Tolle
Team Fluid
I really hope im not alone in feeling this way. DH and I have been married less than a year and he will not let me breathe! It's strange because we were already living together as parents but this smothering didn't start until we got hitched.
I am a loner who loves my husband but NEEDS alone time. On more than one occasion, I have shared how this affects my mental health and he has promised to do better. He has some insecurities so I try to meet in the middle as much as I can but DAYUM!
I am on vacation (staycation)and he has ruined each day so far. I am so frustrated that I dont know what to do..
On Monday morning, I thought he left for work until I came out to take DS to school. He was doing yardwork and waiting to ride to school with us. He stayed with me the whole day while I ran errands.
On Tuesday, he left for work . I dropped DS off at school and headed to an appointment I had. As im waiting in the lobby, guess who walks in grinning from ear to ear...erplexed
He's telling me why he left early and blah blah blah. Again, he stayed with me the whole day.
Wednesday(today), I had my whole day planned, just me, my paintbrush, and Pandora. DH and I had already discussed him staying at work ALL DAY..
After dropping DS off at school, I came home cranked my music, poured a glass of wine and started cleaning and painting. At only 10:30 am, as im painting the kitchen,I hear him come in
He starts telling me how so and so pissed him off so he left early.. He has turned down my music, knocked over my wine, and repositioned my paint set up so that its "easier" for me.
ITS NOT EASIER FOR ME LIKE THIS FOOL!!!!!
So Im super aggravated and remind him how much I need my alone time. His response is a solem "I know" as he grabs a roller to help paint. At this point im stewing but trying to hide it. I tell him im making a home depot run, and of course he needs something and wants to go too.
Well I guess all of my anger came to a head and I went OFF. I only felt slightly bad when he asked if I wanted him to just die. Dramatic much..
I keep thinking what a shame it would be for a perfectly good marriage to end, all because the ***** won't give me my space.
Anyone else married to a smotherer? How do you deal!?!?
I am a loner who loves my husband but NEEDS alone time. On more than one occasion, I have shared how this affects my mental health and he has promised to do better. He has some insecurities so I try to meet in the middle as much as I can but DAYUM!
I am on vacation (staycation)and he has ruined each day so far. I am so frustrated that I dont know what to do..
On Monday morning, I thought he left for work until I came out to take DS to school. He was doing yardwork and waiting to ride to school with us. He stayed with me the whole day while I ran errands.
On Tuesday, he left for work . I dropped DS off at school and headed to an appointment I had. As im waiting in the lobby, guess who walks in grinning from ear to ear...erplexed
He's telling me why he left early and blah blah blah. Again, he stayed with me the whole day.
Wednesday(today), I had my whole day planned, just me, my paintbrush, and Pandora. DH and I had already discussed him staying at work ALL DAY..
After dropping DS off at school, I came home cranked my music, poured a glass of wine and started cleaning and painting. At only 10:30 am, as im painting the kitchen,I hear him come in
He starts telling me how so and so pissed him off so he left early.. He has turned down my music, knocked over my wine, and repositioned my paint set up so that its "easier" for me.
ITS NOT EASIER FOR ME LIKE THIS FOOL!!!!!
So Im super aggravated and remind him how much I need my alone time. His response is a solem "I know" as he grabs a roller to help paint. At this point im stewing but trying to hide it. I tell him im making a home depot run, and of course he needs something and wants to go too.
Well I guess all of my anger came to a head and I went OFF. I only felt slightly bad when he asked if I wanted him to just die. Dramatic much..
I keep thinking what a shame it would be for a perfectly good marriage to end, all because the ***** won't give me my space.
Anyone else married to a smotherer? How do you deal!?!?