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I do what I want...
If you really don't like that guy and want to get with Serge, do it. Life is too damn short.
Are you kidding me? What?????? You know what you need to do. I'm sure if you show interest to Serge, he'll might follow through.
You need to leave Idris where he is and stop letting him put sand sand in your garri. People like Idris don't change ever. You need someone that will be with you through thick and thin. The moment thin start happening, people like Idris start finding solace in the arms of someone else, then rinse and repeat.
Abeg, let Idris be singing in the rain by his lonesome. This is the (maybe) future of our e-nieces and e-nephews we are fighting for here.
Loooool.
You're so right.
But I can't lie, I'm fearful of putting myself out there with him only for him to say no out of respect of his "big brother".
From what I know of men, 1 of 3 things can happen:
1) He can keep a relationship with me private until we are uber serious and then make it public - knowing it would cause a rift between he and Idris but sticking by my side and not caring
2) He can begin to date me but in reality only wanting to hit and quit. He would then use that as a justification to Idris of why he's pursuing me. That way, he'd keep his relationship with Idris in tact while temporarily dating me
3) He can flat out say no because he doesn't want to betray his cousin
He's a good guy (seemingly because we haven't seen each other in years). But honestly, I'm a little skeptical of him choosing Option 1.
It would/should be a smooth transition if he and his cousin don't have similar interests. It would be easy to keep from bumping into Idris if you and Serge were to hang out somewhere.
1. extension - and he could be the love of your life and you get married and have babies. pass him your number and just TALK without the chaperone.Loooool.
You're so right.
But I can't lie, I'm fearful of putting myself out there with him only for him to say no out of respect of his "big brother".
From what I know of men, 1 of 3 things can happen:
1) He can keep a relationship with me private until we are uber serious and then make it public - knowing it would cause a rift between he and Idris but sticking by my side and not caring
2) He can begin to date me but in reality only wanting to hit and quit. He would then use that as a justification to Idris of why he's pursuing me. That way, he'd keep his relationship with Idris in tact while temporarily dating me
3) He can flat out say no because he doesn't want to betray his cousin
He's a good guy (seemingly because we haven't seen each other in years). But honestly, I'm a little skeptical of him choosing Option 1.
I'd forget about both guys and focus on the other billions of men in the world. It's usually best to rule out close friends and relatives of love interests. After all, you don't really know much about the cousin since you've been out of contact for so long. They might be similar.
1. extension - and he could be the love of your life and you get married and have babies. pass him your number and just TALK without the chaperone.
Lol, girl!! Normal dating rules do not apply with these Yoruba demons. He'll stand in the rain and buy you Ferrari until he finishes his demon work.
Oh, he got jokes huhI just talked to him and was like why the hell you throwing rocks at my window...he was like, they weren't rocks. They were quarters since I know you respond to money
I like you!I told him we'll always be friends and I don't hate him but having constant interaction with me is a privilege and I can block whoever I want out of my life if they aren't giving me what I want.
That's all I'm saying...Naija family that would not go well..... Any other type of family I would say green light serge
My secret squirrel self would have to have one "amazing" night with serge and leave them both behind
Ultimately, we (all the younger people) went outside and the older folks were inside. While outside, Serge made his way to me and we began to chit chat for a hot sec until Idris came and stood close beside me. Serge kind of chilled then. Mind you, Serge is 3-4 years younger to Idris and looks to him as a big brother. When he told me that, I knew there was absolutely no chance to explore anything with him. That dynamic is bigger than an old crush. I know he wouldn't go there with me off of the strength of his cousin liking me alone.....but it was obvious we still liked each other.
you tryin get me kilt in these West African gossip streetz
Naija family that would not go well..... Any other type of family I would say green light serge
My secret squirrel self would have to have one "amazing" night with serge and leave them both behind
Loooool.
You're so right.
But I can't lie, I'm fearful of putting myself out there with him only for him to say no out of respect of his "big brother".
From what I know of men, 1 of 3 things can happen:
1) He can keep a relationship with me private until we are uber serious and then make it public - knowing it would cause a rift between he and Idris but sticking by my side and not caring
2) He can begin to date me but in reality only wanting to hit and quit. He would then use that as a justification to Idris of why he's pursuing me. That way, he'd keep his relationship with Idris in tact while temporarily dating me
3) He can flat out say no because he doesn't want to betray his cousin
He's a good guy (seemingly because we haven't seen each other in years). But honestly, I'm a little skeptical of him choosing Option 1.
And even if he dated you it says something about his character that he would choose to date someone a family member has already dated. Thus he should be ruled out regardless of the scenarios. Unfortunately he's a no go any way you look at it..I'd forget about both guys and focus on the other billions of men in the world. It's usually best to rule out close friends and relatives of love interests. After all, you don't really know much about the cousin since you've been out of contact for so long. They might be similar.
PoliceThe rocks stopped but he may be sitting in his car and I'm afraid to lookout and he see me....this is not cute anymore.
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