nappystorm
Well-Known Member
He shouts more than likely cause he is trying to be to you what every other adult woman wants and you are still acting like a child. You should move along, until you grow up because when you treat an adult like a child it becomes "abusive" thats not fair to you or him... just my opinion...
I think you act like a child because you think its acceptable to do things while drunk and not take another persons feelings into considerations. i think you act like a child because you cant appreciate the fact that a man wants to be "all up under you" - this is someone you are engaged to ... crazy... how else is he supposed to be... You are a child because you still value friendships with other men and you really beleive that men want to be "friends" with you hahahaha.... Im just saying... you told me all this... im not making it up... i sound real mean... but this is yours and another persons major life decision and it sounds like you need more time to play... aint nuthin wrong with it, go play... you are probably going to regret it----> MAYBE NOT.....
Look here, OP. It sound like you're in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship. Abusive is more than just hitting. The majority of the damage is psychological and emotional.
I was in one. I was yelled at, belittled, ridiculed, taunted, etc. He was extremely jealous and controlling. Not only that, he was really manipulative. It started small and escalated over time. He would play the nice loving boyfriend in public and treat me like crap when we were alone.
For example, one day he cursed me out, threatened to take my car if I didn't come with him and threatened to rape me when we got home. I pretended to get gas and went in the store and called the police. Understandable by the time they got there, I was hysterical. He made it seem he was the nice guy, I was a drama queen and we would "work it out".
I was just as broken, jaded, bitter, and depressed as a someone who is physically abused. He had me believing I was unworthy and that I somehow "deserved" that treatment. Not only that but I'm still working on trying to forgive myself for being in that situation and praying for forgiveness for hating and wishing sorrow on him.
You need to let this go. It's NOT okay for a man to control you or yell at you.