So what kind of answer he give about where the relationship going that was unsatisfactory? You know we hecka nosey up in here!!
Lawd, there's just so much to the back story. Lol. Here's a quick and dirty and I can fill in blanks later:
-we grew up together
-his family knows my family so much so that his cousins are best friends with my cousins
-he had a horrible reputation as a respectful heartbreaker: the type that cheated on you and you find yourself stupidly fighting the other girl and not him in the streets (true story)
-he's been pursuing me since I was 19 but I was verrrry green and could see he was trouble a mile away so I would dodge him at all costs
-now that we are older, we bumped into each other and he's been trying super hard to convince me that he's serious now and that stuff was in his youth and I'm the one for him
-his mother (who I knew) was sick and I was trying to be supportive for him by being available
-he was giving me big time attention everyday: coming to my job to take me to lunch, taking me to dinner, spending time together on the weekends...the works
-he was talking about future plans of him wanting to get married, have a child, all that jazz.....he got mad at me when I told him to stop trying to plant the thought of a future in my head while purposely not verbally committing to anything.....I'm not dumb and that's so from the 1995 Playa Handbook LOL
ANYWAY:
-his mother died
-the funeral was last week
-I attended and everyone was looking at me like "Oh, so JFK and Idris messing with each other?" He kept me close by his side the whole day but introduced me to the family I didn't know as "This is JFK"
-I was cool with it because we never discussed being in a committed relationship and it was partly because of my hesitancy of getting too close to him. But at the point, I honestly was feeling differently about him and felt foolish being by his side as his "woman" at the funeral but not really having anything established
SIDENOTE:
-While in the parking lot of the funeral home, he saw me pull up
-He was with his cousin and told him "this my girl, soon to be wife, I'm going to introduce you"
-He walks up to my car, opens the door, helps me out, and walk with me hand in hand towards another car
-he says, I want to introduce you to somebody "Serge, this is JFK"
-Serge looks at me and says "JFK Curry?"
-I look at Serge and say "Serge Ibaka?"
-We both look at each other in amazement, smiling
-Idris is standing there like "what's going on? Y'all know each other "
-his cousin says "yes, we went to elementary together and used to walk home from school together"
- he didn't tell him that we were schoolhouse crushes on each other though....omg!! We just stood and smiled and looked at each other like this is sooooo effed up!!!
- I'll continue that story later cause it got kinda juicy