lonelysky
Baby Chick Gate 2011
I just got off the phone with one of my aunts. She called me sometime last night and I missed her call. She left me a message that said that she wanted to talk to me. She sounded rather grave. I wondered what it could be about.
She called me again tonight and said that she wanted to talk to me because she had concerns about my hair...
I decided a few months ago to possibly start transitioning. I haven't had a relaxer since April.
Every time I see my family, they are always on me about how I need a 'perm'. Last weekend my mom visited me and told me that I 'needed to let her give me a perm'.
Anyway, my aunt called me tonight and offered to come down and spend the weekend with me and relax my hair. I thanked her for the offer, but said that I didn't plan on straightenign my hair any time in the future.
So here were her concerns:
*I have beautiful facial features and my hair can 'detract' from them.
*I want to look professional.
*I don't want people to think that I'm trying to be like 'back in the slave days' when people let their hair grow out nappy.
*If I let my hair grow out then I would have both relaxed and natural hair.
*If I grow it out natural, how would I wear it? In an...*gasp* AFRO?!?!?!
*I couln't possibly be able to manage my natural hair. I would have to use a HOTCOMB or a SOFT PERM to be able to manage it.
She called me again tonight and said that she wanted to talk to me because she had concerns about my hair...
I decided a few months ago to possibly start transitioning. I haven't had a relaxer since April.
Every time I see my family, they are always on me about how I need a 'perm'. Last weekend my mom visited me and told me that I 'needed to let her give me a perm'.
Anyway, my aunt called me tonight and offered to come down and spend the weekend with me and relax my hair. I thanked her for the offer, but said that I didn't plan on straightenign my hair any time in the future.
So here were her concerns:
*I have beautiful facial features and my hair can 'detract' from them.
*I want to look professional.
*I don't want people to think that I'm trying to be like 'back in the slave days' when people let their hair grow out nappy.
*If I let my hair grow out then I would have both relaxed and natural hair.
*If I grow it out natural, how would I wear it? In an...*gasp* AFRO?!?!?!
*I couln't possibly be able to manage my natural hair. I would have to use a HOTCOMB or a SOFT PERM to be able to manage it.