I am DONE!!!

Armyqt

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My hair journey is offically over ladies. I can't take this anymore. I am literally sitting here in tears about my hair and it's sooo stupid because there are so many other things to worry about. I refuse to let my hair be of this much significance to me anymore.

After 4 months of taking vitamins, keeping my hair up, eating well, doing all the right things I finally touched up today. For the life of me I cannot comprehend why after I had 4inches of newgrowth my hair is not even 1 inch longer than it was 4months ago. My ends can't be breaking, they're always up. I wear a bun and baggy everyday. I just looked at in the mirror yesterday and it's the same length as it is after relaxing. I quit. Finito, done. I can't take this anymore. it's too depressing. Thanks for all the advice and support I've gotten from everyone.
 
Are you sure sure sure it's not longer Aqt? Do you have any pics??????

I felt this way for months and my hair grew many many inches....I just didn't see them...

Don't give up yet....please....

You don't have to care so much if you feel it's becoming too important, but it's never a bad thing to take good care of yourself...
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Please don't give up.
 
I felt the same way. Everyone would tell me how my hair was growing and I just didn't see it. Well, now I know they were right. It is growing, slowing but surely. I think my hair looks thicker more than anything. I've seen pictures of your hair before and I'm sure it's growing. Post some new pics and let us be the judge.
Hang in there. (I did during my short transition)
 
wait armyqt dont go!!!
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come back.... maybe there isnt a major change in length due to trims or your hair growth slows down in the winter...i know you have a healthy head of hair over there
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i know that we all have different means of achieving our hair goals on the site, but this is kinda why i like sticking to more of a low key approach to achieving healthier long hair. If i used all this extra stuff my expectation level would be WAY high and i am sure i would be dissappointed, only because in my mind i would be thinking that after all the stuff i'm doing that i should be seeing more of a difference.(sigh) please dont let this discourage you, we're here for ya girl. jainygirl
 
Army, are you SURE it's not longer?? Did you trim it?? How could you have 4 inches of new growth and not see any growth progress after relaxing?? That's impossible, unless your ends were breaking!!! WTH??? Please take some pictures -- maybe it just doesn't appear to YOU to be longer... it HAS to be longer!!
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Don't give up, girl!!
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My hair journey is offically over ladies. I can't take this anymore. I am literally sitting here in tears about my hair and it's sooo stupid because there are so many other things to worry about. I refuse to let my hair be of this much significance to me anymore.

After 4 months of taking vitamins, keeping my hair up, eating well, doing all the right things I finally touched up today. For the life of me I cannot comprehend why after I had 4inches of newgrowth my hair is not even 1 inch longer than it was 4months ago. My ends can't be breaking, they're always up. I wear a bun and baggy everyday. I just looked at in the mirror yesterday and it's the same length as it is after relaxing. I quit. Finito, done. I can't take this anymore. it's too depressing. Thanks for all the advice and support I've gotten from everyone.

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Are you waiting too long to relax? I am 4b and tried that waiting thing and my hair was a mess. In addition, just because your ends are up doesn't mean they don't break.

I do everything opposite of what is recommended by others and my hair is thriving. Perhaps, you should try to find what YOUR hair likes and just stick with it even if it is the opposite of what others are telling you to do.

I hope you will stay on the OFF TOPIC board at least.
 
AQ please dont go!!! What will we do without you? Are you sure? Take a pic of the back right now...I know it has to be longer...please dont cry...
 
Ladies, thanks for the encouragement, but I can assure you my hair has not grown. I have my before album. I can assure you my hair is the exact same length as in December. here's a link to my album. I have to run out. Maybe I'll take a few pics when I get back for you all to see.

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you're hair is SO healthy in your pics
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you have to stay-- i mean your hair is so shiny and thick girl!!!! ya gotta stay on the hairboard, your hair looks too good not to stay
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-- jainygirl
 
Oh army...your hair is soooo beuatiful...I know you dont wanna hear that because you want to see more growth...but you have to know and trust that it is growing. I see from your pics that you have loose waves...for those of us w/ a tighter curl pattern, we see more length when we relax because of the huge difference ....but your natural hair is pretty straight anyway so perhaps you see less of a difference...make sense?

Just trying to help...chin up friend....
 
Your hair looks beautiful to me; I don't see a problem. My hair gets denser and fuller as it grows. Your hair is likely doing the same; the length will show but to me it is beautiful. I thought your hair was short.

Seems like you are doing a good job
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Girl, your hair looks GREAT!!
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Did your relaxer "take"??? Maybe your new growth didn't straighten all the way, and that's why you aren't seeing the growth???
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Armyqt,
Your hair looks AMAZING! I mean that, it looks healthy and to me it looks like you have made progress.
Maybe you should do like Tracy recommended, and take recent pictures, and you will be able to tell better for yourself.
 
Army - is it possible that you may have mis-measured your new growth? Anyways, I think your hair looks great! Keep up with your regimen and I think you'll start noticing results.
 
Your hair is so pretty and healthly. I wish my hair was that long and healthy. Sometimes, I don't know why, but right after my touch up my hair doesn't look longer until the next few days. Keep up with what you are doing. The summer is coming and hair grows much faster. You will see a big different.
 
Oh no u are not going to quit on me.
Heck no, u aint quitting on me.
I am about to PM u with a reality check.
 
Your hair is gorgeous armyqt! I am not even half way to where you are! Don't give up just yet. I didn't really see my growth until other people noticed it. don't throw in the towel just yet. I'm sure that most boardies have been at this point at one time or another.
 
Girrrrl! You have really beautiful hair. Don't quit now. And as I'm looking through your photos, your hair texture looks a lot like mine. I could use any info you have to share.
 
Don't stop trying. I KNOW how you feel. I went to a haircare specialist today and she told me something I did NOT want to hear. But I knew she was right. Basically, all the hard work I have put forth over the last few months have been chopped off. But I have to keep my spirits up and rely on the possibility of this hair cut starting me off in the right direction. I'm a little down right now but I feel like I'm off to a positive start.
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Just went through your gallery, you and your hair are both BEAUTIFUL!! I could only wish that my hair was half as thick and healthy as yours. I really understand how frustrating it can be when there doesn't seem to be any progress.
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But I really hope you don't give up. When you take the pictures, I bet you'll see you're growth.
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Armyqt:

What works for one, may not work for you. Just think back to a time when your hair was really thriving. What products were you using? What was your hair regimen? You may want to return to doing the same things you did back then.
This is just my personal opinion, but I think going too long between relaxers can be very damaging to the hair. The bun and baggie thing---I'm not sold on that technique. Perhaps every now and then but everyday???
Also, keep in mind that hair tends to growth in cycles. For me winter seems to be the slowest due to the dry air, and in the summer it seems to grow quickly due to all of the humidity in the air.
One last thing to consider, are you taking any medications? Or do you have any serious illness like Graves disease? Thyroid problems usually lead to hair loss.

Just a few things to keep in mind.

I just cut off a lot of hair due to excessive breakage from my beautiful highlights. My hair was breaking off and no amount of protein treatments, conditioners, oils, etc.... helped. My hair is in layers now with the longest length in the very back. I have to start all over growing my hair to my goal which is bra-strap, all one length. And even though I hated to see my length go, I'm happier now because my hair looks soooo much better; I no longer have thin breaking ends. Why have long, thin, scraggly hair?

I hope this helps. Good luck!
 
Armyqt - I was feeling sad for you until I looked at your hair progress... girl your hair is the bomb! And look at difference in length between now and last month! I know I'm not in your shoes but I would be rejoicing over having such a beautiful, ultra long, fast-growing mane. In my opinion, the 4 months of taking vitamins, keeping your hair up, eating well and doing all the right things have really paid off. Please don't leave - I would miss you and your great hair care advice!
 
Excuse me but have we been drinkn'
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?...I just went thru your album and I compared your 3/04 & 2/04 photos.And even with the mini trims you have added length. Please re- review your photos.
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OK, actually that is an order..Go and re-review your photos oh, and look into investing in some eyes glasses too(LOL)

PS...Keep up the good work, dont' be so hard on yourself u r doing a TERRIFIC JOB
 
Yall are making want to cry even more. I sooo love this board but I'm so sorry. Looking at my pictures just depresses me. I feel like a failure. I mean if you look at my hair a year ago , it's at the same length it is today. I just don't think I can do this anynmore. Believe me, I'm not trying to be dramatic or anything. I'm just sad right now. My hopes were really high. This seems so stupid as I'm typing, yet I can't help how I feel. I'm literally having a meltdown over this. Failure and quitting is not in ny vocab. However, there is no logical explanation for why my hair hasn't showed the progress. If I can't idenitfy the problem, how can I fix it? OK, I'm in tears again. I just need to take a break from this whole hair thing and focus on something else.

Now I just need to figure out what the hell I'm gonna do at work all day
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. I gotta laugh to keep from crying. Y'all are the best
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Armyqt, I have never seen your pics before, and when I was reading your post I was starting to get really depressed. I thought, oh no , if it can happen to someone else it could happen to me too. THEN I saw your pics. Geez, if my hair could even get half as long as yours I would be so happy! Your hair is gorgeous and you are too. I know how you feel, I get depressed about my hair too, it's so frustrating sometimes. But I keep telling myself that it takes time, and hair grows at different rates each month. 4 months is too soon to give up. I say give it a year at least and then see how much progress you've made. Don't give up yet!!
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<font color="purple"> Hi Armyqt!
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Your hair is beautiful, and you are on your way to even more length. Maybe you just expected to see a drastic difference, and that is hindering you from seeing the progress that you DID make.
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Hopefully, you will continue to nurture it, and that, coupled with patience, will award you even more than it already has.

All of the care and love that you have been giving your hair should be second nature to you by now. So, if you want to lessen the focus on your hair, and concentrate on something else for a while, then I think that is what is best for you right now. BUT, still take care of your hair as you have been. Because it is obvious that you know how to care for your hair, yet a watched pot never boils. When you stop watching it, then look again after a while, you see the progress.
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I love your pictures! I DO see the progress. And continue to keep in touch! (Your PM's are so sweet).
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