If A Man Invites You On A Trip, Who Pays?

[**SaSSy**]

If a man tell you he's going a trip and wants you to accompany him, should he be paying for your expenses (flight, room and board, incidentals, ects.) or you should pay for your share? Let's say the dating/relationship is really new (less than three months).

 

[sj10460]

 

[Tolle]

Is this a for real question..

 

[greight]

If a man tell you he's going a trip and wants you to accompany him, should he be paying for your expenses (flight, room and board, incidentals, ects.) or you should pay for your share? Let's say the dating/relationship is really new (less than three months).

If he wants me there, he should pay for everything given how new the relationship is. I ain't rich.

 

[**SaSSy**]

Is this a for real question..

I'm serious as a heart attack

 

[nappi]

If a man tell you he's going a trip and wants you to accompany him, should he be paying for your expenses (flight, room and board, incidentals, ects.) or you should pay for your share? Let's say the dating/relationship is really new (less than three months).

he pays (obviously) for EVERYTHING

 

[KimPossibli]

he wants me to accompany him?

well I guess we'll see how much he wants me there...

 

[Ganjababy]

If he asks me there is no way I am paying for anything other than to make myself look gorgeous.

 

[LiftedUp]

Three months? I'm not sure if I'll go on a trip with a man I've only known for three months.

Anyway, from my experience, he pays for flight, room, most meals etc.

I've never been to a far off land like Thailand, South Africa etc. with a man. If that's the case, then he shouldn't invite me in the first place unless he can afford it and if we plan it together then I don't think it's unreasonable for both our money to be in the pot.

 

[Covagirlm]

He pays. I'll buy my hair and some bikini's.

 

[TCatt86]

He pays. Also make sure he gets you a separate room. If possible make the arrangements yourself, everything in your name, but just pay for itwith his money.

 

[vevster]

He pays. Also make sure he gets you a separate room. If possible make the arrangements yourself, everything in your name, but just pay for itwith his money.

If you are already sleeping together, is your own room necessary?

 

[TCatt86]

If you are already sleeping together, is your own room necessary?

In that case probably not. But it doesn't hurt to ask.

 

[vevster]

This guy I was dating wanted to go to Marthas Vinyard. When he started talking 50-50 I jammed the breaks.

 

[Browndilocks]

Would you let a man converse with you at a bar without first offering to buy you a drink? Your presence is not free.

It doesn't matter if you met him an hour ago. If he asks you to accompany him, he needs to pay.

 

[Everything Zen]

Chile- these independent ww lit my a** UP over my response (like 95%) to this very question based on that video where that white dude was taking about dating and saying men shouldn't pay all the time. They were over on FB consigning on that mess. SMH

 

[FemmeFatale]

He invited you, he pays for everything.

 

[TayMac]

He should pay if he invited you. Set the tone early on.

 

[NICOLETHENUMBERONE]

It's my principle that the man should pay if he is asking you out. He wants something from you and is seeking your presence, not the other way around which would mean he needs to do the legwork/costs.

 

[LaBelleLL]

I wouldn't go on a stay away trip with a man before three months.

 

[FelaShrine]

If a man tell you he's going a trip and wants you to accompany him, should he be paying for your expenses (flight, room and board, incidentals, ects.) or you should pay for your share? Let's say the dating/relationship is really new (less than three months).

You are supposed to answer with re"I dont have the money for that", his response SHOULD be "oh Im taking care of all of that"

There you go. Simple. No confusion.

 

[Cheekychica]

You are supposed to answer with re"I dont have the money for that", his response SHOULD be "oh Im taking care of all of that"

There you go. Simple. No confusion.

This is so smooth! Gonna keep this in mind.

 

[LunadeMiel]

he pays (obviously) for EVERYTHING

Right, why would I pay?

 

[nlamr2013]

I wouldn't go on a stay away trip with a man before three months.

Right. No one would be paying cause I don't know yo arse to be going on some overnight trip.

 

[nappi]

I wouldn't go on a stay away trip with a man before three months.

good for you

but that wasn't what she asked

why even bother posting

so many judgmental hoes up in here

 

[Honey Bee]

I don't even understand the question.

 

[Honey Bee]

good for you

but that wasn't what she asked

why even bother posting

so many judgmental hoes up in here

 

[LadyPBC]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

 

[LoveLiLi]

He pays for everything. Your flight, the room, the entertainment and meals on the trip as well as any other incidentals.

He can travel with one of his guy friends if he's looking to go 50/50. But you want my time and attention and expect me to chip in? No sir.

 

[FelaShrine]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

so? he can think or wish it all he wants. doesnt mean it has to happen. and if does happen. ok?

then again Im not of the mind set of feeling like I "owe" someone anything for doing something for me. If its thsat serious one can always say, I wouldnt mind following you, sure but I'd like my own room. if he agrees fine, if he doesnt, no trip. I mean, imma need women to stop the "I feel like I have to" nonsense. you either want to or you dont. your decision.