone for so long but I did fine. I had my moments but never had to find "company" because I was lonely. Solitude can be very comforting and you learn more about yourself in the processes.
During the first 4 yrs of marriage our one argument was his coming home at 6 am!!! like everything was all good. I had to explain to him over and over again we are married now and "college days" are over. I've always knew I was dating/married to a "backpacker" at heart. They put all forms of support into Hip-Hop and just love good music in general. I thought about why can't he just listen to his music at home. But if you know and love hip hop you know it's just not the same. I ask this because Italians do everything late. They eat at 9pm and the nightlight don't start till 12am. My DH is breaking his damn neck to get home before 330am which that time I'm cool with but I feel like I'm becoming the "wife clocker". He can't really enjoy himself because he's looking at the time every few mins and once the DJ starts up with the right music (at 230am) he has to leave. He's not complaining either. Everything is great between us in that area..but...
Should I change my thinking process on "if your man is out past 2am, he's up to now good"?
Now that I landed a job (finally!) I'm starting to understand his reasoning. Everyone has to have an outlet away from home. I'm more of a homebody and can watch movies all day.(Taurus if that matters) and my DH is the one who likes to get the party going, exciting, spontanous, (a LEO) but now that's all changing. Because of my controlling nature my DH is turning into a "yes man".
Is it me who needs to change?? I want to say so much more but I'm going to wait for ya response first. Please help
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