twilight80
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My husband and I have been together for 11 years and married for 9. Over the past few years he has gained some weight but nothing bad or that has been an issue for me. The past couple of months has changed drastically in our relationship.
He is convinced that I am no longer attracted to him. He's analyzed that I only watch shows like Grey's Anatomy because there are people that take their shirts off and have sex scenes.
One day we were stopped at a light in the car and turned my head to look out the side window. There was a guy on the jogging path that was shirtless and I immediately turned my head back when I saw him. My husband is convinced that I did it on purpose and that I can't help looking at this sort of thing.
I told him that I did not have a problem with his weight and I could easily look at him without a shirt on. So this past week, he started taking his shirt off in front of me. (He has never did this in the 9 years we have been married) I thought everything was cool until yesterday when he starts telling me I was a lier. He said every time he took off his shirt I would turn away or close my eyes. I honestly have no memory of doing this... I had to be doing it unconsciously if I was.
TODAY HE TOLD ME THAT I WASN'T SPECIAL LIKE HE THOUGHT I WAS. HE SAID I AM JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER FEMALE.
I love my husband, we are awesome together. I never thought anything bad about him because of his weight. He is an attractive man, which he knows but is headstrong that I am not attracted to him anymore. I've done all I can to convince him that I am so I am out of ideas.
Anyone been in a situation like this or have some advice??
He is convinced that I am no longer attracted to him. He's analyzed that I only watch shows like Grey's Anatomy because there are people that take their shirts off and have sex scenes.
One day we were stopped at a light in the car and turned my head to look out the side window. There was a guy on the jogging path that was shirtless and I immediately turned my head back when I saw him. My husband is convinced that I did it on purpose and that I can't help looking at this sort of thing.
I told him that I did not have a problem with his weight and I could easily look at him without a shirt on. So this past week, he started taking his shirt off in front of me. (He has never did this in the 9 years we have been married) I thought everything was cool until yesterday when he starts telling me I was a lier. He said every time he took off his shirt I would turn away or close my eyes. I honestly have no memory of doing this... I had to be doing it unconsciously if I was.
TODAY HE TOLD ME THAT I WASN'T SPECIAL LIKE HE THOUGHT I WAS. HE SAID I AM JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER FEMALE.
I love my husband, we are awesome together. I never thought anything bad about him because of his weight. He is an attractive man, which he knows but is headstrong that I am not attracted to him anymore. I've done all I can to convince him that I am so I am out of ideas.
Anyone been in a situation like this or have some advice??