butter_pecan
Well-Known Member
Hey ladies! I've been nervous about doing this for a while because some people on here can be ... I'll just leave it at that.
FH and I have known each other almost 3 years, became official in May '09, were engaged xmas '09 (will explain in a sec), and have been living together for almost 2 years.
About FH: He's very loving, supportive and a great provider. He takes care of me and protects me from everything, and I don't have a want in the world. Since I got laid off, he's really stepped up to the plate and pays for everything just about. He's about to land a huge promotion and he's a hard-working black man who loves black women a lot. Basically from the outside, seems like an all-around great guy. He's soon to be 28.
About me: I'm 23 and have gone through a lot of things in my life and have been out of my parents house for a number of years. This and my last relationship were serious and long-term. My last relationship was 4 years.
Why there's no longer an engagement: I'm just not ready. FH comes off as being overbearing and possessive a lot and it's hard to deal with. He ALWAYS wants me around or wants to be up under me. He makes me take off work sometimes just to lie in bed with him on his off days. It's a bit suffocating. And I really can't have male friends (now, I only have 2). And he's a shouter. He's always yelling at me, and it makes me cry sometimes.
What happened Jan. 1, 2011: My girlfriend told him that I gave out my number to a guy on NYE as a joke and started laughing about it (I was really drunk and it meant nothing to me, really. Didn't even realize I did). He is really mad at me and may threaten to leave me. He's really upset about it.
The month we officially started dating: I slept with my ex. I wasn't over him, and told FH about him. But he kept saying that he was tired of waiting around, etc., so I quickly made things official. But I wasn't ready. I felt really bad for what I did.
Ladies, I don't know what to think right now.
FH and I have known each other almost 3 years, became official in May '09, were engaged xmas '09 (will explain in a sec), and have been living together for almost 2 years.
About FH: He's very loving, supportive and a great provider. He takes care of me and protects me from everything, and I don't have a want in the world. Since I got laid off, he's really stepped up to the plate and pays for everything just about. He's about to land a huge promotion and he's a hard-working black man who loves black women a lot. Basically from the outside, seems like an all-around great guy. He's soon to be 28.
About me: I'm 23 and have gone through a lot of things in my life and have been out of my parents house for a number of years. This and my last relationship were serious and long-term. My last relationship was 4 years.
Why there's no longer an engagement: I'm just not ready. FH comes off as being overbearing and possessive a lot and it's hard to deal with. He ALWAYS wants me around or wants to be up under me. He makes me take off work sometimes just to lie in bed with him on his off days. It's a bit suffocating. And I really can't have male friends (now, I only have 2). And he's a shouter. He's always yelling at me, and it makes me cry sometimes.
What happened Jan. 1, 2011: My girlfriend told him that I gave out my number to a guy on NYE as a joke and started laughing about it (I was really drunk and it meant nothing to me, really. Didn't even realize I did). He is really mad at me and may threaten to leave me. He's really upset about it.
The month we officially started dating: I slept with my ex. I wasn't over him, and told FH about him. But he kept saying that he was tired of waiting around, etc., so I quickly made things official. But I wasn't ready. I felt really bad for what I did.
Ladies, I don't know what to think right now.