PhoenixRose360
New Member
Well, I've been with my fiance(or ex now) for 5 1/2 yrs. But the last couple of years have been some hard ones because of some bad choices he's made that we worked through. In Jan 2009, we got engaged, but ever since we were constantly fighting, about his job, finances, and spending quality time. We went on vacation towards the end of June and we reconnected and even set a wedding date. But then we came back to NY and everything was back to the same mess.
He has a motorcycle(which he bought 2 yrs ago) and belongs to a motorcycle club. But when the motorcycle season is in full swing, which is from April - October approximately, he's gone. He has no time for us and I practically have to beg him to hang out. He thinks because we go out with other couple or to his motorocyle functions with the club, then we've spent "quality time." To which I explained that is not quality time, quality time is one on one and it could be anything from taking a walk in the park, beach, watching tv/movie or just sitting and talking. We've been having this discussion all week and last night was it. Once again I tried to tell him that I should be priority #1 not the bike or the club. You sleep next to me at night, not the bike or club, so what is the problem? He's like you want me to be home every night, which isn't true. I'm asking for you to make time for me, not saying you can't enjoy the bike and we can't hang out with other couples but how can you want me to marry you when you don't have time for me. He answered sarcastically, I got pissed, threw his bike keys at him and told him to GET THE F**K OUT!!
I went out with my BFF last night, had a blast, and some drinks, and I feel great. I FEEL FREE!!!!
He has a motorcycle(which he bought 2 yrs ago) and belongs to a motorcycle club. But when the motorcycle season is in full swing, which is from April - October approximately, he's gone. He has no time for us and I practically have to beg him to hang out. He thinks because we go out with other couple or to his motorocyle functions with the club, then we've spent "quality time." To which I explained that is not quality time, quality time is one on one and it could be anything from taking a walk in the park, beach, watching tv/movie or just sitting and talking. We've been having this discussion all week and last night was it. Once again I tried to tell him that I should be priority #1 not the bike or the club. You sleep next to me at night, not the bike or club, so what is the problem? He's like you want me to be home every night, which isn't true. I'm asking for you to make time for me, not saying you can't enjoy the bike and we can't hang out with other couples but how can you want me to marry you when you don't have time for me. He answered sarcastically, I got pissed, threw his bike keys at him and told him to GET THE F**K OUT!!
I went out with my BFF last night, had a blast, and some drinks, and I feel great. I FEEL FREE!!!!